missyge:
Getting married is one thing, staying married and happily too is another. Marriage is not an end in itself but a means to an end, that is fulfilment.
The pace at which the world is moving today is incredible. And it comes to bear even in relationships. People rush into marriage and then rush out too. Sometimes when you are in a romantic relationship or you meet someone you like, the rate of which the relationship progresses is so fast that you don’t have time to ask the important questions. It is almost like cruising at a speed beyond that which is recommended and then the car begins to jerk. Just as on the road, in relationships too, speed kills. It only makes sense to pace yourself on this relationship journey. Let people mount the pressure, let all your mates and even juniors be married before you, a wise woman knows not to rush into marriage ill-prepared.
So shall we call these questions your speed breakers or Speedometers? Yes.
And since marriage originated from God with His intentions for it to be ‘heaven on earth’, this book draws from the Bible, our manual for living.
So here are the seven questions. They would help you put your relationship in perspective.


1. Why me? Sounds like a no-brainer question until you realize that some men have answered this question with “…because I LOVE the way you pound yam” or ‘…because I have been saying I will marry a Calabar girl and you came along…’ Or the classic answer, ‘…because everyone around me is getting married and the pressure is up for me too…’ Sisters, this is a very important question. Out of the billions of women in the world, why you? Because the answer to that question will sustain the marriage long after the honeymoon period is over. If he doesn’t give you a good answer, let him go please.

2.Do I know him well enough? No, we don’t mean LONG enough but WELL enough. That you date/court for years doesn’t mean you know the person well enough, especially if the major discussions you have are centered on frivolities. Is he your FRIEND? Is he free to be himself around you? Are you also free enough to discus anything with him? You need to build friendship with him as friendship will guarantee a deeper knowledge of the man and sustain the marriage in the long run.

3. Are we compatible? Amos 3:3 says Can two walk together except they be agreed.
Are you two thinking alike? Does his life vision differ radically from yours? Can you truly be a help meet, someone ‘suitable and adaptable’ to him? Not every guy is compatible with you even if he too is a born-again Christian. You need to check compatibility first.

4. When? Yes, when do you want to marry me? The proposal was romantic: Candles, flowers, chocolates, and a diamond ring, the complete works. But a wise woman still needs to find out when exactly he intends to walk you down the aisle so that you know if his timing fits with yours before you agree to marry him. Courtship should not go on forever.
Other questions are

5. Is he responsible? Can he PRESIDE over the family as the head indeed? Or is he a mommy’s boy? Can he PROVIDE for you and the family? Can he PROTECT you from anybody and anything you need protection from?

6. Who are his influences? You have to submit to this man. You need to be sure that he has the right influences around him guiding his actions.

7. Is he born again? Ladies, you can’t compromise on this one. There are no guarantees on a man that is not born again.

izuch:
Excellent write up OP. Did you author it? If you did not kindly quote the source, if it's you i would say you've got a calling. Kudos

ebbybest:

It was specially written for me.

extwoo:
You left out the sex questions...It's a real home breaker.

GoldenJAT:
their love for material things won't allow some of them 2 ask!

missyge:
.....Dose once are not wives, they are g/friends..

Gf hv price tags, wives do not

GoldenJAT:
but it's from gf ladies mostly graduate 2d post of a wife.. remember there are also some very irresponsible wives.