I am a happy married man also my wife. We loved each other to the core, God also loved us that HE blessed us with a child 9months after our wedding and the baby is 3months old. The issue is we(I and my wife) never had s€x since the birth of our baby and we are not even thinking about anything like S£x. Hope it's normal? Those that have been there before me, I hope to hear from you. No beef please.

hmmmm.

Is a choice

It depends on our libido....

We need more men like u and less of those thinking thru their pants. U did a good thing letting ur wife have all the tym she nids to recover from the stress of pregnancy and childbirth.
She will surely gv u d signal wen she is ready.

@ LOVEGINO
if you and your wife are genuinely not phased by that then its all good.

mineANDurs:
We need more men like u and less of those thinking thru their pants. U did a good thing letting ur wife have all the tym she nids to recover from the stress of pregnancy and childbirth.
She will surely gv u d signal wen she is ready.

funny how the OP wrote that he AND his wife (aka BOTH) does not desire sex lately, while you understood that "wifey isnt ready for sex therefore thats the reason why they havent had sex, and when SHE will be ready, they will again"

MRBrownJ:
@ LOVEGINO
if you and your wife are genuinely not phased by that then its all good.



funny how the OP wrote that he AND his wife (aka BOTH) does not desire sex lately, while you understood that "wifey isnt ready for sex therefore thats the reason why they havent had sex, and when SHE will be ready, they will again"

Goan sleep kid, gentlemen barely disturb their wives for sex after watching her go tru d stress of childbirth. Most women will even prefer not to have sex with their hubby ever again after experiencing childbirth but time they say heals all wound. They both need time to recover physically and emotionally.

What of konji na? Or is it absent from your marriage

mineANDurs:

Goan sleep kid, gentlemen barely disturb their wives for sex after watching her go tru d stress of childbirth. Most women will even prefer not to have sex with their hubby ever again after experiencing childbirth but time they say heals all wound. They both need time to recover physically and emotionally.

again, stop showing your bias state of mind by believing that everything in this issue is about WOMEN. but, as i see that you are clueless about what MEN go through, let me educate you on the issue, aunty:
- there are married men who turn away from sex because witnessing childbirth can be a traumatic experience that puts them off completely.
- there are married men that turn away from sex due to the sometimes unattractive sight of their pregnant wives and/or post birth physique.
- there are married men that turn away from sex after childbirth because they believe that, now that they have a child, they have done their duty and dont need to have sex with that woman again (especially in arranged marriages)
- there are married men that turn away from sex because they dont believe they can ever pleasure a woman that had a baby's head enlarge their vag1nas to an unrealistic size.

the list as to why men "could" turn away from sex after childbirth is endless, so stop thinking that this is all/only about women.

Again take 5
this is one of the few men with sense on nl

MRBrownJ:


again, stop showing your bias state of mind by believing that everything in this issue is about WOMEN. but, as i see that you are clueless about what MEN go through, let me educate you on the issue, aunty:
- there are married men who turn away from sex because witnessing childbirth can be a traumatic experience that puts them off completely.
- there are married men that turn away from sex due to the sometimes unattractive sight of their pregnant wives and/or post birth physique.
- there are married men that turn away from sex after childbirth because they believe that, now that they have a child, they have done their duty and dont need to have sex with that woman again (especially in arranged marriages)
- there are married men that turn away from sex because they dont believe they can ever pleasure a woman that had a baby's head enlarge their vag1nas to an unrealistic size.

the list as to why men "could" turn away from sex after childbirth is endless, so stop thinking that this is all/only about women.

mineANDurs:


Goan sleep kid, gentlemen barely disturb their wives for sex after watching her go tru d stress of childbirth. Most women will even prefer not to have sex with their hubby ever again after experiencing childbirth but time they say heals all wound. They both need time to recover physically and emotionally.

What do you mean gentlemen barely disturb?There is a reasonable period of recovery from childbirth which is usually 4-6wks after normal delivery.Nothing wrong with a man asking to get intimate with his wife at that time.

If a woman is normal,she should desire sex with her husband after childbirth.

@Op,since it's cool with both of you,there is nothing wrong here.When any of you is ready,you can go ahead.At 3months,your wife is completely healed so nothing to worry about.

Prior to childbirth what was your intimacy level like?
How about while she was pregnant?

Have you determined why YOU aren't suddenly keen on getting intimate with her?
I don't think its completely healthy for you both to abstain for so long except there are health issues or constraints in the marriage.

The longer you both abstain and get used to it the more apart you may drift from each other.

Intimacy in marriage is vital and very crucial...

n.b - I don't consider such abstinence normal

babythug:
Prior to childbirth what was your intimacy level like?
How about while she was pregnant?

Have you determined why YOU aren't suddenly keen on getting intimate with her?
I don't think its completely healthy for you both to abstain for so long except there are health issues or constraints in the marriage.

The longer you both abstain and get used to it the more apart you may drift from each other.

Intimacy in marriage is vital and very crucial...

n.b - I don't consider such abstinence normal

so what's ya advice?

LOVEGINO:
so what's ya advice?

That he should initiate intimacy between them once again....