JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand, so because he asked you out you should just be collecting? You won't surprise him with gifts or pay for dinner once in a while? This is why guys keep shading ladies on this forum, you present yourselves as leeches.

Gbam! you just spoke my mind...of course its not wrong to spend on your guy, it creates mutual value and places the guy's mind at ease, he is ready to spend his last k on the girl, knowing she would do the same were the cased reversed.

agarawu23:
Only "few" naija babe will spend on a guy..
They have that dull mentality that their bf must spend and must alws be the one to spend.

Lmao.. True

mizzbouqui:

Thanks sis

so it is a crime for a lady to spend in a relationship i know see reasons why some guys make disgusting torrent on ladies that tonia is writing rubbish big time rubbish dont know where some people leave there wisdom cap or maybe it is lost very irritating mindset even our parents help eachothers wont blame kid still eating candies and spoon feed .

mizzbouqui:

Alright its my decision not yours

who wud believe dis innocent thin is materialistic....u will meet ur type in man..dnt worri

Benita27:
When he dumps you, you can go extra miles to harm him, because of all you gave.

If he is your " man " then no need to with hold or give in halves.

mizzbouqui:

Thanks sis

You are very welcome my dear

Benita27:
Never develop the habit of spending on a guy you're dating, there's no harm in helping them when they're in need, What real men want is a faithful lady, not one that spends on them.

To some spending on them reduces their self worth, even in marriages when a lady is the bread winner of the family, the men are not so happy, so why should your boyfriend be happy when you're the one doing virtually everything for him?, when such a relationship crashes, he has nothing to lose but you.

Imagine if all you do is:pay his school fees, pay rents, cook for him with your money whenever you visit, change his wardrobe, when there's no guarantee he will even marry you, neither are you his sugar mummy, is he handicap?. He will take all these and still cheat on you, and dump you when the need arise.

We ladies are naturally emotional, while the male counterparts are naturally logical, when he dumps you suicide is inevitable, he's likely to move on sooner that you.

He asked you out, you didn't ask him, why should you two go on a date, and you're the one buying everything, while he's collecting?.

Spending on a guy is not healthy, even your parents will frown at it.

Expecting the ladies you date to spend on you is like patronising a prostitute and asking her to pay you.

We're not in India where women marry men.

Can't find this useful.A kinda #Trash

mizzbouqui:

I'm waiting for that guy that will come and use and dump, he has his own money and I'm not broke as well, I get a good job at hand so fvck off

which kind smelly job be dat....u reek of post traumatic poverty disorder(ptpd)

Telkings:


That is the height of stupidity, that is why people remain broke in this country.

na dat guy type dy commit suicide on top woman matter.....na wen dy dump his goody goody ass him eyes go clear

Some of Naija babes won't grow up.. What are material things for the first place? Though penury will always make some babes say l can't spend on my man. By moro now it will be same people advocating for gender equality. My candid opinion is that he or she who has should give without looking back because you won't be financially buoyant forever hence the need to give when ever you man or woman is need.. Also, you are meant to give whenever you have dont wait til you're asked before you give.. Finally, most naija guys won't like the idea of their babe giving them money or paying their bills. This will make them look as if they won't be in absolute control over their babe.. Let me end on this note, if you want uour babe to be settling your bills be ready to condole so many things form her #Chikina

Trina0936:

No mind them! Luckily like Mizzbouqui said,I also can't date or marry a man that I am richer than.
I have spent and can always spend on my malefriends(those I can never have sex with) because I know what real friendship means!(reciprocal)
BTW a lady who asks a guy out would always be at the receiving end of the relationship especially here in Africa where they don't even know what love means!

why sharing this nonesense with me .

abbeyboy2o15:
why sharing this nonesense with me .

Who is sharing with you? Better unfollow me cos I never forced you to!

mikron:
@ the bolded what if its the other way round i.e if the lady asked the guy out?, from ur analogy does that mean the lady should foot all the bills when it comes to spending for the guy? ur level of thinking is to say the least whacked, girls like u are the reaso why some guys are still not married because people like u influence the good ones out there negetively. i pity u

Thanks for the compliment man!.

Just so you knw, people don't spoil people, people change their minds at some point, change they say is constant.

Trina0936:

Who is sharing with you? Better unfollow me cos I never forced you to!

nobody is follow open your eyes and see or use a glass.

abbeyboy2o15:
why sharing this nonesense with me .

Did I?

abbeyboy2o15:
nobody is follow open your eyes and see or use a glass.

Dey deceive yourself

Trina0936:

Dey deceive yourself

like seriously am not following you check it ojo lo ko ewure ati aja po.

Benita27:
Nature made it that way not me....people attract their likes, i can date a broke guy, but can't be doing everything for him.

Is too risky.

n u want ur guy to b doing everything for u...isn't dat too risky .....talk of hypocrisy

mizzbouqui:

Did I?

is one trinia or trincan you shared something she wrote with me and is even acquising me am following her mi o ma ra ye radarara yi o .

abbeyboy2o15:
like seriously am not following you check it ojo lo ko ewure ati aja po.

You are not understanding this thing, pls don't fight

mizzbouqui:

You are not understanding this thing

what maybe if you explain i can understand ?

mizzbouqui:

You are not understanding this thing, pls don't fight

fight ke me fight ko saye fun iyen i mind my biz dont just like people that pokenose, how much is her body to fight with it.

if she stingy

me sef i go stingy

money no easy to see!

abbeyboy2o15:
like seriously am not following you check it ojo lo ko ewure ati aja po.

That is your business so pls stop quoting me. Omo ale jati jati! Soso GI ma ekwensu kwara GI bia ebem noo! Amusu

5 years ago I shared your sentiment but life and love taught me it's best to give with an open heart and not count at all. I spend it If I have and he does to. Life is no competition it's about kindness.

What matters to you more the money or their happiness

Everything is about Balance but don't make your worth based on what you get its what you give

ikombe:


Last Time i checked ex president Goodluck jonathan is not cheating on his wife. And they are both happily married

Am i referring to married couple?.

Did i in any where said married men are cheating on their wives?.

Don't read the back of my post.

Trina0936:

That is your business so pls stop quoting me. Omo ale jati jati! Soso GI ma ekwensu kwara GI bia ebem noo! Amusu

who is quoting you see your choice of words show how untrained you are wont exchange dime with you but educate your mind to free your retardation.

Benita27:
Never develop the habit of spending on a guy you're dating, there's no harm in helping them when they're in need, What real men want is a faithful lady, not one that spends on them.

To some spending on them reduces their self worth, even in marriages when a lady is the bread winner of the family, the men are not so happy, so why should your boyfriend be happy when you're the one doing virtually everything for him?, when such a relationship crashes, he has nothing to lose but you.

Imagine if all you do is:pay his school fees, pay rents, cook for him with your money whenever you visit, change his wardrobe, when there's no guarantee he will even marry you, neither are you his sugar mummy, is he handicap?. He will take all these and still cheat on you, and dump you when the need arise.

We ladies are naturally emotional, while the male counterparts are naturally logical, when he dumps you suicide is inevitable, he's likely to move on sooner that you.

He asked you out, you didn't ask him, why should you two go on a date, and you're the one buying everything, while he's collecting?.

Spending on a guy is not healthy, even your parents will frown at it.

Expecting the ladies you date to spend on you is like patronising a prostitute and asking her to pay you.

We're not in India where women marry men.

But it is perfectly alright for a guy to spend on a girl ?

danypst:
op, u sounded like u were once a victim of such. Well, if dats d case, u just only meet d wrong guy who took advantage of ur benovolence. While some guys will runaway, some wil make sure they marry the girl. Men varies...

Have never been a victim, that's the plain truth.

kilokeys:
if there is a plan besides changing wardrobes and feeding him

if u can empower your man , either advancing his career , or setting him up.. thats a great idea


note the word ''Your Man''.

dayumm brah you go do dey get plenty women with this your guitar skills. dat mukaila jashaun liberian girl was on fleek, as they say

Sacluxpaint:
That's the beginning of insults, as for me I like to preserve my respect, ego and dignity. Except you are down in the mud and she is your wife, its understandable but guys try avoid them spending on you, you are not a hoe.

lol!.

Some nairaland guys are now ho*s o!, looking for a money making machine lady to stupidly spend on them.

So shameful!.

DozieInc:


If he is your " man " then no need to with hold or give in halves.

Are you talking of bf or Husband?.