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Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Maamin(m): 5:55am On Nov 05, 2015
Guys looking to meet women often ask the question, “Do looks matter?” Well, to put it nicely, no!
They don’t matter much, if at all, for women. How many times have you seen a very attractive woman — I mean, like, super attractive — walking down the street, hand-in-hand with a short, overweight and balding man? I’ll give you a hint: more times than you can count!
Not to say looks won’t help a bit — they will, but only for a brief moment. Looks can give you a slight boost in getting a woman’s “attention,” and that’s about it.
After you start talking to a woman, she won’t care one iota about how chiseled your face is or how big your biceps are.
But, I thought all women like nice, chiseled faces and big, muscular arms? Well, fortunately for us men, they don’t!
Here are three reasons why:

1. Women are Biologically More Attracted to Social Status


I’m not talking about social status as in fancy cars or gigantic Hollywood mansions. What I mean by social status is social intelligence. Women are innately attracted to men who are socially skilled.
Guys who can make women laugh, act confidently around them and communicate effectively with them are the men who have high social status.
Men who possess these traits turn on the attraction switches within the minds of women. These switches have been wired since the beginning of time.
I’m talking about when our ancestors were banging rocks and rubbing sticks together, lived in tribes and relied on each other to survive.
The men who were most socially adept were considered the alpha males of these groups and were often given the best of everything the tribe had to offer.
They were given the best food, water, shelter and other resources and, therefore, had the best health — something that was incredibly important to a woman looking for a mate.
You see, it wasn’t the most physically dominant or best-looking men who led these groups, but rather, the most socially savvy. We evolved into the most intelligent animals on the planet because of our spoken word and communication.
We conversed, exchanged ideas and prospered as a species because of our incredibly high-regard for interpersonal communication.
Without this, we would not have come so far. (We’d probably still be rubbing sticks together, instead of turning up the heat in our comfortable homes.)
With that said, women are naturally endeared to men who possess this quality. The men who have the highest social status, or social game, are the most attractive of all!

2. Men Can Manipulate Their Level of Attractiveness

Knowing women are primarily attracted to characteristics like leadership, confidence, humor, social aptitude and other favorable traits is a great thing for guys. This means we can change our level of attractiveness to women by working on and improving these skills.
If attraction was based solely on looks, a lot of us would be screwed!
Thankfully, it’s not, however, and we have a way of increasing our level of it. By working on our personalities and working on the aforementioned quality traits, we can become more desirable in the eyes of more women.

3. Looks Are Not Permanent

Despite what you may believe, your looks are not permanent. Your mind, heart and soul may be, but your looks are not! They change every day.
We age as each second passes, and our looks alter slightly with each fleeting moment. Not only that, but we can and constantly do alter our appearance, whether through changing our hairstyle, clothing, physique or something else.
Women intuitively know this. They know that when they meet a guy, he is not going to look the same years down the road. He may lose his hair, gain a belly or just grow old, like all of us do.
They realize this because these same things will happen to them in some capacity. Therefore, women don’t put as much emphasis into the way a guy looks when she meets him.
Men who have the best personalities often attract the most women. They have the confidence, leadership, social skills and charisma to be that quintessential “alpha male” that women desire.
Don’t focus on trying to make yourself physically attractive; instead, focus on building your personality. Do this, and the rest will follow. And, by the rest, I mean women!
Women will desire your personality above all else, so work on crafting a good one.

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Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Bugatie(m): 5:58am On Nov 05, 2015
No 4.-They are naturally attracted to wealth and affluence

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Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by osamaBUSH(m): 6:10am On Nov 05, 2015
5. They have hidden agendas.

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Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Nobody: 6:28am On Nov 05, 2015
Truth
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by rawpadgin(m): 6:39am On Nov 05, 2015
YourMain:
Truth
ie!
women care about 2 things

looks & financial status

btw. u look like a certain ghanian actress

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Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Nobody: 7:06am On Nov 05, 2015
Ur write up is true!!!

But failing to add wealth and financial security ; makes ur write up very void and missing a key substance!!! I'll advocate u include it.

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Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Dahveydson(m): 7:12am On Nov 05, 2015
It's all about the money money money!!

Who attractive help?

If you like look like trey songz plus usher, without money, you're a monkey to them girls.

But look like Jay Z plus OBJ but have money, then you're a god.

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Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Nobody: 7:13am On Nov 05, 2015
I seeee
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by SwaGUnLimiTeD(m): 7:17am On Nov 05, 2015
AS FAR AS MONEY(TRUCK LOAD OF IT) IS NOT ON THE LIST IT AIN'T TRUE wink
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by tunapawizzy: 7:18am On Nov 05, 2015
Because money is the key
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Maamin(m): 7:54am On Nov 05, 2015
Hahahahahaha....guys are just yelling Money! Money!! Money!!!

Oh! Come on, I as a chronic Romancelander critic know that, but I decided not to include it in the Op originally written by a friend though! just to see if NLers can picture our ladies from another perspective that does not have to deal with being Financially buoyant in other to be attractive to them grin

Ladies come and prove the guys wrong na! embarassed
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by naijaboiy: 8:08am On Nov 05, 2015
It's only those who are not really good looking that will say Looks don't matter.

If you are good looking you'll know how it has helped you a lot and given you an edge over your average looking friends to get girls.

So I disagree with the Op. undecided

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Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by BALLOSKI: 8:14am On Nov 05, 2015
Money
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by czarr(m): 8:46am On Nov 05, 2015
naijaboiy:
It's only those who are not really good looking that will say Looks don't matter.

If you are good looking you'll know how it has helped you a lot and given you an edge over your average looking friends to get girls.

So I disagree with the Op. undecided
true grin
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by czarr(m): 8:47am On Nov 05, 2015
Good looks is social status grin
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Nobody: 8:53am On Nov 05, 2015
Well ,,slightly true and slightly wrong undecided...
Looks has helped me in more ways than i can count.
Money still rules sha! wink
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Nobody: 8:59am On Nov 05, 2015
You've been lied to.
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Nobody: 10:01am On Nov 05, 2015
Iyanya Remix
Shawty say she come for the money ooooo and not for the body ooooooooo, money oooooooo
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by fr3do(m): 10:23am On Nov 05, 2015
I don't care
I'm eligible all round cool
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Maamin(m): 10:46am On Nov 05, 2015
naijaboiy:
It's only those who are not really good looking that will say Looks don't matter.

If you are good looking you'll know how it has helped you a lot and given you an edge over your average looking friends to get girls.

So I disagree with the Op. undecided

If it's about good looks then how do you explain Jay z and Bey, Kanye and Kim, Adams and his new wife..and so many beauty and the beast kind of love...i once read in a magazine where Kim confesses that "she was attracted to Kanye for his fame and believed it will boost her already dying spot light." what am trying to say is that your social status also matter a great deal to some ladies.

But is not like am totally against good looks or something! I just want us to picture this from another perspective, other than the usual anomaly of "Money gets the girls"
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Maamin(m): 10:47am On Nov 05, 2015
fr3do:
I don't care
I'm eligible all round cool

Abii O!
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Maamin(m): 10:56am On Nov 05, 2015
EnlightenedSoul:
You've been lied to.

By who? kiss
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Maamin(m): 10:57am On Nov 05, 2015
KiidaACE:
Well ,,slightly true and slightly wrong undecided...
Looks has helped me in more ways than i can count.
Money still rules sha! wink

Picture or widonbilivit grin
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Maamin(m): 11:01am On Nov 05, 2015
czarr:
Good looks is social status grin

No! Physical aesthetics grin

Plus it highly varies depending on who is beholding it cool
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Maamin(m): 11:02am On Nov 05, 2015
SwaGUnLimiTeD:
AS FAR AS MONEY(TRUCK LOAD OF IT) IS NOT ON THE LIST IT AIN'T TRUE wink

Lol! Is on the list but I personally didn't include it grin
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Maamin(m): 11:05am On Nov 05, 2015
Dahveydson:
It's all about the money money money!!

Who attractive help?

If you like look like trey songz plus usher, without money, you're a monkey to them girls.

But look like Jay Z plus OBJ but have money, then you're a god.

grin grin
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Maamin(m): 11:07am On Nov 05, 2015
YourMain:
Truth

Sup sweetie! Is been a while I saw you in Religion section.

Or you are now a Romancelander? grin
Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by naijaboiy: 11:14am On Nov 05, 2015
Maamin:


If it's about good looks then how do you explain Jay z and Bey, Kanye and Kim, Adams and his new wife..and so many beauty and the beast kind of love...i once read in a magazine where Kim confesses that "she was attracted to Kanye for his fame and believed it will boost her already dying spot light." what am trying to say is that your social status also matter a great deal to some ladies.

But is not like am totally against good looks or something! I just want us to picture this from another perspective, other than the usual anomaly of "Money gets the girls"

Yea,the kanye wests and the Jay-z's. I've heard those stories many times.

What you should have said is that good looks is not just enough to attract a woman. Because even guys that have good looks are not dumb,they also know they have to hustle.

Now imagine when a lady has to choose between two men who are both very famous and rich but one is more good looking than the other,with whom do you think she'll pitch her tent?

Having good looks is a bonus and an enviable one at that.

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Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Maamin(m): 11:48am On Nov 05, 2015
naijaboiy:

Yea,the kanye wests and the Jay-z's. I've heard those stories many times.

What you should have said is that good looks is not just enough to attract a woman. Because even guys that have good looks are not dumb,they also know they have to hustle.

[color=#000000][b]Now imagine when a lady has to choose between two men who are both very famous and rich but one is more good looking than the other,with whom do you think she'll pitch her tent
?

Having good looks is a bonus and an enviable one at that.

At your question she will surely choose the very famous, Rich and good looking guy (all things being equal) is just an added advantage. But you know life is never perfect and complete for each individual because everyone has His/Her own flaws and set backs.

That is why I said here:

Maamin:

No! Physical aesthetics grin
Plus it highly varies depending on who is beholding it cool

My own Fine girl fit be your ugly girl..ur own fine boy fit be my ugly boy. Its just like that sha!

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Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Nobody: 11:57am On Nov 05, 2015
rawpadgin:
ie!
women care about 2 things

looks & financial status

btw. u look like a certain ghanian actress

Ehm. No. What's in your mind. Honestly, looks don't matter that much. Only creates a initial attraction.

Oh really ? Whom ?

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Re: Must Read: 3 Reasons Why Women Don’t Really Care About How Attractive A Guy Is by Nobody: 11:59am On Nov 05, 2015
Maamin:


Sup sweetie! Is been a while I saw you in Religion section.

Or you are now a Romancelander? grin

Lol no oo. I just like to explore at times. I just feel like I can't contribute to a lot of things on NL but romance is usually universal...

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