1. Determine if you have been emotionally abused. When you think about the comments and the tone this person has barked, do you cringe or have some other physical reaction while having memories of him humiliating you? Do you feel numb when you interact with him? Is this numbness an unconscious way of distancing yourself from his mean spirit?
What do you think life would be like without the bad memories/negative physical reaction? Does a burden seem lifted? Do you feel safer?
2. Think about how your life would be if you didn’t have to interface with this person. You may be so programmed to take her abuse, that you are unaware of all the mental preparation involved in having to face her. You may be oblivious of how exhausting this process of taking the abuse and enabling her is.



Source: http://gennypearl..com.ng/2016/02/steps-to-take-in-considering-ending.html?m=1