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Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by vicdall(f): 8:42am On Jun 15, 2016
bakynes:
You are right abt the " No matter how much you spend on a girl she will still say you havent done anything" I think they think because they give us Sex they are doing us a favour. Thats why i dont know the difference between them and prostitutes. The money you spend on them have expiry date. They wont spend their money to buy you a little gift all is to collect and give sex. Your own money is our money, theirs is my money. All the money na on top cloth, makeup and weave-on. Shameless species.
Boyfriend to shameless species.
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by MizMyColi(f): 8:42am On Jun 15, 2016
I don't know how to address Mr OP without coming off as judgemental, but I will do my best.

I went through the other thread where you broke up with her because her best friend's guy always calls her to explain his issues.

My perception of you is that you have a controlling attitude, a dysfunctional alpha male syndrome and a little bit of trust issues.

Seriously?
You broke up with your girlfriend over what she chooses to do with her time?

So because you're dating her and possibly provide heaven and earth for her then she must also watch you guide and direct her life?

Omase o sad

OP, you better talk true.
Because your reason for breaking up is very flimsy and shows you likely have a below par mentality.

Coming to the issue of discourse on this thread.

Your girlfriend was wrong to have made that statement.

But then, just like you, she was angry.

Before writing her off completely, have you tried to find out why she said she's managing you?

Perhaps is it because you've been trying to control who she talks to?
Perhaps she's not the kind that likes being bossed around?

Why do you have to think that managing you has to do with the money or tushing up that you give her?

I pray an angel ministers to her to let go of you already.

Men might be scarce, but good Men are never scace for good and genuine women & vice versa.

It may tarry, but they will surely have their heart desires met.

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Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by UglyMe(f): 8:43am On Jun 15, 2016
bakynes:
You are right abt the " No matter how much you spend on a girl she will still say you havent done anything" I think they think because they give us Sex they are doing us a favour. Thats why i dont know the difference between them and prostitutes. The money you spend on them have expiry date. They wont spend their money to buy you a little gift all is to collect and give sex. Your own money is our money, theirs is my money. All the money na on top cloth, makeup and weave-on. Shameless species.
, if ur gf is not spending on u that does apply to all, so stop generalizing. If i tell you my story u wont believe it.
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by Maxvasia(m): 8:43am On Jun 15, 2016
I actually thought u leant ur lesson from that experience. Mayb u need a harsher one from her to realise that this girl is not in love with u but in love with wot she has to gain from u. Ur experienced proves me right that no man shud allow his woman's salary be part of the upbuilding of the family unless pleaded for and approved by you. When we hear stories like this, one gets scared to venture into marrying.
alexistaiwo:
My girlfriend and I got into a hot argument last month which degenerated into a break up. During the argument, lots of hurtful words were exchanged but she made the fatal error of saying that she is managing me. This is a girl that I literally 'toshed up' and I had provided all her needs from 2014 we started dating up to that point.
Two weeks later, she came back begging to be accepted back. she said she said those words out of provocation since I was the one that insulted her first. As a sure guy, I accepted her back but made a promise to my self that I will never spend a substantial amount of my money on her again since it seems that she is the ungrateful type.
Her love for me isn't in doubt but guys wise up. Don't go bankrupt because of a girl, at the end of the day she will say that you haven't done anything.
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by Epatty(f): 8:43am On Jun 15, 2016
alexistaiwo:
My girlfriend and I got into a hot argument last month which degenerated into a break up. During the argument, lots of hurtful words were exchanged but she made the fatal error of saying that she is managing me. This is a girl that I literally 'toshed up' and I had provided all her needs from 2014 we started dating up to that point.
Two weeks later, she came back begging to be accepted back. she said she said those words out of provocation since I was the one that insulted her first. As a sure guy, I accepted her back but made a promise to my self that I will never spend a substantial amount of my money on her again since it seems that she is the ungrateful type.
Her love for me isn't in doubt but guys wise up. Don't go bankrupt because of a girl, at the end of the day she will say that you haven't done anything.
Is dat total forgiveness? u wudn't ve accepted her if u stil harbour al dat in ur mind cos u'l stil find ursef spending on ha, dats jst d truth
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by UglyMe(f): 8:44am On Jun 15, 2016
bakynes:
You are right abt the " No matter how much you spend on a girl she will still say you havent done anything" I think they think because they give us Sex they are doing us a favour. Thats why i dont know the difference between them and prostitutes. The money you spend on them have expiry date. They wont spend their money to buy you a little gift all is to collect and give sex. Your own money is our money, theirs is my money. All the money na on top cloth, makeup and weave-on. Shameless species.
, if ur gf is not spending on u that doesn't apply to all, so stop generalizing. If i tell you my story u wont believe it.
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by Nobody: 8:44am On Jun 15, 2016
Same thing happened to me too and I promised myself not to spend heavy on her again. I got to be a little wiser in flavours voice. These hoes ain't really loyal.
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by Funkybabee(f): 8:50am On Jun 15, 2016
hardon1:
poster, if she were ur wife, would you send her packing just because she said she is managing you?
Women physically dont hv strength, hence their strenght lies in their mouth. Its high time u know that the average woman have bad mouth.
Moreover you only told your side of the story. Girls may have bad mouth, it doesnt me they are not sensitive in their choice of words over a man they like. When people quarrel, they try to outdo each other at words. IMO, you must thrown her a missile and then she releases atomic bomb just to make sure it hits you hard.
You probably used words like ashawo - 'nothin hurts a woman more when she hears this from a man she sacrifices her love and fidelity to', or u probably said 'her father is stupid or a drunkard', 'her mother is a witch', 'her family is so poor rhat you can feed them all' .... The list is endless.
So my brother, if uyou have said hurtful things as well, accept her fully and enjoy you relationship. If you dont want her fully, kindly let her go, just like someone said.
Even married women somtimes say it to their husbands in the heat of provocation
hardon1:
poster, if she were ur wife, would you send her packing just because she said she is managing you?
Women physically dont hv strength, hence their strenght lies in their mouth. Its high time u know that the average woman have bad mouth.
Moreover you only told your side of the story. Girls may have bad mouth, it doesnt me they are not sensitive in their choice of words over a man they like. When people quarrel, they try to outdo each other at words. IMO, you must thrown her a missile and then she releases atomic bomb just to make sure it hits you hard.
You probably used words like ashawo - 'nothin hurts a woman more when she hears this from a man she sacrifices her love and fidelity to', or u probably said 'her father is stupid or a drunkard', 'her mother is a witch', 'her family is so poor rhat you can feed them all' .... The list is endless.
So my brother, if uyou have said hurtful things as well, accept her fully and enjoy you relationship. If you dont want her fully, kindly let her go, just like someone said.
Even married women somtimes say it to their husbands in the heat of provocation


thank you bro u have said it all
we woman we don't have heart to take things we have a soft heart

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Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by amaeve2(f): 8:52am On Jun 15, 2016
Amaeve2

Did u forget also the hurtful words u used on her during the argument? Guy,abeg judge urself and stop prioritizing here.
The fact that she left her Ego to plead with u doesn't make u give her terms and conditions which is never gonna b applied. if u can't spend on her any,then live her or don't complain wen she misbehave with another masculine/Dude. Lol
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by MrObontami(m): 8:54am On Jun 15, 2016
UIA04:

If all you said is the truth
I'm sorry to say but


YOU ARE A BIG FOOL

i if you marry such a lady you'll live your life spending on her and her family.

That girl must be lazy and shameless.


Do you really earn that much,a wise woman would take that money save and start a business of hers. What if you guys break up. She'll be left high and dry. I bet she already has a back up plan for her lazy lifestyle if you guys break up. But you aren't aware of it.

A girl like that can't depend on one guy, because of oju kokoro.


I laugh in spiritual powers. You even give her family and she's just a girlfriend.

If I was you younger sister I'll curse you.


Please wise up teach her to catch fish or you will marry a liability and suffer all your life.

Well said grin
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by JealousPrince1(m): 9:00am On Jun 15, 2016
Hmmm
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by teebee22(f): 9:06am On Jun 15, 2016
bakynes:
You are right abt the " No matter how much you spend on a girl she will still say you havent done anything" I think they think because they give us Sex they are doing us a favour. Thats why i dont know the difference between them and prostitutes. The money you spend on them have expiry date. They wont spend their money to buy you a little gift all is to collect and give sex. Your own money is our money, theirs is my money. All the money na on top cloth, makeup and weave-on. Shameless species.
I want to believe ur last two words were nt generalized cos i want to remind u dat u've got a mum nd sister(s).
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by Nobody: 9:07am On Jun 15, 2016
MrObontami:


My brother I weak for the guy Ooooo
Just dey yarn rubbish for mouth
Abi the girl put gun for him head make she spend money for her ??
Some guys sef angry
The guy mumu no get rival. He been dey even form kingkong ontop BULLSHYT grin cheesy grin
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by Emirofsambisa1: 9:09am On Jun 15, 2016
Chrisrare:
Who still spend money on gf dis days probably don't hav any ambition or goal in life.
- Robert Mugabe, 1971
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by bejeria101(m): 9:21am On Jun 15, 2016
Same scenario happend to a friend and it was her he intended to marry,he is married with a daughter and based in canada,she is based in nigeria and nt yet married. Wonder what ladies get by running their mouth.
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by IRserveMyComent(f): 9:25am On Jun 15, 2016
Oksman:
@queencalipso words are like eggs dropped from a height once released, i guess you know the outcome. The power of life and death belongs to the tongue, hence,watch what you say tnx and remain blessed.
Yes words are like egg... but tell the op to tell us the exact thing he said befor that girl made that statement. As far as am concerned this is a 1 sided story. If the girl should come out to say the things op said befor she made that statement am sure you MIGHT agree he deserves to be told more. I always tell people to walk away in the face of anger and heated arguement especially with loved ones, if not you are bound to say things you would regret later.
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by Rukkydelta(f): 9:25am On Jun 15, 2016
4stylz:

Trash, are you competing with guys?
No I'm not. I'm just stating the obvious
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by 5minsmadness: 9:26am On Jun 15, 2016
eiBADAn:


Honestly, there is no lie in all I said. I'm not trying to brag, but my dad is a billionaire and she knows this. I'm currently planning to leave the country to further my studies for the benefits of the family company. I had to apply for a visa for her which was refused. A blessing in disguise I must say. Now she wants me to try again. I have dropped her sisters CV with my dad tho he doesn't know them. She wants me to buy her brother a phone. Also my expensive wristwatch she wants me to dash her brother. Some times when we argue, she would be like, don't forget we are not married o. That got me thinking a lot. I talk to her mom so I don't know how to dump her without much hassles. I have a very soft heart which she's capitalizing on. I love and I'm sad as I'm typing this. I don't know what to do.

I sincerely hope someone else has advised u in the course of this thread cos I can't read the while thing. All the same let me add my own.

Guy. RUN.

RUN NOW.

You marry her and YOU WILL REGRET IT THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. You are not marrying her mother. Even if you are married for 20yrs the day you don't provide she AND HER FAMILY will drop you like hot charcoal. No matter how friendly it seems they are now.

Harden your heart. It's a mean world especially more so to nice guys. Harden YOYR heart and leave that parasite. Look for someone that loves you for who you are so when you join others in facebook in saying what a lovely wife you've got you know you are telling the truth.
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by Maxvasia(m): 9:31am On Jun 15, 2016
eiBADAn:
Guy, well said. If you do 99 things for a girl, it's the one thing you didn't that she would remember. If I make 300k a month, her personal budget is already over half of it and when there's an argument, she remembers one stupid thing I didn't buy or get for her, I'm talking about my gf. What do I do in my own case? She's not working cuz she's still searching. Let's assume I have 700k now, her budget would be 450k when I finish calculating expenses. She would do hair, change nails, buy makeup, but expensive creams, buy new clothes even tho she just bought few weeks back. She wants to send money to her mom, to her sister, to her brother. She's owing her friend, she has to pay. I do all these and the smallest argument we have, she would suddenly remember one stupid thing I didn't buy for her. How long do I keep up with these. O ti su mi o.

Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by Rukkydelta(f): 9:33am On Jun 15, 2016
badderdandem:
yes do you really understand what it actually mean to use that term towards your spouse

And why didn't the op tell us the words he said to her cos for every reaction there must first be an action
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by SplendidE(f): 9:36am On Jun 15, 2016
@op
why did u change ur dp?
I wanted to see d ugly lady DAT guy was talking abt n u changed it to earphones?
does it mean he was right?
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by IRserveMyComent(f): 9:39am On Jun 15, 2016
Minemrys:

would u take back a guy wholly if he told u he was managing u? No matter what u said to him? In fact u can't take him back if he just told u, u were an ugly bitch. Gals should stop playing the victim when the truth's obvious. U can't tell s0me0ne u claim to love, u're just managing the pers0n. U inadvertently c0mpared the pers0n to a thing which is equivalent to nothing.
That is the more reason the op should not take her back at all. His mind has been biased because of that statement and i bet you he is no longer into the relationship wholeheartedly.
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by eflintsone(m): 9:47am On Jun 15, 2016
queencalipso:
But you just said you guys were having an argument when she said the word. Didn't you say hurtful things to her too? And to think you even insulted her first. If you can't take her back wholly please let her go.

You are here now forming boss because she came to beg you without considering the hurtful things you said to her too that made her say those words to you.
my prob with nigerian girl excludin hausa girls, u guys always look for a way to make ursefs ryt even wen u all knw u r wrong .. the days u guys feel u all r nt perfect dat day heaven wil rejoice...me nd my gf had d same arguement d moment she started requestin for money bfore we see after all i have done for her, i had to ask her to delete me off her mind in d process we had lotta argument which she threw insults but i kept my cool..babe realised her mistakes nd we bk togeda , but i promised mysef never to spend a kobo on her since den
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by Brightology2(m): 9:50am On Jun 15, 2016
queencalipso:
But you just said you guys were having an argument when she said the word. Didn't you say hurtful things to her too? And to think you even insulted her first. If you can't take her back wholly please let her go.

You are here now forming boss because she came to beg you without considering the hurtful things you said to her too that made her say those words to you.
our own our own, na so the country take spoil finish so
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by Phunmyne(f): 9:51am On Jun 15, 2016
SuperSuave:
I stopped prioritizing and taking girls serious since I got out of secondary school. dreams and ambition first others follow
That is the normal way it should be, esp for guys. that's what drives a man.
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by coolviv: 9:51am On Jun 15, 2016
alexistaiwo:
My girlfriend and I got into a hot argument last month which degenerated into a break up. During the argument, lots of hurtful words were exchanged but she made the fatal error of saying that she is managing me. This is a girl that I literally 'toshed up' and I had provided all her needs from 2014 we started dating up to that point.
Two weeks later, she came back begging to be accepted back. she said she said those words out of provocation since I was the one that insulted her first. As a sure guy, I accepted her back but made a promise to my self that I will never spend a substantial amount of my money on her again since it seems that she is the ungrateful type.
Her love for me isn't in doubt but guys wise up. Don't go bankrupt because of a girl, at the end of the day she will say that you haven't done anything.

Never in my years on nairaland have I seen so much likes for a post. Well done... grin
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by IRserveMyComent(f): 9:54am On Jun 15, 2016
bakynes:
You are right abt the " No matter how much you spend on a girl she will still say you havent done anything" I think they think because they give us Sex they are doing us a favour. Thats why i dont know the difference between them and prostitutes. The money you spend on them have expiry date. They wont spend their money to buy you a little gift all is to collect and give sex. Your own money is our money, theirs is my money. All the money na on top cloth, makeup and weave-on. Shameless species.
Eyaa i can understand the amount of value you have for your mum and sisters... Dude if your mum is not a prostitute you owe her a serious apology.
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by IRserveMyComent(f): 9:55am On Jun 15, 2016
bakynes:
You are right abt the " No matter how much you spend on a girl she will still say you havent done anything" I think they think because they give us Sex they are doing us a favour. Thats why i dont know the difference between them and prostitutes. The money you spend on them have expiry date. They wont spend their money to buy you a little gift all is to collect and give sex. Your own money is our money, theirs is my money. All the money na on top cloth, makeup and weave-on. Shameless species.
Eyaa i can understand the amount of value you have for your mum and sisters... Dude if your mum is not a prostitute you owe her a serious apology. Unless you landed from the moon.

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Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by adefizzy(m): 9:59am On Jun 15, 2016
MizMyColi:
I don't know how to address Mr OP without coming off as judgemental, but I will do my best.

I went through the other thread where you broke up with her because her best friend's guy always calls her to explain his issues.

My perception of you is that you have a controlling attitude, a dysfunctional alpha male syndrome and a little bit of trust issues.

Seriously?
You broke up with your girlfriend over what she chooses to do with her time?

So because you're dating her and possibly provide heaven and earth for her then she must also watch you guide and direct her life?

Omase o sad

OP, you better talk true.
Because your reason for breaking up is very flimsy and shows you likely have a below par mentality.

Coming to the issue of discourse on this thread.

Your girlfriend was wrong to have made that statement.

But then, just like you, she was angry.

Before writing her off completely, have you tried to find out why she said she's managing you?

Perhaps is it because you've been trying to control who she talks to?
Perhaps she's not the kind that likes being bossed around?

Why do you have to think that managing you has to do with the money or tushing up that you give her?

I pray an angel ministers to her to let go of you already.

Men might be scarce, but good Men are never scace for good and genuine women & vice versa.

It may tarry, but they will surely have their heart desires met.

Like you have pointed out, we should try not to pass judgement on either of them. However your perception about op is wrong.

Firstly, from op's statement it is obvious that his girlfriend has gotten too attached to the other guy, it is nt about preventing her from having friends or doing what she likes but sincerely, some ladies don't know how to draw boundary in the friendship with their male friend even when it's affecting their partner. Take it or leave it men are known for taking control of their territory, no man will allow another man to have more say over his partner than him.

Secondly, our values differ, no one can say categorically that this is the most genuine reason for one to break up with his/her partner.. It depends on what you can take and what you can't and that is why some guys prefer to marry a prostitute who will satisfy them in bed over a homely girl who is good at everything but lacks sex skill likewise we have ladies that prefer to marry a playboy over a cool guy that hardly get involved with ladies.

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Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by coolviv: 10:00am On Jun 15, 2016
bakynes:
You are right abt the " No matter how much you spend on a girl she will still say you havent done anything" I think they think because they give us Sex they are doing us a favour. Thats why i dont know the difference between them and prostitutes. The money you spend on them have expiry date. They wont spend their money to buy you a little gift all is to collect and give sex. Your own money is our money, theirs is my money. All the money na on top cloth, makeup and weave-on. Shameless species.

Welllll technically speaking they are doing you a favour. You are afterall 'collecting' without paying bride price. The difference, however, between your girlfriend and a prostitute is the difference between your mummy and your sugar mummy..
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by Nobody: 10:01am On Jun 15, 2016
isaco:
I understand ur feeling op but let me tell u if u follow women mouth n react u cant marry because almost all of them r d same. Women don't think b4 they talk or behave. Women words r far from their mind. With due respect to women world, is not there fault its nature. I don't really like women attitude but we men can't live without them. To be a real married man u need great level of endurance. Thanks.
am a woman n i must say u r a REAL man. Not all dis boy o boys all over nl
Re: Ladies. Watch Your Tongue. I Stopped Caring For Her After She Said This by timsonpreye(m): 10:03am On Jun 15, 2016
will Neva say hurtful words to my woman No mata wat

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