armyofone:
That's the point, your own free will to do such cosmetic surgery. Knife slicing through you due to hubby's demand...i shudder at the thought.

Well done.

I taya o my sister. I wonder if he would have his appendix out at her say so for instance? I'd imagine that it isn't bothering him still he can get himself sliced anyways because he does not need it.
It is disconcerting that a partner can demand such. Wish she would come back to share her experience afterwards..pipe dream I know.

cococandy:

I don't know about other hospitals but mine had that policy of no food some hrs before ( I don't remember how many hrs to be exact). And they encourage you to try empty your bowels before active labor.

Because you will not only poo yourself, you'll throw up everywhere. Thank goodness I listened.

I kept throwing up continuously. Like every other hour for more than one full day. I was just throwing up.
If I had food in me, it would have been very nasty because I was vomitting uncontrollably. all I had in me was ice chips and water.

I learned some hospitals still give enema to make the women poop first so that they don't poop all over themselves during labor.

I don't think they worry too much about that here. Watched the birth video of my friend and it was the same for her, they scooped it away so quick that blink and you would have missed it.

Gross I know but we both know there is nothing dignified about childbirth . All the shakara gets dropped at the door of the hospital to be picked up on the way out.

And your two legs get hanged up on stirrups like pork for sale , with your crotch the cynosure of all eyes. Why do we even bother to wear clothes afterwards?.
Oh my.

shaybebaby:

I don't think they worry too much about that here. Watched the birth video of my friend and it was the same for her, they scooped it away so quick that blink and you would have missed it.

Gross I know but we both know there is nothing dignified about childbirth . All the shakara gets dropped at the door of the hospital to be picked up on the way out.

cococandy:
And your two legs get hanged up on stirrups like pork for sale , with your crotch the cynosure of all eyes. Why do we even bother to wear clothes afterwards?.
Oh my.

LOL. this got me ROFLMAO. Coco the coco, you are so on point. lol

taryour:



LOL. this got me ROFLMAO. Coco the coco, you are so on point. lol

cococandy:
And your two legs get hanged up on stirrups like pork for sale , with your crotch the cynosure of all eyes. Why do we even bother to wear clothes afterwards?.
Oh my.

Ehen!! O my

Ishilove:

Ehen!! O my

have no fear. At that moment, that will be the least of your worries. Your baby coming out alive will consume your thoughts. And the pain of course. If you don't get pain relief.

cococandy:
have no fear. At that moment, that will be the least of your worries. Your baby coming out alive will consume your thoughts. And the pain of course. If you don't get pain relief.

Pain relief like epidural?

After this trauma it is small wonder women lose interest in sex after delivery

cococandy:
And your two legs get hanged up on stirrups like pork for sale , with your crotch the cynosure of all eyes. Why do we even bother to wear clothes afterwards?.
Oh my.

Hahahahaha, the shame of it. We must be mad to do it over and over.

pls don't do a c-section cos u want a tight pussy.

Onegai:


Ashuuaaallyyyyy... That rape part was not that much of an exaggeration. because it feels like you're being forced against your will (and yes, some women do shed tears in hiding). Not like screaming out in anger but more like a mental chanting of "i don't want to be here, I don't want to be here, please stop, I don't want to be here" or sometimes an awkward feeling after (like wanting to bathe him off your body). Everybody is different.

@italics, I feel so very sorry for the man whose wife feels this way.

A lot of women don't know as much about men as they would like to think. They think men are all about sex and forcefulness. There the husband is, trying to make love to his wife because he loves her and sex feels good to him and he wants her to feel good as well, and all she can think of is that she is being raped? If she feels that way she can keep her vagina and not manage the man. Most times women that feel this way don't know they are giving off such vibes unconsciously to their husband, (yes, we can tell when you don't want to have sex with us), he feels the reluctance and resistance during sex and he may not voice it but it hurts deeply and he would rather leave her alone than make it look like he is forcing himself on her. Any woman that feels wether because of hormones or whatever that she is actually being raped by the man should talk to a specialist. Better, she communicates with the man about her feelings (she should definitely not mention the above thought process you put there, that's just plain hurtful to tell someone who loves you) and then gradually warm back to him just as he should also be patient and understanding and helpful. Coming back to a state of normalcy should be from both ends of the divide and not just telling the man to be patient and understanding.

But let's not scare you. it's gonna be great! And things will improve so much more. But it depends on how you handle that trying time.

Thanks for your concern. A lot depends on how both parties handle it. Communication with the man is vital as well, not just to abandon him, leaving him high and dry and expecting him to understand.

Ishilove:

Pain relief like epidural?

After this trauma it is small wonder women lose interest in sex after delivery

Yes epidural. There are other kind too. Although not quite as effective as Epi. Depends on your threshold for pain. I've like zero threshold. So I took the thing sharp sharp.

About sex, not every woman hun.
I didn't. In fact I was all too glad to get back in the game.
It had been a loooong 6 weeks wait.
Plus the last 2-3 weeks before delivery when I was too large to comfortably do anything.

cococandy:
You're right.
I guess they are able do that here because they were monitoring us very closely. They'd advice us to come in and get checked for dilation as early as one week to the due date and every other day subsequently . Plus mine was scheduled anyway so I had control over that.

I think the no food rule is mostly for the vomitting part. Because Labor takes a while. If you ate like during early labor, the food would no longer be in your stomach during active labor so you can't throw it up. But you can poop

Does your hospitals still give enemas?

I read a different meaning to this.
Did you mean you scheduled the day of your delivery? Was your labour induced?

RiloKiley:


I read a different meaning to this.
Did you mean you scheduled the day of your delivery? Was your labour induced?

yes

thorpido:
Going through C-section just to keep the vagina tight is unreasonable.C-section should be used only when vaginal birth is not possible or may lead to complications.
Having a C-section is a surgery and why would you opt for a surgery ahead of normal birth?C-section takes a longer time to heal and sometimes leaves lingering pain.
After vaginal birth,take time to heal and you can start what is known as Kegel exercises.You will have your vagina back in shape.

You are a man not a woman, how come u know CS takes longer to heal. FYI im a mother of 2 i had my 1st child with normal delivery and the 2nd via CS and in my opinion CS healed faster. In less than 1mnth i was back 100% but when i delivered normally the episiotomy (cut) my Dr gave me lasted for months, couldnt sit well, to straff no even near that. For me i cant opt for natural anything again if i want to have more kids. C S is the way. All those open eyes thing na suffer. Ive experienced both so i know exactly how it goes

cococandy:


Yes epidural. There are other kind too. Although not quite as effective as Epi. Depends on your threshold for pain. I've like zero threshold. So I took the thing sharp sharp.

About sex, not every woman hun.
I didn't. In fact I was all too glad to get back in the game.
It had been a loooong 6 weeks wait.
Plus the last 2-3 weeks before delivery when I was too large to comfortably do anything.

Thank God for Nairaland. When my friends put to bed, I ask them how the experience is but ALL of them tell me 'when it is your turn you will see'. It's like a taboo to describe labour experience

But now I am here getting first hand information from folks I've never even met.

I know I will take an epidural when it's time because I have low pain threshold. If not i'd prolly bring the roof down, screaming like Hulk, or Tarzan.

cococandy:
And your two legs get hanged up on stirrups like pork for sale , with your crotch the cynosure of all eyes. Why do we even bother to wear clothes afterwards?.
Oh my.

You know, that position is actually a bad one. You are pushing against gravity and it becomes much more work and more painful. A woman should really be in her knees or sitting down. I know someone that they squatted her down in the U.K. to deliver and she said it was much easier to push.

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I'd imagine so.

I once saw a video of a woman kneeling down to bear her child and it seemed like the baby slipped out pretty easily. She did look quite strong though. Like some super lady.

But how comfortable would it be for one to kneel down when in labor?. I feel the pain might be too much for them concentrate on that position.

And it's definitely not for anyone on epidural. Because you can't feel your legs. You need to be lying down all the time once it's in. You can't even get up to pee. You've to be catheterized.

Onegai:


You know, that position is actually a bad one. You are pushing against gravity and it becomes much more work and more painful. A woman should really be in her knees or sitting down. I know someone that they squatted her down in the U.K. to deliver and she said it was much easier to push.

Maybe they didn't want to scare you and give you false rosy pictures.

Ishilove:

Thank God for Nairaland. When my friends put to bed, I ask them how the experience is but ALL of them tell me 'when it is your turn you will see'. It's like a taboo to describe labour experience

But now I am here getting first hand information from folks I've never even met.

I know I will take an epidural when it's time because I have low pain threshold. If not i'd prolly bring the roof down, screaming like Hulk, or Tarzan.

pwettyJasmine:

You are a man not a woman, how come u know CS takes longer to heal. FYI im a mother of 2 i had my 1st child with normal delivery and the 2nd via CS and in my opinion CS healed faster. In less than 1mnth i was back 100% but when i delivered normally the episiotomy (cut) my Dr gave me lasted for months, couldnt sit well, to straff no even near that. For me i cant opt for natural anything again if i want to have more kids. C S is the way. All those open eyes thing na suffer. Ive experienced both so i know exactly how it goes

I'm a man,so how come I know women menstruate? Sis,I know.I live with someone who has done it for that matter.
The only way you could have had an episiotomy(if it wasn't a tear) that took so long to heal is either because it was not neatly cut and well stitched or it got infected.A normal episiotomy will heal in 2weeks.You can start straffing in 6-8weeks.
The same C/S you had could go awry and last for many weeks in some people.It's either the stitches pull out and it has to be redone or could get infected.For some people who don't have good skins,it could leave bad keloids.

cococandy:
yes

Well then. Thank God for safe delivery.

Will I be going too far to ask if it was an elective induction?

Onegai:


You know, that position is actually a bad one. You are pushing against gravity and it becomes much more work and more painful. A woman should really be in her knees or sitting down. I know someone that they squatted her down in the U.K. to deliver and she said it was much easier to push.

The bed is usually tilted with your head up so you shouldn't be pushing against gravity but rather have gravity assisting you.I know there are modifications like kneeling or semi-kneeling which some people have said made it easier but that position gives the doctor or mid-wife access in case you need assistance.

RiloKiley:

Well then. Thank God for safe delivery.

Will I be going too far to ask if it was an elective induction?

No.

It was medically necessary. For my health.

cococandy:

No.

It was medically necessary. For my health.

Your Bp was going up?

thorpido:
Your Bp was going up?

No. I had thrombocytopenia. My clotting factor kept going down. Especially during the last weeks. If I waited until 40 weeks, It might have gone down to the point where I'd bleed profusely after delivery, maybe requiring a blood transfusion. So I was induced at 38 weeks.

I didn't even know they check all those things but I was glad to find out. It's not really a problem expect one is going for surgery or anything that might cause bleeding like child birth.

cococandy:

No. I had thrombocytopenia. My clotting factor kept going down. Especially during the last weeks. If I waited until 40 weeks, It might have gone down to the point where I'd bleed profusely after delivery, maybe requiring a blood transfusion. So I was induced at 38 weeks.

I didn't even know they check all those things but I was glad to find out. It's not really a problem expect one is going for surgery or anything that might cause bleeding like child birth.

Oh that.It was safer to just have you induced.38weeks was ok for delivery,no point keeping you longer.

thorpido:
Oh that.It was safer to just have you induced.38weeks was ok for delivery,no point keeping you longer.

yea. That was the consensus.

RiloKiley:

Well then. Thank God for safe delivery.

Will I be going too far to ask if it was an elective induction?

No one chooses to be induced out of fun. That labour is a whole lot more painful than natural labour because during the latter, nature had designed it that you get breaks between the contractions. Of course the closer you are to birthing the child, the longer the contractions, the shorter the breaks.
You don't have such an option with being induced. The pain is back to back.

I got induced because my baby was comfy and in no hurry to come out at 42 weeks. The longer the baby remains, the riskier the labour is after 40 weeks so he had to be given his eviction notice.

Was induced(had the drug inserted down below) at 10 am, had my son at 3:40 the following morning.

shaybebaby:

No one chooses to be induced out of fun. That labour is a whole lot more painful than natural labour because during the latter, nature had designed it that you get breaks between the contractions. Of course the closer you are to birthing the child, the longer the contractions, the shorter the breaks.
You don't have such an option with being induced. The pain is back to back.

I got induced because my baby was comfy and in no hurry to come out at 42 weeks. The longer the baby remains, the riskier the labour is after 40 weeks so he had to be given his eviction notice.

Was induced(had the drug inserted down below) at 10 am, had my son at 3:40 the following morning.

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I've heard of women who asked to be induced at certain dates that had nothing to do with medical reasons. One wanted her child's birthday to coincide with hers. Her first doctor refused but another one agreed to do it. It was successful.

shaybebaby:

No one chooses to be induced out of fun. That labour is a whole lot more painful than natural labour because during the latter, nature had designed it that you get breaks between the contractions. Of course the closer you are to birthing the child, the longer the contractions, the shorter the breaks.
You don't have such an option with being induced. The pain is back to back.

I got induced because my baby was comfy and in no hurry to come out at 42 weeks. The longer the baby remains, the riskier the labour is after 40 weeks so he had to be given his eviction notice.

Was induced(had the drug inserted down below) at 10 am, had my son at 3:40 the following morning.

You are right about the pain
Where I had my first, they automatically give you an epidural if you are to be induced. Not sure if they still do this though. I was a long time ago.
I did a very silly thing during that birth and it cost me dearly
(superwoman things)

Rilo is right, If you know that you will be induced, you can pick a date for it in some hospitals.

tearoses:


You are right about the pain
Where I had my first, they automatically give you an epidural if you are to be induced. Not sure if they still do this though. I was a long time ago.
I did a very silly thing during that birth and it cost me dearly
(superwoman things)

Rilo is right, If you know that you will be induced, you can pick a date for it in some hospitals.

oooo do share, I'm curious now. I think it varies from hospital to hospital. Not offered till I begged, by then it was too late. But I had my own private room which normally you have to pay for but I didn't. Luck of the draw I guess on the NHS.