Making Right Choices in
Marriage
Dear Reader,
You are welcome to another
segment on this column.
Throughout this month, I shall be
deliberating on the topic: Making
Right Choices in Marriage.
Choice is one of the fundamental
principles of the Kingdom of God.
Whatever or wherever you are
today is a product of the choices
you made yesterday. Daily, you
and I are confronted with choices
whether to pray, what to eat,
what to wear, where to go, what
to buy, what to give, whom to
marry etc.
Choices make a world of
difference between success and
failure, joy and sorrow, peace
and chaos, life and death etc.
The Word of God says : I call
heaven and earth to record this
day against you, that I have set
before you life and death,
blessing and cursing: therefore
choose life, that both thou and
thy seed may live (Deuteronomy
30:19).
From the above scripture, God
has given you the opportunity to
choose life. The choices you
make in life are determined by
the quality of your relationship
with God. The Word of God says:
For it is God which worketh in
you both to will and to do of his
good pleasure (Philippians 2:13).
Let me show you one of the ways
of making a right choice in
marriage:
Get Acquainted with God
Being single is a time to be more
acquainted with God than any
other time. It is a time to
experience a closer communion
with God. The Word of God says :
Acquaint now thyself with him,
and be at peace: thereby good
shall come unto thee (Job 22:21)
. The closer you are to God
determines how close He will be
to you. The Word of God says: …
Draw nigh to God, and he will
draw nigh to you (James 4:

.
When you build a closer
relationship with God and
acquaint yourself with Him, it is
only good that is permitted to
come your way. That good
includes a good husband or a
good wife. The Word of God
says: … Whoso findeth a wife
findeth a good thing…
(Proverbs18:22). If you are
single, this is the time you need
to build a closer relationship with
God and to develop yourself in
the things of God. Every time I
have the privilege, I tell ladies
who are not married yet that they
can be single and useful.
As a single man or woman, if you
will look up to Jesus and seek to
please Him, rather than being
concerned about a mate, soon,
you will meet the right one. As a
single, what are you expected to
do in your single days before you
find your covenant spouse? You
have to build a close relationship
with God. I see everyone reading
this article who is not yet
married but due for it,
successfully married in Jesus’
name. I see this year as your
year of breakthrough. If the devil
has said you will not get married,
with the enemy alive or dead, you
shall be married. Not just
married, you will be successfully
married. No more shame for you!
From glory to glory is your
portion this year!
What I am saying here is this:
You need to build a closer
relationship with God before you
get married. Learn to enjoy a
close walk with God. If as a
single, you read your Bible only
on Sundays when you go to
church, and after that, you close
it until next Sunday, you can’t
build a closer relationship with
God. If you eat your earthly food
three times daily, why do you
think you can go without
spiritual food for a whole day? I
see God releasing grace upon
you to be able to practice His
Word.
You need to find a place to serve
God in the church. There are
several arms in the church where
you can serve God. Don’t just be
a benchwarmer in the church;
God rewards only labourers. He
doesn’t reward benchwarmers or
onlookers. If you don’t belong to
any group that is contributing
something to the Kingdom of
God, go and join one; stop sitting
down in church and ‘warming the
bench’. From today, you will be a
contributing member in the body
of Christ. As you keep doing that,
God will keep rewarding you in
the name of Jesus Christ!
I can never forget some years
ago in Kaduna when we had a
convention. One of the women
came and her home was
troubled. In fact, her husband
was ready to send her away. To
complicate issues, she had no
child. When she came for the
convention, she told herself “I am
going to locate a place to serve.”
Then, she went to join the
Sanitation Group. That is, those
who clean the toilet. Not even
those that were cleaning the
sanctuary but toilet. God was not
only watching, He was working
and cleaning her marriage. The
meeting ended and she went
back home. Lo and behold, it was
a new marriage and a new
husband! As she was cleaning
out the dirt in the toilet, God was
cleaning out everything that
ought not to be in her marriage. I
see God doing the same thing in
your life today!
You cannot succeed in marriage
until you have succeeded as a
single. If as a single, you find it
difficult to pray, read your Bible,
attend fellowship or be in service
in the Kingdom and if your heart
is not panting after God, the
chances that you will develop
these habits after marriage are
slim. No serious-minded believer
will want to go into a
relationship with an unserious
Christian. The Word of God says:
But seek ye first the kingdom of
God, and his righteousness; and
all these things shall be added
unto you (Matthew 6:33). I want
you to know that a good husband
or a good wife is an addition.
Find a place, therefore, to serve
God and He will give you the
right partner.
Making right choices begins with
having a close relationship with
God. If you are not born again,
you need to surrender your life to
Christ. Surrendering to Christ
entails confessing your sins and
accepting Him as your Lord and
Saviour. If you want to do that
right now, you can say this
prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I
come to You today. I am a
sinner. Forgive me of my sins
and cleanse me with Your Blood.
Deliver me from sin and satan to
serve the living God. I accept You
as my Lord and Saviour. Make
me a child of God today. Thank
You for accepting me into Your
Kingdom.”
Congratulations! You are now
born again! All-round rest and
peace are guaranteed you, in
Jesus’ Name.