Mprex:
if you ask me, na who i go ask?

SirShymexx:
So the question is: if you don’t like the idea of a man being the head, why do you desire a guy with qualities to dominate you, and not someone you can easily dominate?

SirShymexx:
So the question is: if you don’t like the idea of a man being the head, why do you desire a guy with qualities to dominate you, and not someone you can easily dominate?

True love and the bulk of happy relationships aren't about who's superior to the other or who's dominating who. Its about support, mutual respect and loyalty, concepts you probably aren't familiar with to ask this kind of question

SirShymexx:
Earlier today, I was listening to Anthony Joshua’s interview with Ace on BBC 1extra. Ace must have asked him why he’s still single and told him that loads of chics have been disturbing him for AJ’s details, including female celebrities, especially a popular R&B singer he went on tour with recently. AJ just chuckled and smiled and, he responded by saying: a few years ago, when he was out there wearing fake Evisu jeans from Wembley market, no chic was checking for him. He went further to talk about being one of the guys who used stand at the corner in the club cos chics never wanted him. But now that he’s successful, everyone thinks he’s a sex symbol and the best available bachelor. You can’t but look at that and start wondering why a guy who has always been good looking with the same physique never got any chics – till he got to a position of power, money, fame, and success – where he can control whatever chic he decides to get involved with.

Furthermore, the pattern he spoke about is a common narrative of almost all guys who went from nothing to something. However, conversely, with guys, it’s the complete opposite. The more successful a woman gets, the more she scares guys away. So, basically, what attracts women to guys is what scares guys away from women. And the key words there are: success, power, and control.

Now when we break it down further to how a lot of chics these days find the idea of a man being the head of the family repulsive and, correlate it with the fact that most of them are naturally/subconsciously attracted to success, power, control, and a man who can dominate them – then you have wonder if they’re confused or they just basically love being unnecessarily belligerent, to hear what they sound like. So the question is: if you don’t like the idea of a man being the head, why do you desire a guy with qualities to dominate you, and not someone you can easily dominate?

delishpot:
Just like a girl considered ugly even though she has good character will have no one asking her out but if she does plastic surgery and looks good, many guys will suddenly start wanting her to be in their arms. Such is life. People identify with fame and fortune. If you don't have fame, then have the looks that will buy other peoples envy and you are good to go

SirShymexx:


Lol.

I don't think you understand what I was alluding to and based on 90% of the comments on the thread thus far, especially the females. Perhaps it is cos women are naturally emotional beings.

Regardless I get ya point but that is for a different argument. This has absolutely nothing to do with looks, and more to do with how women are naturally/subconsciously attracted to guys with power/control, who can easily dominate them, yet a lot of them have a problem with men being the head of the family and the authority. The guy, AJ, I used as a case study has always been good looking with great physique, even before he got famous. Another classic example is Trey Songz who had a similar story but today, chics see him as a very desirable. I'd wager that since a lot of them hate the idea of a guy dominating/controlling them as the authority - they're best served going for guys they can dominate. We all have powers to an extent to create/control our own realities and I'm just trying to help a lot of these chics who moan all the time out loool.

Conversely, the average guy is like a hunter, and every time he goes out there to hunt for preys, cos of the way he's wired - he mostly goes for chics he can easily control/dominate. And even if he doesn't have the means to - he'll sell her a big dream.

Ever wondered why a lot of women who are top executives are always single and ready to mingle, yet they don't get that many suitors? And most of them are always very attractive/lush cos they take good care of themselves. However, the reverse is the case when it comes to guys at the top cos they're chics magnet lol.

delishpot:




Now I get you. But you see, when a person has money and power, it is easy for such person to call the shots and others will listen and do as they wish esp if tgose being put ubder control do not have the means to do things themselves. Women are naturally wired to be pampered and cared for or to expect such from their men. Even in the past, when our fathers picked husbands for their daughters, appart from looking at the mans character and background, they try to pick the men with good lands, businesses and farms, titles etc as this shows that their daughters will not lack in their husbands homes. A man who has money can do that in many ways and his woman will see him as being manly but just so you know, not every man who spends on a woman is having it easy dominating and subdueing his woman. Some women will chop ya money smaile and still see you as mugu.
But yes, it goes both ways. Men are wired to marry beautiful well endowed women who will give them beautiful kids while women go for a man with wealth and power who will be able to take care of her and her family. It is natural instinct. Just as men claim that they are polygamous in nature and expect women to understand, I believe men should also realise that women instinctively go for the strongest man in the pack who can provide for her and her kids and money is a good source for provision.

YourCoffin:
It's all red-herring. Has nothing to do with them being emotional. It's simply an act of creating mystery by inventing confusion. A great manipulative tactic.

Suigeneris93:



True love and the bulk of happy relationships aren't about who's superior to the other or who's dominating who. Its about support, mutual respect and loyalty, concepts you probably aren't familiar with to ask this kind of question

Suigeneris93:



True love and the bulk of happy relationships aren't about who's superior to the other or who's dominating who. Its about support, mutual respect and loyalty, concepts you probably aren't familiar with to ask this kind of question

plaetton:


Those things like support, mutual respect and loyalty are artificial, they are ideals that we try to live by.

They are certainly not the underlying dynamics of male/ female relationships.

Male/ female relationships have a biological and evolutionary basis.

Therefore, I agree completely with the OP.

Males And females seek the opposite qualities from one another.

SirShymexx:


Very sensible post.

Now you get my point. So if that's the case and naturally/subconsciously, women love being dominated by the opposite sex and that's what they're attracted to - why do a lot of them make noise and make a fuss about men being the head/authority?

I believe like "YourCoffin" diagnosed like the supreme doctor that he's, most of them are just confusionists lol.

delishpot:


Na women's LIB cause am. Plus many men abuse their powers.

plaetton:


Those things like support, mutual respect and loyalty are artificial, they are ideals that we try to live by.

They are certainly not the underlying dynamics of male/ female relationships.

Male/ female relationships have a biological and evolutionary basis.

Therefore, I agree completely with the OP.

Males And females seek the opposite qualities from one another.

plaetton:

True love is a misnomer.
Isn't it funny that it's always women that talk of true love ?
A woman cannot truly love a man whom she dominates or who doesn't command an upper hand in the emotional , finance or other critical aspects of the relationship.
Here again, we see nature at play.

jadelyn007:
Shymexx tell me if you had a choice between a pretty low born ijebu girl and dangote's daughter, which would you choose?
Everyone wants to marry up, because it affords you better opportunities in life and it puts you on a higher pedestal.
Another thing you should consider is that men usually go for younger girls who are yet to establish themselves financially.
A 35yr old spinster or bachelor will most likely marry down.
I had men coming for me since I was 19. Financially established men, would you have expected me to have anything apart from my educational certificate then?
When men start going for their mates age wise then people are more likely to marry within their ranks