Outstrip:

Whats up with port harcourt and married lesbians. The first time I heard of this was from a friend whose mom still has these "friends" and they lived in PortHarcourt when they were in NIgeria. They still sort of have a reunion here in the US. I think it started in their boarding school days.
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opuro:

the problem seems to be from you
from all indication you dont sound like a real man
and I have a feeling that you dont satisfy your wife sexually

annyplenty:

Mr Opuro, why do you talk like this. if the problem is from the man and does not satisfy the wife, I think it will have been logical for the woman to seek supplement from another man and not from a fellow woman. think about it.

annyplenty:

Mr Opuro, why do you talk like this. if the problem is from the man and does not satisfy the wife, I think it will have been logical for the woman to seek supplement from another man and not from a fellow woman. think about it.

blissfullynaughty:

All na galala, once you have a passion for other women, there is no going back. She will just have to be much more careful and learn better ways and places to conduct her future rendezvous Chikena.
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definitely a LESBIAN

blissfullynaughty:

All na galala, once you have a passion for other women, there is no going back. She will just have to be much more careful and learn better ways and places to conduct her future rendezvous Chikena.

FKseun:

I thank you all for your advice (constructive & otherwise). Personally, i like to learn from other peoples' situation. Putting my plight on nairaland, to me, was a way of getting the problem slightly off me by sharing it anonymously with people. It is also an opportunity for others to learn.

On my way to work on Friday, I decided to report the case to a pastor that she respects. He promised praying about it afterwhich he would call my wife. Later in the day, he called and told me that he would like to seek my permission to visit our home on Saturday morning. He eventually came and preached to the two of us. He did not apportion any blame but encouraged us to do what is Godly and right. He told us to forgive each other and move on with the marriage. At that point, I told him that we were not addressing the issue on ground. Because there can't never be forgiveness when there is no admittance/confession of any wrong doing. I poured out my mind bitterly. He called my wife to kneel down right in front of me and ask for my forgiveness.  I still insisted that she had to confess what she did before forgiveness would take place otherwise it would mean that I was accussing her wrongfully.

She eventually confessed to the allegations right before the pastor and begged for my forgiveness which i gave. After the pastor had left, she came back to me on her knees and wept chronicling how the whole thing started. She mentioned the names of some of her married friends who are still into the act. I have told her that i do not want to see the woman with her again.

Some people would tell you that it is because a 'i am not a real man'. Only if they knew how good i am, I pray they never find themselves in this situation.

annyplenty:

definitely a LESBIAN.

prittigrrr:

IMHO there is no homosexuality "gene". It is a condition defined by an extremely addictive behavior. I have known ppl who were delivered from it but they are few because of the addictiveness of it and because the stigma keeps them in shame and the shame keeps them in the behavior.

Pataki:

@ Poster,

From your last post here, it seems you have the conviction that she is now delivered. What steps are you taking to ensure she does not go back into lesbianism? There must be something that aside sex, that she feels she wants as a woman, which you as a man cannot provide for her.

Forgiving her is one thing, walking her through this situation is greater task and challenge which lies ahead of you.

FKseun:


Thanks for your constructive comments. I am not convinced that she has been delivered. The pastor did not perform any deliverance. The only thing I am happy about is the fact that I got a confession from her.
I have actually been suspecting her and this other woman for about 3yrs now but there was no concrete evidence. Presently, she’s remorseful because her family members are aware. This was her own making. She was trying to portray me to her parents as not wanting her to keep friends. In the course of her story, the other woman’s husband name was mentioned and they had to call him. He told them much more than I knew.
As a human being I have put some measures in place which I hope will check a drastically reduce the chance of a re-occurrence. But if it still happens, then only God knows what would happen. I will cross that bridge when/if I get there.

JADE Goody's grieving mum Jackiey Budden is ditching Britain - AND life as a lesbian - for a toyboy working in a holiday island pub kitchen.




Besotted Jackiey, 51, has fallen for ex-soldier Jason Cooper, 36, on Tenerife and vowed to stay there with him.


Jackiey - gran to Jade's boys Bobby, six, and Freddie, four - has been shacked up with divorced Jason on the Canary Island for six weeks and told pals: "It's love.".


They met in the resort town of Los Cristianos after she flew out on a month-long break to try to come to terms with losing Jade, 27, to cancer on Mothering Sunday in March.


Pals say Jackiey plans to return to Britain briefly to visit her grandsons next month.

blissfullynaughty:

and your point is?

spikedcylinder:

Wait, your pastor cured her of homosexuality?

spikedcylinder:

Wait, your pastor cured her of homosexuality?