Man is a social animal that lives in a community where interpersonal interactions are unavoidable. These social interactions transcend various gamut - religious, academic, business, personal et al. When it comes love, the most personalised form of social interactions, it's unarguably the wish of everyone to experience an undiluted form of it - unconditional love. From real life experiences to works of arts such as movies and novels, the virtues of unconditional love is extolled almost to the point of pontification.


However, the sad reality is that unconditional love is an illusion. The dictionary defined unconditional as "unlimited in any way. Complete and absolute".    All forms of love - even the putatively purest forms such as God's love for man and a mother's love for a child - are with conditions; although the conditions admittedly vary in degree and severity.


God's love for man is predicated on the condition of total obedience to God. As contained in John 3 vs 16: "For GOD SO LOVE THE WORLD, that He gave his only begotten Son. THAT WHOSOEVER BELIEVES IN HIM should NOT PERISH but HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE"(Emphasis mine). The bible is replete with countless passages harping on the commandments and conditions that man must strictly adhere to before he can reap the rewards that stem from God. This is in stark contrast to populist Christian view that God's love is unconditional and free for all. If this were true, then Jesus needed not have died and Hell wouldn't be in existence because all men will go to heaven irrespective of their deeds on earth.


A mother's love for her child, even though the closest expression of strong affection,  is still not without conditions. At least, part of the gentleman agreement that underpins mother - child love is that the child loves the mother in return, obeys her, and generally be a good child. Although mothers do not go tossing their wards into waste bins when their love overtures are not requited, the tendency for a mother's love to wane or even be completely eroded in the face of constant disobedience or unrequited love is ever present. This is buttressed by countless instances where mothers have denied their children... Some going extra miles to disown their children in extreme cases.


It is therefore hilarious when people in romantic and other forms of relationships talk about the "unconditionality" of their love or their partners'. The mere fact that we must love someone for a reason dismantles the very foundation of unconditional love. The feeble nature of the unconditional love viewpoint becomes more illuminated when we consider the very selfish nature of man. Nobody likes to partake in ventures where they do - at least not when they're privy to knowledge of such impending loss before commitment. Even the much vaunted love at first sight has a "point of attraction" that strikes off the initial sparks.



Unconditional love is a myth. We all love for a reason. The question is: Why do we love who we love? The answer to that question nails the coffin of unconditional love.




https://crystalviewsblog./2016/07/10/the-myth-of-unconditional-love/

There is nothing like unconditional love. That is mere fairy tales of nonsense.