pet4ril:
Its a matter of choice, because the guy will not go and drag the gal to visit him if the gal refuse........ We ladies should also learn to respect ourselves

Oliviaarims:
OK, now I'm getting really concerned. Why do a lot of guys find it very easy to just ask a girl to travel down to see them? It's weird. They may have just been talking casually for a couple of days or at best weeks and sb starts making a very funny demand. Like, why the heck should a girl actually travel to visit some random dude at her own peril?

And these dudes pop the question so easily like it's no big deal at all. A girl could be in Delta, for instance, and a guy with whom she has no real connection with will be asking her to come down to Abuja. Is it some sort of joke question or they really do believe that it will be done? If really the guy's interested in meeting up, he's supposed to know that he's in a better place to be the one making the effort and not the other way round.

Perhaps, some ppl do it . But there's always going to be exceptions to everything and I daresay it's a really minute percentage who does things like that, so why do they still ask?

pet4ril:
Its a matter of choice, because the guy will not go and drag the gal to visit him if the gal refuse........ We ladies should also learn to respect ourselves

The guy will travel all the way from his state to your state to come and see you right.

Then you will find your favorite joint and take him there.

You both will chop heaven and earth, which I am sure he will be the one to pay.

Thereafter you will see him off and if the distance is too far, you will direct him where he will lodge(because you can't take him home).

And the in the night you will text him trashes bout how you love him and how you miss him already.

The next day he go carry wetin he carry come dey go back to his base.

Thunder fire you.

MRBrownJ:


the reason many men are doing it is because there are many women who will gladly go, viewing such proposal as a vacation... the important fact here is: did you tell him exactly why you turned down his offer?

btw if you think it is ok to have some dude (you barely know) travel from Abuja to come see you, then i see no difference between this and his request.

Oliviaarims:

It would only be permitted if the meeting is ultimately necessary. And of course it's different. As long as u're in ur comfort zone, u call the shots and determine what happens. U decide where and when to meet. Have a couple of ppl know what's going on and whatever else is necessary.

pet4ril:
Its a matter of choice, because the guy will not go and drag the gal to visit him if the gal refuse........ We ladies should also learn to respect ourselves

Estharfabian:
One just asked me to come down to Adamawa..(By road)...


Bokoharam's central!! What nonsense!!!

MRBrownJ:


ok so what you mean is that ultimately the whole friendship/affair (or whatever) is about YOU and your wishes, without caring one bit for that person's wishes? it sounds more like a nervous interview rather than a date between 2 people who like each other. isnt it 50/50 in your world? what about meeting the guy half way in this quest for affection?

Oliviaarims:


That's the issue. There aren't mutual feelings. They might just be acquaintances or perhaps the guy's claiming to be in love. If it's a proper relationship or a prospective one, I have no problem with that.

MRBrownJ:


the reason many men are doing it is because there are many women who will gladly go, viewing such proposal as a vacation... the important fact here is: did you tell him exactly why you turned down his offer?

btw if you think it is ok to have some dude (you barely know) travel from Abuja to come see you, then i see no difference between this and his request.

MRBrownJ:


if there aint no mutual feelings then the lady should tell exactly that to the guy and spare him the journey. if she tells the guy:"i cant come to your city but come to mine" then this is a green light.

hatux:
If it was by air, you'd be there right

Oliviaarims:
Lol. U don't get it. The girl hasn't professed love or the sort. They talk on very neutral grounds. Sometimes, the conversation doesn't get past exchange of pleasantries.. And the dude will still think it okay to be inviting her over. Whatever for?
If she does ask him to come over, then yea. That could be regarded as a greenlight.

Let's however not lose sight of the point. Some guys just make unnecessary invitations!

Oliviaarims:
OK, now I'm getting really concerned. Why do a lot of guys find it very easy to just ask a girl to travel down to see them? It's weird. They may have just been talking casually for a couple of days or at best weeks and sb starts making a very funny demand. Like, why the heck should a girl actually travel to visit some random dude at her own peril?

And these dudes pop the question so easily like it's no big deal at all. A girl could be in Delta, for instance, and a guy with whom she has no real connection with will be asking her to come down to Abuja. Is it some sort of joke question or they really do believe that it will be done? If really the guy's interested in meeting up, he's supposed to know that he's in a better place to be the one making the effort and not the other way round.

Perhaps, some ppl do it . But there's always going to be exceptions to everything and I daresay it's a really minute percentage who does things like that, so why do they still ask?

AyamConfidence:
Its immature....i dont do that it doesnt make sense to me

Egbon u sef dey here ni?