Pals, i'm a graduate waitin for service, comfortable, me and my girlfriend went out for 3years,  We had the best of time and wished 2 get married but i wasn't ready and also glad she is still young(21) one day she got obsessed wit marriage. Always talkin bout marriage, and ask me if i was goin 2 marry her and when, i told her when i'm ready. She kept insistin  i own a car so i should have money to start a family but i keep tellin her my father bought it and all the money i spend comes frm him, i can't ask him for money 2 get married,  By the way i'm 24,  i broke up wit her over this but she refused sayin she can't do witout me,  Now she meet a guy and he ask her to marry him, witout much thought she broke up me. And two month after they are gettin married,  She told me she is doin it cause she want to be married, not love, i think maybe money sha cause he works,  But everybody that knows us together kept tellin not 2 loose her cause she is makin a big mistake even her younger sis but i can't promise,  What should i do,

Sometimes you can't force people to learn. . .you allow them make their own mistakes and learn. . .just move on. . .if your great guy. . .and this is the only reason she decided to break up with you. . .then she doesn't truly deserve you. . .so move on man. . .the one truly meant for you would come along just when the time is right.

Thanks Thonia, that is the only reason, I rem so well when she lost her father, i was wit her all thru his illness until he died right in our front, I'll do just dat,

Move on man my bro, you will find your own woman. Some people just have to learn the hard way, she is just too desperate for marriage.

@poster go and dance to the wedding

The hoe gon come running back to you. Just give it a lil time.

Only then, u can choose to do whatever u want with her without feeling guilty,

@poster
let her go and focus more on your future

@Poster,
Young man,i feel ur pain.but it is very simple,MOVE ON!!! She definately is makin' a mistake and she can learn away from u.I had same marriage issue wit my ex,although she ain't married yet,but i called it off before she'll decide to.U'll get someone worth while.Just let it go and move on.

@wilson007, I once had such experience in my first year in scool. She was 18 and a virgin and we dated for just one year. I promise not to deflower her cos I love her so much and I will never hurt her. But after a vacation for 4 months due to strike, she came back wit big stomach. I just cant believe it. The guy she told me is her uncle on her phone was really her husband. But he is old enough to be her father. Take heart, u are a guy u will surely see a nice girl just like d one I am chasin in my church.

u r lucky she showed her real self!

kill yourself.

;d ;d ;d

Thanks people, i feel so gud already, Except for van de jor that adviced me 2 kill myself.lol, Imagine, she calls me and tell me she loves me and ask if i'm fine like i should die over the break up, I'll fill u guys in on all the gist as time goes,

i understand that you care for her but since she is getting married you should stop accepting her calls she is a married woman now.
Move on nobody ever became complete as a result of marriage live your own life and enjoy being single lots of girls out there

just die !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

@ Poster,

Let the sleeping dog lies.

Thanks people, Keep it comin,

U wer nt meant 4each oda. SIMPLE!!!

pls let the bitch be.
wats the fucking matter with ladies this days, is there a craze for marriage?
if u dated for 3yrs, doesn't that say the r/s has a future.
always wanting to jump the gun.
abeg go the wedding go lem tight.

Let her go. she isnt worth it, ok?

Guy! go on and rock your life men, you are young. Forget her and move on with your life. Follow girls now that you are young and marry when you are old.

Hey peeps u are the best, u ll gave me the will 2 move on, But guess wat, i finally took her cal after several attempt. She wanted 2 bring up a make up gist but i told her 2 move on cause i have. Can u believe she doesn't even knw where he works, all she knws is, he has a house and cars, i 'm worried bout her, she said he is now her last ope since i've moved on. Cheap blackmail dont u think, The whole family wants me back but i cant, i can not trust a materialistic or desperate girl. Guess again money don enter my hand oh. I go soon change my car.Amen. Don't worry peeps, i'm eatin profit oh, ladies, i have lost all the trust i have for u 'll since d only girl i trusted messed up the little trust i had left. Her friends and sisters are callin but nothing dey happen, i'm not ready for marriage anytime soon, And the girls are comin oh, ope i don't become a player,

There's little u can do now except, Buy her a wedding gift
(nerve gas or a letter bomb, that kind of thing) and blow
off her brains.

@The seeker, just in case u are so stupid to knw dat this is a forum where people open up to others opinion, maybe u are too foolish 2 understand d simple ideology, don't get me wrong, ur insult are allowed but don't be stupid 2 say at my age i can't handle my emotions FOOL!! 2 head are better than one except ur dum ass, 'see who dey look 007 face'

war of words!
its gettin hot in here
i'm outta here!

No dear, just one bad egg, Pls stay,

but he is a cool guy
this is d 1st time av seen him involved

Maybe wrong use of word, I guess i'm sori but insult should be based on the post not otherwise.

@poster
Buy the latest Neyo CD (Year of a gentleman) and listen to the track FADE.

what are you waiting for, jump into a lake and die, wetin concern me