[size=16pt]1. Nonchalant Attitude[/size]

Most women who suffer domestic violence must have somehow seen the signs while they were dating their husbands. But many women prefer to live under the illusion that the men would change or they are probably madly in love with them. Love is not aggressive, it is kind. Love would not hit you hard and make you lose your mind.

Some women have been hit by their partners during courtship, yet they make up excuses for them and still walk down the aisle. A man who beats you before marriage could kill you as soon as you become his wife.

[size=16pt]2. Thirst For Materialism[/size]

Some women do not want to live within the means of their husbands and end up bruising the men’s ego. They are too sophisticated for the men they are married too and confront the men with this point.

Some women make their husbands feel worthless while shun theirs openly. Attitudes like these could frustrate anyone and bring out the beasts in them.

[size=16pt]3. Infidelity[/size]

It is not appropriate for anyone to cheat within the clause of marriage; the society promotes men as philanderers who cannot be checked as a result of their sex. This could hurt a woman and also push her to explore that option too.

If you are tired of that union, find your way out peacefully. But do not ever mock your husbands by flaunting your extramarital affairs in their faces.

Those that tried it are six feet under the ground, and those who lived to tell their own tales are not healthy
now.

[size=16pt]4. Unchecked Utterances[/size]
Women are known to be loud most times with many nagging every little chance they have. Certain words spoken by women also infuriate the men and could make them go beyond their limits.

The tongue is a sharp sword; some use their tongues to bring down their husbands and make them depressed. Do not use yours to destroy your home. Although this is not a justification on the men’s part, it would be wise for the women to steer clear of things that may birth trouble in that marriage.

[size=16pt]5. Failure To Leave An Abusive Marriage[/size]
We understand that most of the women in our society are good mothers ‘’, we implore you to stop using your children as an excuse to put up with domestic violence and abuses in your marriage.

These children would grow up and become what God wants them to be. If you die during a fatal domestic violence, these kids’ lives continue.
Women find different excuses to stay in abusive
relationships. Some profess their love for the men who beat them and think they cannot do without them.

Some simply enjoy the doses of affection that come after a violent attack from their husbands.
Marriage is not a do or die affair. Any union that
would steal your peace and cut short your life span is not worth fighting for.

BluStreak:
The way this present generation throw divorce around leaves much to be desired. Is this how far disconnect we have become from reality? Divorce has become a melodious hyme everyone is singing to now. In this new chant for divorce, no one stops to consider the traumatic effect it will leave on the children from such marriages. It rewires their perception to life and in some cases exposes them to various forms of abuse.

I won't wanna dig deeper into the many horrors of divorce as it affects the innocent children from the union. This however does not mean I encourage domestic violence or sitting tight in violent and life threatening marriages.

Marriage takes a lot of work to make it work. The ADULTS involved should fucckkin be adults and correct their stupidity for the interest of the innocent kids and make that marriage work. Women should learn to be loyal and bridle their tongue, for it will yield better results when they say less hurtful things to their partners. No one can understand your marriage better than you that's in it. Friends most often will encourage you to do what they wouldn't do when face with the same situation you find yourself. Better still they'd want u in the same shoes as they are - afterall, misery loves company.

We can all learn to live in peace and bring up lovely children to make our society a better place.

mineANDurs:
Nice points OP.
But d title is very wrong,
No one shuld be blamed for domestic violence, no matter wat ur partner does to u, u r not supposed to raise ur fists on him or her.

What happened to divorce?

Parents shuld try to train and empower their children so they dont have to put up with an abusive partner because of financial instability.

mineANDurs:
Nice points OP. But d title is very wrong,

Timbuktou:
No be Toks2008 thread be this?

mii4u:
Nice write up