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Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by adeniyia33(m): 12:50pm On Nov 19, 2015
Hi All,
I wish to request your advice for a friend who narrated his ordeal to me yesterday in relation to his relationship with a female friend.
Here is the story according to him:

He is married with kids and was not satisfied with his wife who he complained to me severally would always put up quarrels some resolved while some went unresolved.

In the context, he met another young lady whom he felt needed help as the lady came from a poor background and could not move on with life (though he told me the lady was a mother of 2 but a single mother). Both of them agreed to start a relationship while my friend started spending heavily on the lady, got her into the University (Uniben precisely) and both were happily moving on while the guy still manage his home. He also took responsibility of 1 from the 2 kids in terms of education and welfare. Things went on fine..

As u will agree with me, time is the best factor to test anything on earth. Suddenly the young man had issues in his office (Bank) where he works and he was asked to stay at home until the management would conclude their investigation on the issue. Aoch u said? This led him to having financial difficulties and could not spend heavily on the woman as he used to do.

The young woman now on 300Level one day invited my friend to her house for lunch which he honoured in good faith. She requested a sum of N15,000 as my friend got to depart her house, but he pleaded with her to understand the situation that he could only afford N4,000. This was not okay with the lady in question who threw off the handle and started calling my friend names and even didnt tell him thank you for the 4k he offered her.

The point is this,my friend asked my to advise him on how best he can call it quit with the woman without conflicts as he doesnt want his wife in the movie.

Please advise my friend on how best he can handle this situation....

I had told him too to sign up on Nairaland in order for him to read directly from you guys in the house.
Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by Highcuerayte: 12:56pm On Nov 19, 2015
I have nothing to say than
.End time family

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by adeniyia33(m): 12:58pm On Nov 19, 2015
Is that all u would say....

Highcuerayte:
I have nothing to say than

.End time family
Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by Highcuerayte: 1:00pm On Nov 19, 2015
adeniyia33:
Is that all u would say....
Plus this
Cc: Lalasticlala
Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by Moiking(m): 1:01pm On Nov 19, 2015
undecided

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by PLANETMARS(m): 1:03pm On Nov 19, 2015
To fix it u wud need.........................
Two screw driver, one spanner and a plier

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by Nobody: 1:04pm On Nov 19, 2015
He should end it d way he started, perhap wen he ws enjoying it, he didnt us, so is wen problems start dt dey will cum 2 tell us. By d way, do u tink d wife will nt later knw, cos deir relationship is based on moni
Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by Nobody: 1:18pm On Nov 19, 2015
Ur friend is in a deep sh!t.. how long they been together? Does this lady knows he got his own family?
This situation is too complicated..if he want to dump this lady,he must talk to this lady in person & he shud stop seeing her and change his number..

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by adeniyia33(m): 1:26pm On Nov 19, 2015
Ok, he too is reading along

Oma307:
He should end it d way he started, perhap wen he ws enjoying it, he didnt us, so is wen problems start dt dey will cum 2 tell us. By d way, do u tink d wife will nt later knw, cos deir relationship is based on moni
Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by adeniyia33(m): 1:27pm On Nov 19, 2015
Thanks for this piece. He is also reading this as we post

KashyBaby:
Ur friend is in a deep sh!t.. how long they been together? Does this lady knows he got his own family?
This situation is too complicated..if he want to dump this lady,he must talk to this lady in person & he shud stop seeing her and change his number..
Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by adeniyia33(m): 1:28pm On Nov 19, 2015
Dumping her u said?

Oma307:
He should end it d way he started, perhap wen he ws enjoying it, he didnt us, so is wen problems start dt dey will cum 2 tell us. By d way, do u tink d wife will nt later knw, cos deir relationship is based on moni
Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by sabatok(m): 1:45pm On Nov 19, 2015
[color=#990000][/color]regardless of the excuses, dat doesn't warrant u to go for another option in marriage.... u r already screwed, it gonna b difficult to quit...buh find a way out

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by Feranchek(m): 2:12pm On Nov 19, 2015
In mama piss voice "oga, na only you waka come" grin grin grin
Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by chymystique(f): 2:20pm On Nov 19, 2015
[size=13pt]Good Riddance to that your friend! He got what he deserved. I dont pity his situation one bit. Imagine investing on a lady thats not your family due to marital issues! If he had invested that whole money he wasted on the single lady fvck friend on something fruitful, he woulda been reaping the fruits now even as he is temporary jobless.. He can make amends by going to confess to his wife and asking for forgiveness... [/size]

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by Nobody: 2:22pm On Nov 19, 2015
I am pleased that you admitted that this is a movie. I will comment nonetheless.

One, your friend is a betrayer. He has betrayed his wife's trust.

Two, your friend is a cheat. He has cheated on his wife whom he expects to be faithful.

Three, your friend is a sinner. He has sinned against GOD and his body.

Now that he has created a mess, why is he so frantic about ending it without his wife's knowledge? It means he knows that he has been involved in something immoral. What is the lesson here? A good wife at home would manage whatever you have to offer, but a mistress in the dark alley wouldn't.

Break up the illicit sexual bond! If his wife finds out, he should face the consequences of his sexual escapades.

Finally, there is no lovely way to end a bad relationship. Just end it, that's all!

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by schumastic(m): 3:17pm On Nov 19, 2015
dead body don mess shocked shocked shocked

hmmm this is really hard to swallow...
first of all, he should meet his pastor and explain everything to him..
the pastor will call both the wife and your friend to explain everything there as well, with intent of forgiveness..
finally he has to break up with the other lady cus she is ungrateful and the school life has entered her head and will want to cus problem.
him explaining to the wife means his not going to GO BACK to the other lady anymore and wants to keep his marriage..
thats all IMO

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by agarawu23(m): 3:30pm On Nov 19, 2015
What a pity!

Some men will just use their hand to draw wahala wey sit down jeje.

You had problem with your housewife doesn't mean you should look for alternative. The money you spent on that single mum can be used to make your wife happy if you constantly buy her gifts weekly just to make her happy. Ladies aren't that difficult if you know who you are dealing with. Who knows? Weda na your wife head catch you for your working place.


Your ungrateful side chick should go and sit down one place. If you are sure she doesn't know where your family lives, ignore her and change your lines BUT if she knows everything about you, deal with the issue yourself, na you you know wetin you dey find up and down.

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by Nobody: 3:46pm On Nov 19, 2015
Dt's wat d op is saying
adeniyia33:
Dumping her u said?

Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by Nobody: 3:50pm On Nov 19, 2015
kiss.....I roff yu
agarawu23:
What a pity!

Some men will just use their hand to draw wahala wey sit down jeje.

You had problem with your housewife doesn't mean you should look for alternative. The money you spent on that single mum can be used to make your wife happy if you constantly buy her gifts weekly just to make her happy. Ladies aren't that difficult if you know who you are dealing with. Who knows? Weda na your wife head catch you for your working place.


Your ungrateful side chick should go and sit down one place. If you are sure she doesn't know where your family lives, ignore her and change your lines BUT if she knows everything about you, deal with the issue yourself, na you you know wetin you dey find up and down.

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by Nobody: 3:52pm On Nov 19, 2015
Serves Him right.... Mtchewwwwwuuuuuu

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by agarawu23(m): 3:53pm On Nov 19, 2015
Harbosede02:
kiss.....I roff yu
kiss kiss kiss

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by danton(m): 3:56pm On Nov 19, 2015
Your wife will be in the plot soon,that's inevitable. Boom....just avoid her from now

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by OCTAVO: 4:42pm On Nov 19, 2015
He should stop picking her calls.

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by NemzySeries(m): 11:16pm On Nov 19, 2015
Mr man u na Oga titus wey wan host world cup abi? sha datz watz wat u get wen u make ur shoulders a crying pillow 4 single mothers, widows or any lady or woman wit d ability to satisfy a man intimately.........call EFCC to probe her na (same issue mumcy jst called me & was advicing me abt last week & neva knew it wuz dis real....i luv ma mum)

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by Jaydenphoenix: 11:54am On Nov 20, 2015
He should confess to his wife and cut it off with the woman. That was she can't blackmail him.

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by MRBrownJ: 12:49pm On Nov 20, 2015
this guy should simply drop all contacts with this ungrateful low life, and focus on what is RIGHT!

on the other hand, if this guy has told fables in the sky (about his financial situation) to this lady, then he has only himself to blame for this situation.

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Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by adeniyia33(m): 8:01pm On Nov 21, 2015
Yeah, totally agree with u on all the points you mentioned here. All the same I feel it is a good omen that he has come back to his sense. Yeah, my point is, even if he is breaking up with her, this should not lead to disruption in his marriage. just think. Thanks for commenting

Politicos:
I am pleased that you admitted that this is a movie. I will comment nonetheless.

One, your friend is a betrayer. He has betrayed his wife's trust.

Two, your friend is a cheat. He has cheated on his wife whom he expects to be faithful.

Three, your friend is a sinner. He has sinned against GOD and his body.

Now that he has created a mess, why is he so frantic about ending it without his wife's knowledge? It means he knows that he has been involved in something immoral. What is the lesson here? A good wife at home would manage whatever you have to offer, but a mistress in the dark alley wouldn't.

Break up the illicit sexual bond! If his wife finds out, he should face the consequences of his sexual escapades.

Finally, there is no lovely way to end a bad relationship. Just end it, that's all!
Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by adeniyia33(m): 8:02pm On Nov 21, 2015
Gbams! Thanks for this straight line

agarawu23:
What a pity!

Some men will just use their hand to draw wahala wey sit down jeje.

You had problem with your housewife doesn't mean you should look for alternative. The money you spent on that single mum can be used to make your wife happy if you constantly buy her gifts weekly just to make her happy. Ladies aren't that difficult if you know who you are dealing with. Who knows? Weda na your wife head catch you for your working place.


Your ungrateful side chick should go and sit down one place. If you are sure she doesn't know where your family lives, ignore her and change your lines BUT if she knows everything about you, deal with the issue yourself, na you you know wetin you dey find up and down.
Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by adeniyia33(m): 8:04pm On Nov 21, 2015
This is yet another useful opinion which i feel our friend would learn to earn. Thanks


MRBrownJ:
this guy should simply drop all contacts with this ungrateful low life, and focus on what is RIGHT!

on the other hand, if this guy has told fables in the sky (about his financial situation) to this lady, then he has only himself to blame for this situation.
Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by adeniyia33(m): 8:09pm On Nov 21, 2015
Thanks, wisdom in display. He has learn his lesson. Even the Bible teaches in Proverbs that strange woman is a lion den to those who follow her. Hope he is reading this too
chymystique:
[size=13pt]Good Riddance to that your friend! He got what he deserved. I dont pity his situation one bit. Imagine investing on a lady thats not your family due to marital issues! If he had invested that whole money he wasted on the single lady fvck friend on something fruitful, he woulda been reaping the fruits now even as he is temporary jobless.. He can make amends by going to confess to his wife and asking for forgiveness... [/size]
Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by adeniyia33(m): 8:10pm On Nov 21, 2015
Humbled... Thanks

danton:
Your wife will be in the plot soon,that's inevitable. Boom....just avoid her from now
Re: Advise A Friend On How He Can Fix His Relationship by adeniyia33(m): 8:12pm On Nov 21, 2015
I think this would help especially involving his pastor...Thanks for this

schumastic:
dead body don mess shocked shocked shocked

hmmm this is really hard to swallow...
first of all, he should meet his pastor and explain everything to him..
the pastor will call both the wife and your friend to explain everything there as well, with intent of forgiveness..
finally he has to break up with the other lady cus she is ungrateful and the school life has entered her head and will want to cus problem.
him explaining to the wife means his not going to GO BACK to the other lady anymore and wants to keep his marriage..
thats all IMO

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