HARDDON:


But for the guys with right motives,

Here is how u go about this : send her this short message the next day: " hi, i heard u you missed me so much and cant wait to melt into my arms in warm embrace. thatz my line, call."

two things you have achieved here: one u didnt introduce yourself, so she wudnt really know who it is(suspense) , so she would be forced to call. when she does, dont take. wait till the next day, early morning, then send her this msg: " hi, saw your beep yesterday, who could this be?" two things here: you are implying you have forgotten(annoying but kul) you told her to call u, and u dont even know who she is.

she wud be forced to call back immediately or send a msg: if she calls, take ur time, let the phone ring for some time b4 u pick and say (with a deep relaxed voice: " hello, who im i unto?" she wud say well you sent me a msg yesterday, u take ur time like u thinking and say oh, the Gurl they say is missing me so much she cant eat, sleep or think? ......."

u get the jeck?

if she ask you who u are, shot back by saying : how can a gf forget her bf's voice? yea i know my voice sound richer now but that doesnt mean it changed"
if she doenst still get it, tell her she has 5 secs to guess who u r for u got other things to take care of........whether she guess right or not, tell her you got to go now, and hang up.

the idea is to create suspense that leads to attraction .

HARDDON:



To get her number, avoid d usuals with guys. Don't ask her if she has a line , don't ask her if she can give u her number ...these r needy lines n they wud return negative responses n leave u feeling like a drenched dock..


This is How To get a lady's line:

Make sure u end d convo abruptly by saying got to go now, here is my card. Walk on by.


Or , as she is laughing so hard from ur crack knocks, say ur Nokia 3310 luk lovely, let me see..... she hangs over d phone, u punch ur number on d dailpad n dail ur number, if it says insufficient credit, u say with a loud whisper into her ears. .. don't think this relationship wud work, cos I might end up using all my salary to load phone......

Use call me back to get d n0 while @ it.



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tegak10:
so like I avoided that girl n now she s chasing me n being affectionate n rubbing boobs on moi... is there still a chance

tegak10:


I didn't call or talk to her since Friday.....

met her on Monday but was ill.. we talked tho.. not fr long. n then I snubbed her most f d day. pretending I didn't see her n all.. I even passed her side saying nothing then she called me n I waved n kept walking...

today was talking to other girls n fr d first time in months she came to look fr me. then we talked fr like 30secs n I said I had somewhere to be n walked out during that tym she was just rubbing boobs.. then I walked out. she spent d rest f d day staring at me... I just kept talking to other girls...

NLjona:


and when she finally knows its me... what next?... thanks

eunisam:
this is......

HARDDON:
Now ur life might really get very messy if u don't follow this coding rule in saving numbers. U wud tend to forget who is who n start calling Oge , Nkechi ... This is a huge turn off for ladies.
U must remember names, faces, places , last discussion, n voices. Tall order , yea, but u must. Tot u wanted to be Don Juan ?

Avoid saving numbets with fishy names..... U saw what happened to t billz...


Avoid saving numbers with explanation because devices let u.


Here is d right way to do it:

Always use alphabets to help u remember which month u met who . when I was a teen in this thing, ive had situations I saved ladies n0s with just their names n when they called/or im scrolling tru my phone deleting those that dont call, I didn't remember who they were.
U can't imagine d stress of having to call to form familiarity n they just know who is calling but I don't remember them. I just use style to make them keep talking n I try to pick d voice or statements.... Till I get who it is, if I still can't I set up a date if d name bears a 5 star.

Most times, I don't even ask for their names in our first meeting, ain't no time. Try it, it works. I just save d name with some crazy stuff I wudnt wano share here

N always grade ur new ladies by attaching a star to five stars after their names .....

Eg
J Valerie *
F Oge ***
M Fiona **
S Zina *****

The more x star, d more complete she is physically, emotionally n brain wise . these group r keepers, they call , u burst them, they return d favour .... Ho LA LA , Neva a dull moment

realpoacher:


Boy you are Good!... I use to think that I was the don until you entered the scene. Man thumbs up for you boss!... I pray you allow me to contribute my quota to the ministry anytime I am free because there is still other parts you haven't touched yet which I wanna elaborate on!...

I hope you will grant me permission to lend my revered knowledge as well?

HARDDON:


As much as possible don't tell her who u r....
Use d suspense strategy to ur advantage n u burst her balls with ur new found self.

If she wano douth u, tell her intimate things about her ... That wud make her relax n wano to know u more, deflect all questions from u to her.

Use this method to hone ur witty skills on d phone with her first. Make her so fall for u first b4 u finally set up a meet ....

viickerz:
@harddon.. I dont knw if you remember me, i did what you told me with the girl, i totally ignored her for abt a week now, i seldom reply her chats, calls e.t.c...
I dont think she can take it anymore..

Should i giv her the attention now, or should i continue the ignore..

realpoacher:


As your lordship has permitted,... Let me chip in!..

Just like every other things in life, too much of anything is bad, just as food is very essential for our growth so also overfeeding is bad for our body, heck! Even the Bible said overfeeding is a sin.. Hehe.. Scratch that! Now to business.

I invented the 30/70 rule, I give you 30% attention and ignore you 70% of the time, I give you 30% allowance to misbehave, make you have the upper hand while I punish, Lord over you, or put you in your place 70% of the time. No stories

As the guy you have to take control of your relationship and steer it where you want it to go. Now you have to get me right, every guy always have a target with any girl he wanna dates or flirt with. Target could be anything ranging from Marriage, Casual friendship, Boyfriend/Girlfriend relationship, Bedmates (Friends with benefits), Rebounds relationship, One night stands or just booty call whenever konji is knocking on your balls.

Now listen carefully, for every single target/aim they're procedures or steps to follow to quickly hit your target, these steps are what you call moves, swags.

But where many novices miss it is thinking that that there is a one way formula for different aim which makes them fall flat on their faces before they realize what hit them.

So my bro... I put a question before you now this evening.... Tell me what is your aim with this particular girl, tell me how you met her, tell me a little of what you know about her and I will give you the solution that you seek

viickerz:
@harddon.. I dont knw if you remember me, i did what you told me with the girl, i totally ignored her for abt a week now, i seldom reply her chats, calls e.t.c...
I dont think she can take it anymore..

Should i giv her the attention now, or should i continue the ignore..

HARDDON:


@ bolded,
what do u mean by that? r you her spoke person now? u need to get the nice guy outa ya system cos that is what got u into this mess in the first place!

you dont seem to get the essence of this whole setting...

I told you to totally shut her out so we can test if she is into u or not, now that it has been confirmed she is, unless ofcos she gains financially from u( if she is, u should stop giving her any),
your next move now is to practice the witty and funny lines on her in a send less manner.

take control of all ur conversations, dont spend too much time with her on phone, no more boring questions: how are you , have u eaten...quit them. always be the first to break the conversation whether on phone or physically: i know u gono miss me much , but i got to go now, without waiting for her objection or otherwise, bounce out!

NevetsIbot:
andropod. Bring your nice guy azz dowwn here now and learn from another teacher. Bighead... Take a jotter and pen and write.
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#say no to nice guys

NLjona:


I used the text ...it worked ...I was amazed

but bro ...dis grl is my ex o.. I don't wanna gt in to any relationship back with her... jx want us to be cool .. any advice on that will be. much appreciated.. thanks

HARDDON:




the worse sickness is to be sick and not know u are sick andropod( what a moniker) reminds me of my military days( in movie dreams that is)

all our lives, momma tot us to be nice to ladies , u cant blame a nice a33 guy Nevs, just that we grew up and noticed it is a silent ploy to keep us(men) in chains and bonds all our lives, so that we always fall in line and do their bidding.

they had a meeting behind us and agreed that all their sons wud be tot to be nice, this way, they can maintain Obtain and maintain control over us , Control , our God given right!

why do u think all mother inlaws are witches to a man's wify? she is trying to alienate the son from his mum so that he can stop been NICE to the mum( buying her gifts, giving mum attention and been at her beck and call) and focus all his attention on HER forgetting that she too wud become a mother inlaw someday! get the jeck now?

been nice aint right. been nice strips u of all ur balls, guts and colours as a man, been nice make ladies friend zone u. why they do that is because they dont want their kids turning weaklings and not standing up for them selves just like their dads.

NevetsIbot:
tell him brother.. Andropod.. i hope you see the big picture now ehn?

HARDDON:
Due to Mail Demands, From now on, we would be posting and answering questions that where sent to me tru emails so that we all can benefit from them also. here go:

QUESTION FROM EMAIL

Thing is, I'm this closeted, shy kinda person yet not buoyant financially.
I'm currently friends with this girl who I now have feelings for.

I have in the guise of this done almost all that clingy n first-loving people do in the guise of being nice; I have idolised, over-complemented, smothered n allowed her have her ways before now.

Finally, I'll be relocating to another state in some days and I still haven't told her anything, though I guess she's sensed it already.

I've been afraid she might rebuff my advance knowing I haven't really built much attraction with her yet.

Can this situation be helped, should I still go ahead declaring my mind to her? Will you advise I give her more time n see about doing that from wherever I move to?



My Advise:

whatever you do, dont you ever tell her anything cos she already knows.

what you should do now is strive to create attraction not to sink down deep into the friend zone

have u ever kissed , touched , done any intimate thing with her b4?

have you guys ever gone dancing b4, club /party? ever drank any form of liquor with her? ever gone to the pool? if u were to call her now and tell her that u are going somewhere tomorow and want her to come along, wud she gladly come? kindly answer these questions so we know how to rightly advise u.

HARDDON:


I haven't really done any of the listed activities with her yet, save on few occasions when we went to eat together.
I don't know but I seem to give off this borne-again vibes (I actually am but certainly not close-minded)

She has an exam to write soon but I believe she'd still agree to a time-out.

Thanks

HARDDON:



Sorry buh i got more Qs cos of ur perculier situation :

How is she wen arround u? Does she enjoy ur company?

What do u guys discuss about when u r together most times? Have u been spending time together physically or on calls or chats? Has she been to ur place b4 alone?
Where did u meet her?

Is she born again too?

HARDDON:



She's a good girl, just not that serious as per religion.

As per where we met, we served in the same ppa actually shared workspace/table,

She's been to my place before but only because we were supposed to go somewhere together and I kept her at at the lobby/visitors' place downstairs.
I have been to her place a number of times
I'm about helping her locate another accommodation nearby and I don't think I'd be a persona non-grata there.
I most times talk about what's going on with her, (almost always about her exams, her plans which she doesn't like) I think I give off vibes of a weak, bookish thus boring personality.

NLjona:
bro it worked.... later she found out it was me and she was shocked and she even said she couldn't believe I was the one giving her such "high tension".. then I said " hope I didn't shock you?" she laughed .. kept saying that she missed me... of course I didn't respond to it too.. she started asking how I was and I answered then told her I'm busy that we'll talk some other time.... how did I do?... and pls what's the next setups cos I might just go back to that forest.. .. thanks a lot