Its tough my dear going2ru such.U have2 stay strong 4ur kids cos they look up2 u.Try2 4give him & work things out!!!

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thank u all for ur comments. I appreciate.
but u all keep telling me to go for a test n pimpchi telling me to fu*k him well.... This happened on wed or Thursday I don't know, then on Friday night he had the got n effontry to ask for se$. If u see d luv making ehn it was hot so f**kin him well is not a problem. But never the less I will still go for a test

I hv passed that stage in my xtian life where I will want to seek for retaliation. I will never do that. I hv forgiven him but can never forget n don't know if I can carry on with this marriage. If I divorce him then I will never get married again but to focus on my children n give them the best I can. I have been on suicidal mood since today....I need help pls... Pls does any one know of a counsellor or therapy I can get here in warri....

ifyalways:
Sorry madam.

Do whatever you have to do to heal!

Op this!!whatever that makes you heal, whatever......

STD alert! If you keep forgiving and forgetting, he will not change, give him some space via separation, let him decide between you and the Ashewos, enough said.

I can imagine the hurt and someone said she should act as if nothing happened, I hope you can take your own advice if it happens to you.

He blackmails you with fake tears and the circle continues. You caught him right on time, he could have retraced his steps but he chose not to. He has no conscience, the moment you acknowledge that, you will find a decisive way to treat his kind.

byvan03:
He blackmails you with fake tears and the circle continues. You caught him right on time, he could have retraced his steps but he chose not to. He has no conscience, the moment you acknowledge that, you will find a decisive way to treat his kind.

byvan, na your face be this?

Arghhh!!! What kind of a "husband" is this? Someone said this was premeditated. I agree 100%. How can he ask for forgiveness when he planned it to execution? I don't normally like to get involved in people's marriages o but sista, this one is not a husband abeg. He's sick. Really sick. He has no regard for you or the children that people are advising you to stay because of. He values his fantasies above real life. If you can, take time off. You need to reevaluate yourself and your worth. You can take kids with you or with ur mum, sister, MIL or SIL. If you can work things out later after some counselling, all the best. But you need to establish what you will tolerate or not. The moment you appear to be so accepting and forgiving of premeditated cheating, you can't complain again. Take heart and be strong for yourself.

Pidggin:
STD alert! If you keep forgiving and forgetting, he will not change, give him some space via separation, let him decide between you and the Ashewos, enough said.

Well said.

Sometimes a woman needs to determine her self worth and not let a man turn her to a doormat.

coogar:


byvan, na your face be this?

Nah my fingers , how are you cat?

What do you mean by you saw his BBM chat?

Well, I recommend this to your husband. He should read this and improve his skills.
https://www.nairaland.com/2721564/cardinal-rules-follow-must-cheat#39798483

coogar:


in my college, it was called the ultimate bucket list(about a dozen tasks of nonsense) but the ones that stood out were....

•mile high club(still pursuing)

•parasailing
•skydiving
•bungee-jumping
•snorkelling/scuba-diving
•ménage à trois(blood sisters)
•ménage à trois(with bosom friends)

i can't remember the rest.....

Lol!!! See thief list! Ran through your '6th' and '7th' Tasks a while back in uni and finally achieved task '1' sometime last year! Ebeles govt. was nice for some of us I guess! Extremes sports are a no no for me!

Cool list tho! By the way what's your wifes take on your attempts @ 6th and 7th? Lmfao!!!

Brandnew2:
lol!


To be honest, we all have this wild fantasies which Is mostly appropriate to discuss with ones partner.

It would have been different if he opened up to you about this rather than you finding out yourself.

Opened up as in asking her to join the thre3s0me

5minsmadness:


Opened up as in asking her to join the thre3s0me

No.
I mean him just speaking about his fantasies without causing a rift between them.

funlord:


Lol!!! See thief list! Ran through your '6th' and '7th' Tasks a while back in uni and finally achieved task '1' sometime last year! Ebeles govt. was nice for some of us I guess! Extremes sports are a no no for me!

Cool list tho! By the way what's your wifes take on your attempts @ 6th and 7th? Lmfao!!!

once you achieve task one, the general consensus is that the rest of the list is irrelevant. task one is the most difficult in the ultimate bucket list.

byvan03:

Nah my fingers , how are you cat?

i'm fine......
long time no see.

Pls stay with him. When he gets a disease and treats himself in private, you may likely die and leave those three kids that has kept you in the house of a wicked man.

Harsh right? You will learn, don't worry, stay with your cheating husband and continue to pray.

coogar:


once you achieve task one, the general consensus is that the rest of the list is irrelevant. task one is the most difficult in the ultimate bucket list.



i'm fine......
long time no see.

Have been around, got sick of the regular tales of woes here.

byvan03:

Have been around, got sick of the regular tales of woes here.

thank heavens - the tales of woes are reducing. meanwhile, how's our friend?

coogar:


thank heavens - the tales of woes are reducing. meanwhile, how's our friend?

Very healthy .

Brandnew2:

No.
I mean him just speaking about his fantasies without causing a rift between them.

And how would that have worked?

Well, she should forgive if she can. Men are always getting into trouble sexually. She may not love him now cos she is hurting badly but maybe he can prove himself and his love to her again over time.

Op, you should have left, then allowed him to beg you for days.. that way, he'll see you're serious. ..
He's just blackmailing you emotionally with tears and stuffs!

His case isn't a mistake at all, he planned and executed it...

I really wish you the best, do whatever you can to feel better. ...

Brandnew2:


Part of the reason a guy should explore before finally settling down. Part of the reason I'm not yet married lol!

I don't know if the same goes for the ladies but your ascertions are correct.

I care for people from different walks of life , too much sex during early Adulthood is no good

Go and settle down bro. Enough is enough

Ewuro4:


I care for people from different walks of life , too much sex during early Adulthood is no good

Go and settle down bro. Enough is enough

I've indeed done enough so will you marry me?

Ewuro4:


I care for people from different walks of life , too much sex during early Adulthood is no good

Go and settle down bro. Enough is enough

how much is too much?

curtains:
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thank u all for ur comments. I appreciate.
but u all keep telling me to go for a test n pimpchi telling me to fu*k him well.... This happened on wed or Thursday I don't know, then on Friday night he had the got n effontry to ask for se$. [size=18pt]If u see d luv making ehn it was hot[/size] so f**kin him well is not a problem. But never the less I will still go for a test

I hv passed that stage in my xtian life where I will want to seek for retaliation. I will never do that. I hv forgiven him but can never forget n don't know if I can carry on with this marriage. If I divorce him then I will never get married again but to focus on my children n give them the best I can. I have been on suicidal mood since today....I need help pls... Pls does any one know of a counsellor or therapy I can get here in warri....

@bolded hmmmm someone reaping the benefits...

Pls dear don't commit suicide. Over what? Abi u no be confam wafi babe? Na dis kain tin wan make u menstruate? Kpatakpata u leave the house for a while to clear your head. Men are silly like this sometimes. Take it easy, ok?

All the good psychologists I know have left warri else I would have referred u to the psychiatrist at Central warri. Very good relationship counselor. Also Dr Slater would have helped too but he has left the place.

Dunno if u r interested in seeing a priest.

curtains:
cutehector pimpchi emmydeep babythug godngold ladyfiona sambarry goldenruby drteeee thorpido cnn80 tired face ujoan brandnew2 coogar onegai chaulay1 ifyalways queenfav

thank u all for ur comments. I appreciate.
but u all keep telling me to go for a test n pimpchi telling me to fu*k him well.... This happened on wed or Thursday I don't know, then on Friday night he had the got n effontry to ask for se$. If u see d luv making ehn it was hot so f**kin him well is not a problem. But never the less I will still go for a test

I hv passed that stage in my xtian life where I will want to seek for retaliation. I will never do that. I hv forgiven him but can never forget n don't know if I can carry on with this marriage. If I divorce him then I will never get married again but to focus on my children n give them the best I can. I have been on suicidal mood since today....I need help pls... Pls does any one know of a counsellor or therapy I can get here in warri....

Awww, just so you know, dem not dey carry bitterness into heaven. If you have to forgive, you will have to forget.

coogar:


how much is too much?

Every day.

Im talking about constantly sowing wild oats during early adulthood (College). Best to save it for married life. No Viagra until @60.

Brandnew2:

I've indeed done enough so will you marry me?

Nah . off the shelve tete.

I'm praying for you though... Coogar who do we have available on NL? Haven't seen any engagement thread in a while , maybe it's Brandnew's turn

Ewuro4:

Every day.

Im talking about constantly sowing wild oats during early adulthood (College). Best to save it for married life. No Viagra until @60.

frequent sex prevents prostate cancer.

Nah . off the shelve tete.

I'm praying for you though... Coogar who do we have available on NL? Haven't seen any engagement thread in a while , maybe it's Brandnew's turn

tpia

Ewuro4:

No Viagra until @60.
Nah . off the shelve tete.
I'm praying for you though... Coogar who do we have available on NL? Haven't seen any engagement thread in a while , maybe it's Brandnew's turn

The fact that I'll have to sleep with the same person for the rest of my life scares me.
Damn, my wife has to be super sexy and hot.

coogar:


frequent sex prevents prostate cancer.

Funnily, cancer physicals /tests don't commence until 40th birthday which is most likely during your married life. So?

tpia

God forbid bad thing.

Brandnew2:


The fact that I'll have to sleep with the same person for the rest of my life scares me.
Damn, my wife has to be super sexy and hot.

I know, sounds terrifying.

Marry your type.

Explore.

Ewuro4:


I know, sounds terrifying.

Marry your type.

Explore.

That's the problem. It's quite difficult to get my type. Naija girls too dey form.