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7 Stages Of Crushing On Someone You Can't Have by 0ubenji(m): 10:30am On Jul 17, 2016
1. Realization
All of a sudden, it hits you like nothing you’ve ever felt
before — Oh, shit, you really like them. This is often
someone you’ve known for a long time, even a friend, a
coworker, or the dreaded SO-of-a-friend, and all of a sudden
you can’t get them out of your head. It’s like they’re a totally
different person, and every interaction you’ve ever had
needs to be reconsidered, like there must have been some
kind of hidden meaning in it. You try to get them out of your
head, but there they are every morning, haunting you and
making you happy in equal measure.

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2. Weighing the possibilities
Maybe you should say something. Should you say
something? How would you even go about it? Would the two
of you just get drunk together and suddenly something
would happen? Even if you could get enough liquid courage
in you to make a move, how would it really play out? You
have whole conversations with yourself in the shower, trying
to plan out the perfect way to let them know that you’re
totally in love with them… but everything you come up with
sounds crazy.
When the time comes, as if there was any doubt, you
chicken out totally. In the moment where a slightly drunk
kiss would have made sense, you didn’t do it. When the two
of you were alone and you could have said something, you
restrained yourself. You erred on the side of caution, and
now you are back where you started — in total silence.

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3. Obsession
You think about them night and day. You have stalked every
possible place online where they have written something or
posted a picture of themselves. You are beyond the point of
just a crush, you want them, and you want them all the
more because you know for a fact now that you can’t have
them (either because you’re not brave enough, or because
they’re not into you).

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4. Denial
So you pretend that you don’t like them at all! Haha, of
course I never liked you! How could you be so silly? You
actually go over lists in your head of all the reasons why it’s
not a good idea to like them, and how you could never like
them in practice because they’re totally wrong for you. With
all the time you spend trying to talk yourself out of liking
them, you actually end up wanting them more, only because
you know that if they really weren’t important to you, you
wouldn’t ever have to think about it.

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5. Simmering
You accept that you like them, but there’s nothing you can
do. You just exist in your perpetual state of wanting, and you
get used to it. It’s like a muscle ache that won’t quite go
away, and something feels a little bit off at all times but you
know what it is, so you just accept it. There is a voice at the
back of your head about how much you like them, but it gets
easier and easier to ignore so you can go about your day.

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6. Defeat
You let it go, because you know that there is nothing that
should really keep you involved anymore. And it’s not just
that you wake up one day and say “I don’t want this person
anymore,” it just slowly slips away from you bit by bit and
you start to wake up without thinking of them first thing in
the morning anymore. Your whole body lets you forget, bit
by bit.

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7. Occasional Remembrance
Months can go by — years, even — and everything will seem
like it’s okay again. And then all of a sudden something will
come up that makes you remember them in a way you
haven’t allowed yourself to in forever. You will remember
exactly what it felt like to dream about them, the details of
the night where you almost kissed them over your drinks, the
endless way you would talk about them to your few trusted
friends. And it’s not an entirely unpleasant feeling, it’s just
one of pure nostalgia. It aches to remember them, mostly
because there is so little of them to remember.

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Re: 7 Stages Of Crushing On Someone You Can't Have by falconey(m): 10:31am On Jul 17, 2016
embarassed grin
Re: 7 Stages Of Crushing On Someone You Can't Have by cruzita(f): 10:32am On Jul 17, 2016
go for what u want



or end up regretting
Re: 7 Stages Of Crushing On Someone You Can't Have by Nobody: 10:34am On Jul 17, 2016
This is so real Op. I can relate cry
Re: 7 Stages Of Crushing On Someone You Can't Have by Bluezy13(m): 10:37am On Jul 17, 2016
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Re: 7 Stages Of Crushing On Someone You Can't Have by Teniolasmart: 10:54am On Jul 17, 2016
ya....i the new lasticlacla recommend dis for FP;anyother lasticlacla is a counterfeitcheesy
Re: 7 Stages Of Crushing On Someone You Can't Have by opsyswagg: 10:57am On Jul 17, 2016
cool cool
Re: 7 Stages Of Crushing On Someone You Can't Have by Laveda(f): 10:58am On Jul 17, 2016
embarassed
Re: 7 Stages Of Crushing On Someone You Can't Have by papinx(m): 11:41am On Jul 17, 2016
cheesy
Re: 7 Stages Of Crushing On Someone You Can't Have by Starlet50(m): 2:06pm On Jul 17, 2016
cruzita:
go for what u want




or end up regretting
Do u knw dat sometimes it is better not to go for it than to go and end up regretting? I'M TALKING ABT THOSE FAKE ASS BITCHES DAT WILL DISGRACE A NIGGA IN PUBLIC because HE REVEALED HIS PURE FEELINGS...Never happened to me tho jst a frnd of mine.

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