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4 Insights When Your Spouse Irritates You. by LEERICIST(m): 10:39pm On Jun 18, 2016

Getting irritated by your spouse is an
occupational hazard for marriage. It happens
in all marriages…some more than others.

[b]Sometimes I frustrate and annoy Susan. I
confessed that when I wrote about how I can be like a prickly porcupine. And sometimes Susan can get on my nerves too. Take a recent weekend this summer for
example. Susan came into the kitchen and
discovered a chip in one of our counters.
Quickly, she declared quite irritably that either I
or my son were guilty of the damage since we
were there. My reaction wasn’t award-winning, but it was
natural since her accusation irritated me too. I
countered, in front of my son, with the
defensive question, “Why do you just assume
that one of us did it when it could have been
someone else?” That didn’t work too well. She got more
irritated with me, walked out of the room,
and went upstairs. As I followed her upstairs,
my frustration was growing too. When I
asked her why she was so upset, she said I
“chastised” her in front of our son and that I never listen to her about taking care of our
furniture. Naturally, I had some examples of
my own to share with her about how she
irritated me…[/b]

You probably see where this went…nowhere. In
marriage, either of us can make a HUGE list of
how the other annoys and irritates the other,
but that won’t get us anywhere! Thankfully, after we processed this squabble,
we came to the following conclusions:
#1. We are Equal Opportunity Agitators
Husbands and wives BOTH do, or don’t do,
things that irritate the other. So often, I
forget about the things that I do that
frustrate and irritate Susan, dwelling instead
on all those things she does that get at me.
We should take a step back and remember that we are a source of irritation too. Then,
maybe we can overlook some things that our
spouse does.
#2. It’s Not All About Me
Marriage is not all about me. Our job as a
husband or wife is not to make sure our spouse
follows all our instructions and does what we
want them to do for us when we want them
to do it, like a king or queen issuing edicts to a
subject. Rather, we should strive to serve one another. Remember, love is all about giving.
#3. I’m an Agent of Change…for Myself
It’s always easy to focus on what the other
person needs to change. It’s easy to make
mental lists of what we want our spouse to
do differently. But each of us needs to focus
on those things that we need to change about
our own behavior first. Then, when we become models of perfection, we can start working
on changing our spouse.
#4. She/He is Not Me…and That’s Fine!
Our spouse is not made in our likeness. Our
spouse is not designed to conform to our
image. Our spouse does not think or act the
same way we do and they are not supposed
to. They have a different personality and
different ways of doing things. But how often do we act as though our spouse should be just
like us? Don’t demand conformity. Celebrate
the difference!
What are some things you think are important to remember when your spouse annoys you, or you annoy your spouse?
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Re: 4 Insights When Your Spouse Irritates You. by sinaj(f): 10:46pm On Jun 18, 2016
Marriage isn't a bed of roses.

It's nt easy for 2 people with diff traits nd ugly habits to live together for life.


I always admire those that celebrate up to 30yrs weddin anniversry.

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