why is it that anytime my mother inlaw need money and call my wife, my wife will not be happy any more, even if we dnt have the money then, our sex life will turn apert, please what will i do? b/cos this is distruying my family HELP HELP HELP.

Talk to your wife. You can help in laws but not at the cost of happiness in your marriage

True talk to your wife , i am sure nobody did that to your mother in -law in her matrimonial home so she should not enforce it on her daughter

thanx for the advice i am greatful

Thank you.

@ theblessed, thank you have a point there, my wife is not working, and we have two childrean to take care,she is trading my mother inlaw, and my mother is still alive but my junior once are taking care of her, i make sure i setlled them before geting married,

i have the same problem at the moment i just call a uncle who loss his son a week ago to greet him
ever before i could say sorry he ask me for 200thousand# ,now i am confuse don't know what to do this money i don't have it ,
everybody think you have money when you live in Europa.

what did he say he needs N200000 for

Abuja1, i feel it will be a good idea if you find out from your wife the reason for her attitude when such demand comes in from your mother in-law. With that u will get to knowing why snd be able to ait together and resolve the issue. Dont forget you are to be supportive of each other

Abuja1, i feel it will be a good idea if you find out from your wife the reason for her attitude when such demand comes in from your mother in-law. With that u will get to knowing why snd be able to ait together and resolve the issue. Dont forget you are to be supportive of each other

Abuja1:

@ theblessed, thank you have a point there, my wife is not working, and we have two childrean to take care,she is trading my mother inlaw, and my mother is still alive but my junior once are taking care of her, i make sure i setlled them before geting married,

[b]That's ok!  Hope it helps!  You see, creating and sustaining a happy family is not an easy job but, one has to balance things well.  Well done for taking care of your mum and younger brothers/sister before settling down!  Not many guys consider this idea before getting married as they don't understand the effect Marriage can have on a strong family BOND i.e. the bond between brothers, sisters, mum's, dad's, uncles, aunts, nephews and nieces. Thus they feel that now they are married they shouldn't bother with their family any more.
I disagree! For marriage should not interfere in your relationship with your loved ones - your family. 

Yes, one has to do what one can do for one's family without loosing focus on one's own priorities - your Children.  Equally, it's nice you'd done your bit for your younger brothers and sisters and quite rightly they should be taking care of mum/dad as to give you a BREATHER for your own young family. But does one really have a breather in relationships? I don't think so because one's wife side of the family might need help and you should support them,  occasionally.  However, where one focuses on one's own marriage and leave the burden for the younger ones, tell me, what would become of mum/dad when everyone flew the NEST and focus on their own marriages and children? Well, your leadership calls for a lot here and it would be nice you show good leadership and that would greatly benefit mum/dad.  Remember, a ' A burden shared is a burden less heavier'.  I come from a very large family myself and I know how burdensome it can be for the elder members of the family as well as mum/dad when everyone focus on their lives without a thought.

Your situation is not bad, and I assume your wife, does help her mum/dad occasionally, irrespective of her trade without you knowing about it.  Naturally, we women do but, don't ask me why?  Maybe, because of our nurturing nature and no woman would deny this fact! . Personally, I have done it millions of times for both sides of the family without my husband knowing about it.  But hey, family gossips still do bring it to him and there you have it but, without offence .lol!!!!!!!!!!!!
Notwithstanding you had done your bit for them please, still do help both sides the best you can especially, at this economic hard-scratch time we're all in.[/b]

@TheBlessed,
Good talk