man, no offence but you kinda sonund deperate. look,new-found love is like hot pepper soup which must be taken softly from the edges of the bowl and with a teaspoon.
there's a line in this old school track(cant really remember the artist now) that says: dont push it, dont force it, let it happen naturally; it will surely happen if it was meant to be.
forcing yourself on the girl will not make her change her mind towards you or like you any better. it might even irritate her. ladies have a rather complex nature i must confess. just play your part like a man. best of all you have told her your true intentions. be nice to her and when she needs your help do it like you dont expect any thanks or reward in return.
this works for me. i just hope it does for you.
best of luck bro

let her be, u're prolly pestering her a lot. If she is meant to be urs, she'll be back.

what are you doing why are you trying to be kind to the other guy this is a game that should be well played convince da girl you like her and stay true, is that your photo you look cute (i'm not flirting) anyway buy her gift if you have oppurtunity to maybe she'll feel something and tell her she's beautiful. goodluck

i think she's just playing hard to get.
dont give up man.

Ice i kinda buy ya idea but u know something has to die for something to live.life is a jungle survival of the fitest.u have to be strong man.keep ya game going if she she is meant to be she will come around.if u see are more often that her BF,then i think u are at the advantageous side,take advantage of that and try to spend time as much as u can.make her feel loved and care for.tell her those things that guy don't tell her.always comment positively on every little change u notice in her.,her new style of hair,her new dress,every little thing.notice every little positive change in her and tell it to her.that shows u truly care.cos u pay attention to verything that has to do with her.best of luck man.

thanks everybody, i love u all. it really worked out live here. i love this girl and now she's all mine and mine alone.

hhhmmmm,your just so funny.it might work now,but how are you sure it would still work out later?

Ben Wood:

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i disturbed her as i donot want to accept her no for an answer, to be precise, this girl has the qualities i have ever prayed for in a lady, i know in her lies my happiness, i feel good any time i'm with her.
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If only you could see beyond your fantasies

Enjoy while it lasts, anyway

@Ben Wood

Good for you.hope u keep her well cos another you may be out there in love with her also and you also may loose her just the way the other guy lost her to you.

And what goes around, comes around. . . Like I said, enjoy while it lasts

Dude! Word of advice: Leave her while u can. Reasons:

1. She's got feelings for her man
2. You convinced her to consider u
3. she's just doing this to please u
4. She doesnt wanna hurt her man

Whatever u make her do, someone else will make either of u do in future. She's probably very vulnerable but trust me, it ain't kool taking love from someone else, it backfires all the time and the results can be awfully painful so make up your mind and be wise about it. there will always be more where she came from.

@ Ben Wood

I can see that u need extra lessons and experience in this love 'catch-me-if-u-can' game. Why are u happy she's now urs, she was urs right from the beginning. The kogi guy was simply non-existent. This antic is a usual feminine fairy formulation designed to make u see them as the prize to be won. She was just evaluating ur seriousness. And u fell for such ploys, as it stands she is on a higher position in the rship and u will always struggle hard to please her. Wake up boy.

Yeah, men most times start the wooing furore but experienced guys know how to break the defences of the ladies and then turn the table around and u will see them desperately chasing and madly clinging to u, the rship is sweetest at that point

Is that so? Your name na sorry

yes o, i'm talking from experience

lecturer how do you turn the table around?

it is called the push and pull effect, u have to make urself the prize

the ways u make this happen depend on ur creativity

like leaving her alone if she doesnt call or show up, Mr lecturer spill it

wow!!!!!!!! what a good post there everybody, u know what? u all made a point, and all your views are wise. a word they say is enough for the wise, but the truth is this girl is now in love with me, how to keep her for my self alone is what am working on.

she believes i'm the wright guy 4 her and that is true. please don't critisice the relationship. advice me how to keep and make her happy. because she is everything to me, to God i love her very very much.

Girls i need your views on how to keep her in this type of situation.

THANK YOU ALL FOR UR CONTRIBUTIONS.

I LOVE U ALL.

now i know your more foolish than i thought,don't take it as an insult just a statement

@thoniaslim thats not fair baby
@benwood i am glad u r both in love.Treat her like a lady ,make her feel loved,know what she likes(without even u asking) and alwas focus on it.And most especially "lovers tend to care more about their loved ones than themselves" .Love is the mutual tendency of two individuals to reinforce each other.I am always happy when 2 pple are in love.it is very invisible in our society.SO BRO KEEP ON KEEPING ON.

what isn't fair,he actually took her from someone else  and he is saying he is the right man for her,dreamer

y'all must be joking right?how old r u ben that u need help in maintaing a relationship?no wonder the girl told u she wasnt interested at first?u had better get ur priorities straight n' rite cos "at a time---no time!!!

remember he didnt give us the full gist.What if she didnt love the 1st guy and was just holding on to him ,and then suddenly her prince charming arrives and sweeps her off her feet.Every relationship must rest on a solid foundation .if not it will break down.My definition of solid foundation is LOVE.

@senator
Solid foundation in a relationship should rest on TRUST not LOVE!cos when it begins with trust --love would definately follow as the building of the relationship!

Word,it would fall

Let her Breatheeeee, pleeease!!!!!!!!!!!!.
i personally dont like men that pester girls. leave her alone. it's her life she can take as long as she wants to make up her mind.

odada:

@senator
Solid foundation in a relationship should rest on TRUST not LOVE!because when it begins with trust --love would definately follow as the building of the relationship!

Love and trust goes hand in hand just like horses and carriages.it feels coooooo looovin someboddy and sombody loves u back(can't remember the song again).IF love is reciprocated every other thing comes in including trust

@thoniaslim
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what would?I dont understand?do u mean the building(love)or foundation(trust)

I think Thoniaslim believes that love is the bedrock but that original poster's relationship is not founded in love