Typically, in Nigerian homes, a girl stays with her parents till she gets married. Regardless of her age, educational and job status. A practice, that is as old as TIME.


Now should it remain this way? Wouldn't it be nice if at some point in the lady's life, she leaves her parents to be on her own or to be independent even if she isn't married? Plus, when would you say is the right time for her to leave if at all? Share your thoughts.

Yes it is very very nice...
That was what happened to nkechi till she carried belle... She left her mama house to rent one bedroom flat with toilet, kitchen, bathroom, palour, car park, bedroom and closet inside one room, then she mistakenly invited brother uche because she was bored that day, after some play play, one thing led to another , na xo e take finish fast fast... that was how she carry belle ooo... So it is very good... Single ladies can do it...

Its good, I've been independent even before I finished school now I have lots of responsibilities

fairlyusedpant:
Yes it is very very nice...
That was what happened to nkechi till she carried belle... She left her mama house to rent one bedroom flat with toilet, kitchen, bathroom, palour, car park, bedroom and closet inside one room, then she mistakenly invited brother uche because she was bored that day, after some play play, one thing led to another , na xo e take finish fast fast... that was how she carry belle ooo... So it is very good... Single ladies can do it...

Even your moniker is ridiculous.

mizzbouqui:
Its good, I've been independent even before I finished school now I have lots of responsibilities

I know of a parent who disown their daughter because she choose to be independent, saying that it is very bad, insultive to the family and gives room for her to be flirting around. Now, at some point of your life, do you face this condemnation from your family?

It is very good. If you work in the same city where your parent reside it would be difficult.

greatness22:
Typically, in Nigerian homes, a girl stays with her parents till she gets married. Regardless of her age, educational and job status. A practice, that is as old as TIME.


Now should it remain this way? Wouldn't it be nice if at some point in the lady's life, she leaves her parents to be on her own or to be independent even if she isn't married? Plus, when would you say is the right time for her to leave if at all? Share your thoughts.

Such ladies find it hard to get a husband...the reasons are obvious.

I don't knw what to say about this. But, most times according to beliefs, any lady that stays alone find it hard to get married. I don't know about that. let's consider this, your parents stay in the East but you got a job in Lagos, will you just forfeit the job because of some stupid belief? no!
I can only advice a lady to stay in a self contain even if she has the money to stay in a duplex so that people out there won't think she has so much money thereby chasing away suitors and bringing golddiggers her way
Besides, some parents can be very annoying at times.... you knw what I mean. So as not to loose your sanity, leave the house!

mizzbouqui:
Its good, I've been independent even before I finished school now I have lots of responsibilities

Strong woman!

I believe the trend should continue,personally I respect ladies who patiently wait for the right man in her parent house.
This doesn't have to do with female alone, I know a particular tribe who believe a boy should leave his parent when he is mature enough to get married.

funny enough, most landlords especially in Lagos hardly rent house to single ladies because they feel a lot are sluts!! really this rubbish should stop.

greatness22:
I know of a parent who disown their daughter because she choose to be independent, saying that it is very bad, insultive to the family and gives room for her to be flirting around. Now, at some point of your life, do you face this condemnation from your family?

No I didn't, I've always been hardworking so no room for condemnation moreover I don't have a father

It gives the impression that you've finally faced the ashewo job big time, its now a career so stay with your parents till they honorably come and ask for your hand

Its not only nice op

Its a beautiful thing to do

Kenneth205:


Strong woman!

I gat no choice than to be

rosalieene:
I don't knw what to say about this. But, most times according to beliefs, any lady that stays alone find it hard to get married. I don't know about that. let's consider this, your parents stay in the East but you got a job in Lagos, will you just forfeit the job because of some stupid belief? no!
I can only advice a lady to stay in a self contain even if she has the money to stay in a duplex so that people out there won't think she has so much money thereby chasing away suitors and bringing golddiggers her way
Besides, some parents can be very annoying at times.... you knw what I mean. So as not to loose your sanity, leave the house!

You have a point there. But don't you think most ladies abuse this opportunity?

mhisbliss:
It gives the impression that you've finally faced the ashewo job big time, its now a career so stay with your parents till they honorably come and ask for your hand

I totally disagree with you on this. If Linda Ikeji decided to stay with her parents in order to avoid been labelled a prostitute, i guess you and i woudn't have known her.

greatness22:
You have a point there. But don't you think most ladies abuse this opportunity?

life is all about choice. People are different. Anyhow you want to live your life, it's your choice. If you want to be reckless, then be ready to deal with the consequence.

mizzbouqui:

No I didn't, I've always been hardworking so no room for condemnation moreover I don't have a father

There might be some secret negative remarks about your decision tho. Sorry for your loss.

greatness22:
I totally disagree with you on this. If Linda Ikeji decided to stay with her parents in order to avoid been labelled a prostitute, i guess you and i woudn't have known her.

when linda ikeji left her parents her blogging was already paying off so do your research well

mhisbliss:
when linda ikeji left her parents her blogging was already paying off so do your research well

So, a lady should stay in her parents house awaiting any potential suitor?

greatness22:
So, a lady should stay in her parents house awaiting any potential suitor?

how many times have you seen powerful ladies get married easily, if you're powerful guys think twice before proposing but if you're a normal girl you get suitors easily, its a simple fact i dont know why you're misunderstanding me

mhisbliss:
how many times have you seen powerful ladies get married easily, if you're powerful guys think twice before proposing but if you're a normal girl you get suitors easily, its a simple fact i dont know why you're misunderstanding me

Am not misunderstanding you. In your first post here, you said "it gives an impression that an independent lady have finally face her ashewo job"
Which is totally wrong. And mind you, staying with her parents do not justify that suitors will line up for her.

greatness22:
Am not misunderstanding you. In your first post here, you said "it gives an impression that an independent lady have finally face her ashewo job"
Which is totally wrong. And mind you, staying with her parents do not justify that suitors will line up for her.

but her chances are bigger, linda ikeji is a living proof why is she not married at her age, lemme paint you a picture imagine me living alone i have everything i need money cars and am in love with my career will you marry someone who is obviously not gonna need anything from you? You wont be like her husband and you cant control such people as a husband

Of course it's good and I'm actually working towards that just that the society sometimes paint one bad

mhisbliss:
lemme paint you a picture imagine me living alone i have everything i need money cars and am in love with my career will you marry someone who is obviously not gonna need anything from you?

And who told you she's not going to need affection, protection, love and attention from me?

greatness22:
And who told you she's not going to need affection, protection, love and attention from me?

money answereth all things says the Bible

greatness22:
There might be some secret negative remarks about your decision tho. Sorry for your loss.

Negative remark? Ok I'm listening what are they

mhisbliss:
money answereth all things says the Bible

Lol, who wrote the bible? And the same bible also says Love conquereth ALL things.

mizzbouqui:

Negative remark? Ok I'm listening what are they

[quotepost=47656833]It gives the impression that you've finally faced the ashewo job big time,[/quote][/quote] I guess this is one of the many negative remarks.