All yiur write up is just irritating me as a married woman, if u tnk yur hubby is too caring, quickly divorce and give chance for pple to grab fast. u are so immatured for marriage. wetin many wmen dey fast for 365 days to get from dia hubby. pls ja danu.

Thank you o.
Such annoying thread

Eketem:
This is why love and submission go together, a submissive woman won't take the love of her husband for granted.
You are so used to bad men and hearing stupid stories that a man who decided to save himself and be a good loving husband is now annoying to you.

Don't worry I am sure by the time he starts cheating on you and being disrespectful then you will happily come and lament like your mates.

If you had sense you would respect his love.
If you are tired explain gently to him that you are tired why would you refuse him sex for weeks?
If you had sense you would respect him giving you his atm and not spend like a silly woman
If you had sense you will respect his trust not look for him to slap you for coming home late

You are the one with issues, please divorce him so he won't be turn into a monster to satisfy you.

It is frustrated salon women whose husbands are busy drinking and womanising who are your role models silly woman , very annoying

cococandy:
Thank you o.
Such annoying thread

Don't tell me you don't know the difference between a loving and caring person and a clingy and suffocating one.

I believe this is a troll trying to rain on the parade of loving gentle husbands

bukatyne:


This is a description of a typical 'Nigerian' wife not capable of respecting a husband who loves her.

She is his first love with no previous experience of hurt So He is still pure

The story began to bend when she said He welcomed her with water from traffic instead of shouting like a normal husband I don't know How she jammed this 'abnormal husband'; they are certainly not in the same class.

She even denied him sex for weeks and mismanaged his money because....

She cannot respect him because she is not wired to respect gentle guys.

I pray she gets What she is looking for.

Cc: cococandy & babygirlfl

Mindfulness:


Don't tell me you don't know the difference between a loving and caring person and a clingy and suffocating one.

She only brought the clingy addition after she had been washed. Her initial complain was that he doesn't shout on her and he gives her too much attention not to mention wanting to have sex with his own wife which she refuses for weeks.

She also hates that he trusts her and respects her rights. That was her initial post and her concern is what neighbours and salon women say about her husband

Ur comment is the best, very reasonable and sensible. I align my understanding of the op's situation with the hubby with yours

QueenValerie:
******** This is good actually.He understood your being late wasn't your fault.Things where out of your control.You didn't cause that traffic jam.He'd be in the wrong if he blamed and was angry with you.It's good he didn't respond the way you thought.He was being understanding.And he was being helpful by carrying your things. --BUT if you don't like when he does much.Tell him you appreciate what he does for you but that he doesn't have to do so much or do things for you all the time.Just a little bit here and there.Or on special occasions like your birthday, wedding anniversary and Christmas would be nice. Is he a sports fan? If not it was probably no big thing for him to turn to something you would enjoy if he didn't care much for what he was watching.He was being considerate of you.This is good in a marriage you need to be considerate of each other. --BUT let him know that he can watch/do the things he likes because you want him to enjoy himself also. You should talk to him OP.Let him know you love him and like spending time with him.But you'd like some time to yourself and that he could have some time to himself also.You could suggest he do some fun activity he likes or learn a new skill.Like painting or learning to play soccer(football) or some other sport.Or he could learn to cook or whatever else he may like to do.This way you have time to yourself and so does he and he can focus on himself some instead of just you. OP you have to ask him why he didn't talk to you.---Let him know that he can talk to you. You both need to be able to talk to each other. It sounds like he's more considerate and thoughtful than submissive to me OP.Not to preach at you but marriage is not a domineering/controlling/inconsiderate husband and a submissive wife.But two people communicating with each other,being considerate/thoughtful of each other,and on and on. --Maybe you could look at some marriage help articles online?Maybe buy a good marriage help book?You've only been married a year you might need these to help you now and in the future. I don't think he's sick.He just wasn't being to considerate at that moment.He probably had lovemaking on his mind.And didn't stop to think about your need to do your work.Did you tell him you needed to work and that after you're done he could have what he wanted.(That's if your willing to have sex after your done doing whatever it is you need to)Let him know you two can't always have sex,that that's not how things work that sometimes you have to do without.Assure him that there will be sex/lovemaking just not everyday and any time he wants it.But there will be lovemaking.You have to communicate with him OP. He sounds like a good husband.Happy marriage OP!!

YACAA:
[b]Hi dear,

I can not fathom what you are going through, but I do not think you should divorce your husband; all solutions have not been exhausted yet.

Firstly, I will encourage you to read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8; it reminds us that LOVE is an action word and not a noun, that requires patience, tolerance, kindness, humility, hope, endurance etc. It will help you during these trying times.

One must always enter marriage without expectations or idealogies, because the marriage is based on what you and your husband say it should be, not what society dictates. Sit down as a couple and discuss what you want to see in the marriage and what works and doesn't work for you ( If you are Christians then the bible should be a firm foundation for this talk). The more you keep comparing your marriage to what you feel it should be, the more it will keep falling short. Create your own unique marriage with your husband.

Always try to see the positive in every situation; it might seem odd that your husband wants to escort you to a Women's convention or to the salon, but maybe it is his way of showing love (as weird as it may seem). You could turn such situations into lovely ones, for example you could tell him you know he will miss you during that period and you really appreciate his fierce devotion towards you, but he should allow you to go alone and you promise him some hot steamy sex when you get home. The way you react to such gestures is very important, as you do not want him to feel rejected (remember, you love this man).

Understand that you are two different people and this is the time you should explore each other. The first year of marriage tends to be turbulent as the parties involved are adjusting their worlds to become one. For example, my husband and I communicate all the time during work, and it is one of the things that keeps us bonded. I however, used to hate cuddling and touching and PDA, but I began to appreciate that was his way of showing his love for me and feeling loved as well( through communication, which is always best when you guys are in a great mood and after sex); I gradually changed my mindset and now I enjoy being all touchy with him.Both of you shoud read 'The Five Love Languages', and discuss your reflections; it will help you understand each other better.

Regards sex, the bible says your body is not your own, and neither is his. It is not a bad thing for him to desire sex, but it is also understandable that there are times you would not be in the mood or would be too exhausted. My dear, sex is really important to men as it makes them feel loved and respected; it also helps release stress and keeps them young and happy. Make an effort to sacrifice your energy and time (after all sometimes it wont take more than fifteen minutes) to show your husband how much you love him by engaging passionately in sex (enjoy it too). I have learnt that the bond between my husband and I gets tighter anytime we have sex, and I think of creative ways to make it interesting; it is not easy, but no one ever promised that marriage was easy.

Communication is very key in this situation, but it has to be applied with much wisdom. Words are meant to build and not destroy; if you know the feedback you will be giving your husband will bring him down, then silence is golden. You marriage is between you, your husband and God (being the ultimate); this matter should be taken to God asap, and the most important thing to ask God is to change you and your heart towards your husband. Ask God to help you appreciate the gift he blessed you with through marriage. Ask God to help you be a better wife to your husband; to understand him, appreciate him, and change your perception towards him. God is the only one who has the power to change others, and in a marriage, when the other partner sees a change in their spouse, they are more open to changing themselves. Of course, do pray for God to help your husband understand you and your needs, and how they can be catered for (I am perceiving two people who love each other but do not know how to show it in order for the other person to appreciate and feel it).

My dear, make sure you celebrate your husband always, at home and out. Do not complain about him to others except God. Anytime my husband and I have issues, I go to God first, then I speak to him; I ask him if he thinks we should discuss the issue with a trusted authority; if he says yes then we go ahead. If not, we solve the problem ourselves. Anytime an individual mocks you or your husband or your marriage ( for example comments made regarding him following you to the salon or holding your bag), you should rebuke them. Not rebuking them gives such mockery the power to break your marriage by promoting negativity. A friend who respects you, your husband and marriage will never mock your marriage or your husband, but rather help you make it more of a success. CUT ALL NEGATIVE FRIENDS AND FAMILY OFF. Your husband and some other men out there show love in this particular way;try and appreciate it, but also let him know ways in which you like to be loved. It would be wise to ask him how you could improve the way you show him love first, that way he knows you really care about him and are not just attacking him for things he is not doing right (it really brings men down).

Try to perceive yourself and your husband as a team, each of you with your own strengths and weaknesses. Where your husband is weak, be strong for him and where you are weak, he will also be strong; that way you complement each other.

My dear, I wish you all the best and remember, DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION. You can make this work.xx

I don't think any counsellor will do or say more than this. If the Op is really passionate about her marriage and making it work, this is a golden advice she needs.

God bless you ma for this write up. I read from word to letters and I'm moved with all you said. You'll be a good counsellor, if you're not doing that already, I guess you start on a part time basis. You're good at this.

@ the OP, I don't see anything bad in the husband holding your bag or purse. So u care about what people will say? I'm disappointed. Those friends asking you questions will jump at such privilege. I'm sure they've been advising you to divorce and get another man...watch it, you'll curse them at the end of the day and they'll make you realize you're the biggest fool for listening to them.

Your heart is made up, and all advise here will be meaningless to you. I pray God help you to carry your threats out, then you'll know marriage bliss is over for you on earth.

I can't see a virtous woman spending his husband's money anyhow just because he trusted her with it. What kind of wife are you? Don't you know its a sin to tempt people. You're taking advantage of him already.

God can't just be questioned, would have asked why He had to bring you his way. He sure deserves better than you

optimusprime2:

I carefully read your whole writeup, hence my whole quote... Firstly (Pardon me for being Blunt) I think you are quite a Naive, selfish and shallow woman who is insensitive to a man as delicate natured as your husband- for a start, I believe you are a christian, go and read the book of Proverbs chapter 31 vs 10-31 it should give you insight of the role of a good wife.
Many women pray for the kind of man you have as a husband, and here you are complaining about what you have... A wife is a friend, a partner, a buddie et al, apparently you have'nt carved out that Niche for your husband, because you have already viewed and tagged him as a weakling.
Secondly You lack the caring instinct of a mother; if you did, you would have known how to adjust your husband to fit your specs, with Love. Cant you see he is as a child to you? I wonder how you would care for kids with special needs with an attitude of insensitivity like this...
Thirdly, you are inconsiderate; Because you know that's how he is and yet you choose to exploit his shortcomings/weaknesses, then complain in the end- You should be ashamed of yourself.
Fourthly, You are the solitary lady- basically you love doing your thingys alone. It's unfortunate you married a man who values company and companionship, now in marriage, the definition of you is "Selfish" because all you lookout for is "You" ... sorry girl thats the picture I see.
Fifth, Your perspective of marriage is so shallow... And I have a deep pity for you because you still think marriage is post courtship, an indirect reflection of your psychological immaturity (Geez I'm really sorry for the bluntness but I just cant help it)
Sixth, You are just not romantic period.... (A wife beater would have suited you just fine)
If you think people will come and sympathize with you here on Nairaland for your woes and complaints on this matter, you are wrong, very wrong .... Go and analyse your shortcomings woman and fix up your marriage.
Overall I feel bad for your husband- it's really not his fault. He married a girl not a woman. (Sorry girl just being blunt)

I admire your candor. The fifth point you raised is the fundamental problem. Issues like this always have roots deeper than we think. Op from your post I can see that you have the bandwagon idea of marriage. You have heard, watched and read different episodes of married couple and you visualize yours to be exactly the same. In reality every one have their our story and it most not always be like others you've known.

Take the time to create your own home. Don't create what you think others will like.

What if he goes with you to the saloon and other women gossips? He loves you and wants to always please you, so? He idolizes you, and? For Christ sake he is you husband not your boy friend. If not you who else? And just one year you are thinking of jumping ship?

The key to your happiness is in your hands but be careful not to unleash the beast in him.

Eketem:


She only brought the clingy addition after she had been washed. Her initial complain was that he doesn't shout on her and he gives her too much attention not to mention wanting to have sex with his own wife which she refuses for weeks.

She also hates that he trusts her and respects her rights. That was her initial post and her concern is what neighbours and salon women say about her husband

This is what you have distilled from her post. What she als says is that ...

- her husband changes the TV station just because she says the football match is boring
- he does anything she wants without asking questions
- he is constantly calling and texting her
- he is ALWAYS around - she has never time for herself
- he follows her everywhere
- he disturbs her when she is studying
- he wants to sleep with her every day
- he grants her even "silly things" without asking any questions
- he doesn't say anything when she spends money excessively

I don't think a normal person behaves like this and I can totally understand that she is starting to believe that he has mental issues. I am not saying he has because I don't know him but frankly speaking this is not the kind of person I would like to have around. He would irritate me too. This is not love and caring, this is neediness and clinginess at its peak.

Does his universe revolve around her? Hasn't he got what we call free will? Do his needs begin and end with the pleasing of someone else? Has he no opinion of his own? Where is his self-respect?

cococandy:
.

How do I even know you're not an alternate trying to paint loving husbands black as in unmanly.

cococandy:
I believe this is a troll trying to rain on the parade of loving gentle husbands

babygirlfl:

Exactly. I don't believe the story.

Spot on. You know their MO too well.

Obviously fake story.

....a beautiful woman is another man's slave - lucky dube

Be contended with what you have. Things you don't appreciate are what other women out there beg, pray and crave for. Stop comparing him with any rude dude from ur past. Respect him and caution him if u have to.

My 10kobo advise

Your husband is fixated. His situation is similar to a 2 years old baby that is still addicted to breastfeeding. He needs to learn how to stop.

Mindfulness:


Don't tell me you don't know the difference between a loving and caring person and a clingy and suffocating one.

She didn't say anything that qualifies him as such.
Except maybe that he likes to go to the saloon with her. That's not enough to classify him as such.

Op, dis marriage is just one year old na. Don't worry urself, over-love is still doing with ur husband. Since u met him as a virgin, he must be a novice while u must have dated crazy guys in the past.
Just give him some times, by d time children starts coming nd responsibilities start piling up such as rent, school fees, feeding etc, reality will hit him really hard nd by dat time, na u go dey beg nd dey find am...
#TEAMnoDIVORCE

This her experience is normal.I have personally seen such newly wed couple.
the guy cooks
wash clothes
always calls
he even carries his wife so she does not walk on some cases
always shares what he has with his wife
he cleans the house
wash plates
scrubs toilet
and more i do not know of
but in time,he adjusted and the wife started doing small work at least
BUT......
Kids came
everything changed
Even though he does most work
The wife sometimes supports him
he carries the kids
bath them
cleans their poo
even carries the kid when he was searching for job
It got so serious i talked to him
That his wife should at least support him
That i feel he his like a slave to his wife
He smiled and told me not to worry
He enjoys doing it.
More kids came and the wife had to sit up
The man started hustling
not much time again to do all he was doing for the wife like before
the love is still there
but the wife had to do house chores
he now says NO to most of her request and they sort it out
The guy in question is my younger brother
It took about 6 years for him to make adjustments
and right now
i can say they are doing really fine with 3 kids

Mindfulness:


Don't tell me you don't know the difference between a loving and caring person and a clingy and suffocating one.

Welcoming her arms open wide from the rain after a serious traffic jam, putting her first over himself, giving her his ATM and was silent even at her careless and extravagant spending is also clingy and suffocating, right? You need help too. I don't see a thing wrong in going with gf to d saloon if I'm idle, holding her purse is no big deal. My kind of lady appreciate such.

You need help too. U're just and hypocrite. Those asking her if he is her hubby or driver are busy bodies and friends @ d saloon will jump at such privilege too.

enstack:
. . . .. . .

madam, why is he afraid of offending you?

you should ask him, not nairaland and also, what is his background is a question you left out.

commitcrime:



Am available. Terms and Conditions apply

awwww i love you already*agape*

Ppearl:

awwww i love you already*agape*

must you add agape to your post?

almost choking her with excessive love.

Op, it is the first year jives. Take it easy and enjoy. The road can be smooth or bumpy. And if this is your own bumps, be thankful. At least he isn't slicing off parts of your ears with pliers.

Mindfulness:


Don't tell me you don't know the difference between a loving and caring person and a clingy and suffocating one.

oglalasioux:
Tell yourself the truth. You don't love this man. You are in for it for material gain. Your husband even knows this and feels doing what he is doing will make you love him.

. The perfect comment

enstack:
I had to create a new account just to post this as it's quite sensitive. It's quite lengthy too but I'll be brief. I need mature and friendly advice from people here.

When I first met my husband, it was in a library. We talked briefly and we became close. I have had past relationships in my life so I was careful as possible. I realised that he had no past relationship. He was a typical virgin and was new and I was his first girlfriend. So I felt comfortable with him. He was so kind and loving so I agreed to marry him.

Now it has gotten worse. Everytime he does anything I want without asking questions. At first I enjoyed it but now I'm starting to worry about him as it's getting out of hand. He does not display any act of manliness in the house. He behaves like my puppet or my foot stool. The other day he was watching the soccer game and I just jokingly mentioned how boring it was and I would prefer the faith channel. He changed the channel to the faith channel just like that. Even at work he would be calling me and texting me I am even scared he would loose his job if his employer finds out.

I have no time for myself.. he is always around. Sometimes if I say no to his advances for sex he would act like I am a wicked woman who has cheated him or rubbed him of his right. He would give me the silent treatment for weeks until I give in. On Sunday he insisted on going with me to the salon and it's now embarrassing as every Sunday my mates in the salon would gossip about how my husband is the only man amongst women making their hairs because his wife is there. I try to talk to him but he would feel so sad like I have taken smething away. I don't understand.

If I'm studying at night, he would suddenly begin to romance me and strip me of my clothing without saying anything first when he can see I'm studying. If I rebuke him, he would be very sad. Every time he must have one intimate relation with me everyday and life does not work that way. I don't know if it's immaturity or he is sick mentally. The day I returned home 11pm due to huge traffic jam, I was expecting him to be furious like any other man.. he was with all smiles even offered me water and collected my bag and books. Christ.

I need sincere help. I told his family that I'll file a divorce if this continues as I cannot live like this. It's no longer love but idolatry. I thought it's wives that are submissive.. he is the one submissive. Anything I ask... he grants even silly things. Things that a real man would query before granting.

I am sure that if I ask him to bathe in acid he would do it. I'm sick and tired of this marriage. Just a year. The last quater he gave me his ATM to spend when I went for training in Abuja. When I was spending excessively he was quiet about it until I returned and found it he was broke that i wrecked him. I was wondering what happened to him. Why didn't he talk?

Please Nairalanders what is happening? I love him still and divorce would be my last resort. I need your advice and help on how to fix this because I don't know what to do anymore.

Thank you all.

Is like l'm becoming so concerned of this your issue, l hope you pm for a chart.

armyofone:
almost choking her with excessive love.

Op, it is the first year jives. Take it easy and enjoy. The road can be smooth or bumpy. And if this is your own bumps, be thankful. At least he isn't slicing off parts of your ears with pliers.

Love? Is it love when you force yourself on someone even though the person is busy studying? Is it love when you don't respect that someone needs time on their own?

akinsmyk:


Welcoming her arms open wide from the rain after a serious traffic jam, putting her first over himself, giving her his ATM and was silent even at her careless and extravagant spending is also clingy and suffocating, right? You need help too. I don't see a thing wrong in going with gf to d saloon if I'm idle, holding her purse is no big deal. My kind of lady appreciate such.

Do you think this is normal? Your spouse is spending excessively and beyond your means and you keep quiet like a mumu? Is it normal?
What next? Will he also try to please her when she tells him that she needs a three.some to be satisfied because he puts herself first over himself, like you said?

You need help too. U're just and hypocrite. Those asking her if he is her hubby or driver are busy bodies and friends @ d saloon will jump at such privilege too.

Take it easy. You don't have to attack me to make your point.

cococandy:

She didn't say anything that qualifies him as such.
Except maybe that he likes to go to the saloon with her. That's not enough to classify him as such.

- her husband changes the TV station just because she says the football match is boring
- he does anything she wants without asking questions
- he is constantly calling and texting her
- he is ALWAYS around - she has never time for herself
- he follows her everywhere
- he disturbs her when she is studying
- he wants to sleep with her every day
- he grants her even "silly things" without asking any questions
- he keeps quiet when she spends money excessively and beyond his means

bet9jaguru:




looks like thats wat she actually needs

You know people get shot for being sarcastic right?

enstack:
I had to create a new account just to post this as it's quite sensitive. It's quite lengthy too but I'll be brief. I need mature and friendly advice from people here.

When I first met my husband, it was in a library. We talked briefly and we became close. I have had past relationships in my life so I was careful as possible. I realised that he had no past relationship. He was a typical virgin and was new and I was his first girlfriend. So I felt comfortable with him. He was so kind and loving so I agreed to marry him.

Now it has gotten worse. Everytime he does anything I want without asking questions. At first I enjoyed it but now I'm starting to worry about him as it's getting out of hand. He does not display any act of manliness in the house. He behaves like my puppet or my foot stool. The other day he was watching the soccer game and I just jokingly mentioned how boring it was and I would prefer the faith channel. He changed the channel to the faith channel just like that. Even at work he would be calling me and texting me I am even scared he would loose his job if his employer finds out.

I have no time for myself.. he is always around. Sometimes if I say no to his advances for sex he would act like I am a wicked woman who has cheated him or rubbed him of his right. He would give me the silent treatment for weeks until I give in. On Sunday he insisted on going with me to the salon and it's now embarrassing as every Sunday my mates in the salon would gossip about how my husband is the only man amongst women making their hairs because his wife is there. I try to talk to him but he would feel so sad like I have taken smething away. I don't understand.

If I'm studying at night, he would suddenly begin to romance me and strip me of my clothing without saying anything first when he can see I'm studying. If I rebuke him, he would be very sad. Every time he must have one intimate relation with me everyday and life does not work that way. I don't know if it's immaturity or he is sick mentally. The day I returned home 11pm due to huge traffic jam, I was expecting him to be furious like any other man.. he was with all smiles even offered me water and collected my bag and books. Christ.

I need sincere help. I told his family that I'll file a divorce if this continues as I cannot live like this. It's no longer love but idolatry. I thought it's wives that are submissive.. he is the one submissive. Anything I ask... he grants even silly things. Things that a real man would query before granting.

I am sure that if I ask him to bathe in acid he would do it. I'm sick and tired of this marriage. Just a year. The last quater he gave me his ATM to spend when I went for training in Abuja. When I was spending excessively he was quiet about it until I returned and found it he was broke that i wrecked him. I was wondering what happened to him. Why didn't he talk?

Please Nairalanders what is happening? I love him still and divorce would be my last resort. I need your advice and help on how to fix this because I don't know what to do anymore.

Thank you all.

This girl you are a child. It's so sad what our women have turned to. So ur husband gave u his ATM and u over spent just to see if he would talk and u come here to speak of how weak u think he is. I hope ur husband will see what u have posted so far so that he sees for himself what kind of a child he married. God help women like u to falls into the hands of hard men.

Mindfulness:


This is what you have distilled from her post. What she als says is that ...

- her husband changes the TV station just because she says the football match is boring
- he does anything she wants without asking questions
- he is constantly calling and texting her
- he is ALWAYS around - she has never time for herself
- he follows her everywhere
- he disturbs her when she is studying
- he wants to sleep with her every day
- he grants her even "silly things" without asking any questions
- he doesn't say anything when she spends money excessively

I don't think a normal person behaves like this and I can totally understand that she is starting to believe that he has mental issues. I am not saying he has because I don't know him but frankly speaking this is not the kind of person I would like to have around. He would irritate me too. This is not love and caring, this is neediness and clinginess at its peak.

Does his universe revolve around her? Hasn't he got what we call free will? Do his needs begin and end with the pleasing of someone else? Has he no opinion of his own? Where is his self-respect?

you baffled me with your write up. I am sane, normal and Ok yet I do all those things and more for my wife. My job is tasking because I work for an international financial conglomerate but my wife and in extention my kids are my world. EVERYTHING revolve round her. After God, she is next. When I got the present offer with more money and growth potential, I declined for months because it mean spending less time with her than what we are use to.. She and God convinced me to take the job. Her husband is normal and he is in love with her absolutely like what I share with my wife.

obviously, something is wrong, why is the husband so fearful of offending her?


he is only showing one emotion and one face, it means what he's feeling is not deep enough to move him at all. He is never out of his comfort zone.

just my opinion sha.

ibnzubair:

You know people get shot for being sarcastic right?

u mean like J F Kenedy "g0t shot"

Mindfulness:


- her husband changes the TV station just because she says the football match is boring
- he does anything she wants without asking questions
- he is constantly calling and texting her
- he is ALWAYS around - she has never time for herself
- he follows her everywhere
- he disturbs her when she is studying
- he wants to sleep with her every day
- he grants her even "silly things" without asking any questions
- he keeps quiet when she spends money excessively and beyond his means

what is this one even saying...unreasonable of you

I didn't want to comment on this thread earlier but just had to

Please hold on to that man well. He is a gem
There is nothing wrong with him, He is doing what he is supposed to do.
Did you expect him to yell at you because you returned late?
He is only treating you like the Queen that you are.
Treat him the same too.

The kids and I always come first too and my husband will do anything for us even if it inconveniences him.
Thats service in marriage.
reciprocate, and it balances out and everyone is happy.

You have a very good man there.
Dont listen to the busy body gossips at the salon who are secretly praying for a man to even notice their new hairstyle, talk less of sitting and chatting with them at the salon. I sometimes go to the barbers with my hubby . . .Kini big deal. I enjoy his presence round me and I even tell the barber how I like his beard shaped
Shebi na my husband.

Pls relax babes and enjoy your man.