Here are my 10 commandments for first-time sex, whether it's your first time ever or just with a new guy. While I can't guarantee you a religious experience, if you follow my lead I can promise you a sexual experience that will be all the more satisfying.

1. Safety first. There's no such thing as totally safe sex, but you sure can be safer. Make sure he's wearing a condom (even if you're on the Pill) and talk about your respective sexual histories. I know it may sound like a buzz-kill, but heterosexual women have a higher risk of contracting an STI (sexually transmitted infection) than men, so it's up to you to take a proactive interest in your sexual health.

2. Don't have too-high expectations. Sex generally improves as you get to know someone and become more comfortable with each other's bodies. So don't feel pressured to make it the best night ever, because this is just the first of many.

3. Breathe. First-time sex can be tense and nerve-wracking, not to mention painful sometimes. Taking long, deep breaths can help you relax and let go.

4. Don't forget to enjoy pre-intimacy. All the stuff that leads up to intercourse — kissing, touching, MouthAction — is part of the sexual experience; it's not just about penetration.

5. Make sure you're amply aroused before intercourse. Not only do you want to be genuinely turned on, you want to be sufficiently lubricated. If you're too dry, he'll have trouble entering you, you'll feel discomfort, and the friction can cause the condom to rip. So, keep water–based lube on hand just in case.

6. Speak up. Let him know what feels good, and what doesn't. Guys crave feedback, so don't be shy about clueing him in.

7. Don't assume he's the expert. He may be getting a lot of his information about sex from porn and the tall tales of his buddies in the locker room. And, even if he is experienced, every sexual encounter is unique. He's just as worried about pleasing you as you are about getting him off.

8. Don't expect to have an orgasm. Of course, it's great if you do. But, most women don't climax the first few times with a new guy. Orgasmscome with a sense of comfort and specific knowledge of each other's bodies, and that takes time.

9. Don't fake it. If you do, you'll only be cheating yourself. Letting him know you came close and want to get there with him will keep him motivated.

10. His penis may malfunction. Guys get anxious too. Premature ejaculation and erectile difficulty are common the first time a man sleeps with someone. If he has a problem, don't make a big deal out of it or worry that there's something wrong with you or your connection. More than likely, it will work itself out

This is good stuff.

Ladies need to learn how to do num6. Tell the guy what works best for you, You dont expect him to figure out ur love spots nd sexual fetishes with givin hints.

KingRex1:
This is good stuff.

Ladies need to learn how to do num6. Tell the guy what works best for you, You dont expect him to figure out ur love spots nd sexual fetishes with givin hints.

Not in most cases though. there is always something about sex that can't be uttered but to be discovered with growing intimacy. it is not always that she won't say it 'cos she's shy. instead, it's mostly because words don't exist for saying it. s*x is more fun as an adventure of personal finds. if you discover what she never knew she had (like her center of gravity) it's more fun than if she asked u "put ya finger here & tease it outwards" & center of gravity is just 1 in a million possibilities. Think am now!

This early morning?

Very true

Freelanswer:
Not in most cases though. there is always something about sex that can't be uttered but to be discovered with growing intimacy. it is not always that she won't say it 'cos she's shy. instead, it's mostly because words don't exist for saying it. s*x is more fun as an adventure of personal finds. if you discover what she never knew she had (like her center of gravity) it's more fun than if she asked u "put ya finger here & tease it outwards" & center of gravity is just 1 in a million possibilities. Think am now!

Wldnt say you're wrong. There shld be a balance, somethings maybe her longtime cravings nd others turn her off.. If she doesnt talk at all, u sef know the rest.

It shld also an adventure too. So the serious ones should be told nd others should be left to figure out nd exploit

ritaoritza:
Here are my 10 commandments for first-time sex, whether it's your first time ever or just with a new guy. While I can't guarantee you a religious experience, if you follow my lead I can promise you a sexual experience that will be all the more satisfying.

1. Safety first. There's no such thing as totally safe sex, but you sure can be safer. Make sure he's wearing a condom (even if you're on the Pill) and talk about your respective sexual histories. I know it may sound like a buzz-kill, but heterosexual women have a higher risk of contracting an STI (sexually transmitted infection) than men, so it's up to you to take a proactive interest in your sexual health.

2. Don't have too-high expectations. Sex generally improves as you get to know someone and become more comfortable with each other's bodies. So don't feel pressured to make it the best night ever, because this is just the first of many.

3. Breathe. First-time sex can be tense and nerve-wracking, not to mention painful sometimes. Taking long, deep breaths can help you relax and let go.

4. Don't forget to enjoy pre-intimacy. All the stuff that leads up to intercourse — kissing, touching, MouthAction — is part of the sexual experience; it's not just about penetration.

5. Make sure you're amply aroused before intercourse. Not only do you want to be genuinely turned on, you want to be sufficiently lubricated. If you're too dry, he'll have trouble entering you, you'll feel discomfort, and the friction can cause the condom to rip. So, keep water–based lube on hand just in case.

6. Speak up. Let him know what feels good, and what doesn't. Guys crave feedback, so don't be shy about clueing him in.

7. Don't assume he's the expert. He may be getting a lot of his information about sex from porn and the tall tales of his buddies in the locker room. And, even if he is experienced, every sexual encounter is unique. He's just as worried about pleasing you as you are about getting him off.

8. Don't expect to have an orgasm. Of course, it's great if you do. But, most women don't climax the first few times with a new guy. Orgasmscome with a sense of comfort and specific knowledge of each other's bodies, and that takes time.

9. Don't fake it. If you do, you'll only be cheating yourself. Letting him know you came close and want to get there with him will keep him motivated.

10. His penis may malfunction. Guys get anxious too. Premature ejaculation and erectile difficulty are common the first time a man sleeps with someone. If he has a problem, don't make a big deal out of it or worry that there's something wrong with you or your connection. More than likely, it will work itself out

Are there still virgins in Nigeria?

Noted

OP, the secret Oloshos will soon come for your head!!

They Insult anybody who talks about sex on Nairaland and bleep themselves out outside this forum!!

Nice Tips OP

ayusco85:


Are there still virgins in Nigeria?

There are...many, in fact! Just that they have been ostracised, like in the days of the Early Church, & the early Christians had to lock themselves in a room!

...& a lot of people that "gave in" did that because it seemed they were wrong, as no-one made them see any merit of the fact that one isn't among the 'crowd'!

For me, I rep. the #VirginWorld till I take her to the aisle! I won't give in!!!

AngryNigerian:
There are...many, in fact! Just that they have been ostracised, like in the days of the Early Church, & the early Christians had to lock themselves in a room!

...& a lot of people that "gave in" did that because it seemed they were wrong, as no-one made them see any merit of the fact that one isn't among the 'crowd'!

For me, I rep. the #VirginWorld till I take her to the aisle! I won't give in!!!

i love virgins too. they have a better view of relationships and marriage. am blessed with one. though havent married her yet

ayusco85:


i love virgins too. they have a better view of relationships and marriage. am blessed with one. though havent married her yet

Ehyaaa!!! I de envy you ooo!!! Seal the deal sharpaly oo...whatever people say, we are still priceless!

AngryNigerian:


Ehyaaa!!! I de envy you ooo!!! Seal the deal sharpaly oo...whatever people say, we are still priceless!

yea. buhari regime ve to pass before i marry

ayusco85:


yea. buhari regime ve to pass before i marry

2019 chaa! Hiei!!! E tay oo...no punish d nnwa ooo! To wait till den no go easy for her @ all!

Hmm, the adventure of sex I like that, has a ring to it.

That said I have my own question, this is for guys,
Do you drive the same pleasure from mouth action as you do sex??

Or is it a different level of ecstasy??.

This is related to the thread o, first timers need to know.
Only married guys should answer o, the only legitimized people to know.