am sorry even I am tried of this virgin topics, but please bear with me and go through this one. why are men so obsessed with Virginity?there have been like countless topics on dis, and honestly I don't know whats the fuss is all about. and i don't mean it badly, i just want to hear from guys on why it's important. is it like a prize? or an ownership thing? please be completely honest. i just don't see what the big deal is. I mean it's not like i care if you are or not, so why does it matter if i am?

I am not bashing you guys for this, just curious at what the big deal is.

posakosa:

wbb

posakosa:

and what is dat suppose to mean?

Well, for mere dating purposes, i dont see the big deal really if u are or not. But for marriage purposes, theres nothing like knowing ur wife or wife to be is pure n ure the 1st person to "de-flower" her, so to say,

I dont know about anyone else o, but for me personally, it would just give me joy/hapiness to marry a virgin, and its not like im looking for one sha cuz i know they r hard to find these days, but it would just be nice. I know no better feeling than being able to stand and say YES, no one as ever seen my wife's vagina before,

and u cant compare to a guy cuz whether u like it or not, a girl has more to lose in the sense of dignity. I know quite a few girls who wish they could take it back and still be virgins so,

@sexyLeamon
Was the day u gave it up not special for u?

Lord_Reed:

@sexyLeamon
Was the day u gave it up not special for u?

course it was special, but you missed my point, why do guys emphasis on it so much? some men wouldn't even marry u if u are not virgin.

oh please not again!

am not a guy,
but to me as a girl it matters alot
it's  infact the biggest deal ever, there is nothing like trust and respect,
if u maintain urself till u marry ur husband have every right to respect and trust u
the diginity and respect  of a woman is her virginity am proud to say that, take it or lump it

Stella N:

am not a guy,
but to me as a girl it matters alot
it's  infact the biggest deal ever, there is nothing like trust and respect,
if u maintain urself till u marry your husband have every right to respect and trust u
the diginity and respect  of a woman is her virginity am proud to say that, take it or lump it

you are a star in my books
God bless you

@poster
virginity is d greatest gift ur girl can give to u.
u love ur gal more if she is a virgin.
me I respect virgins o

@Gew thanks jor
if am a man i will not take left-over food oooooooooo

Virginity at marriage sounds cool. But there have been many unhappy marriages
following such. Its no guarantee.

To Marry a virgin as a wife is the best. But People keep on saying that Virginity is not a pride, but lack of opportunity. Is it True?

SaridonP:

To Marry a virgin as a wife is the best. But People keep on saying that Virginity is not a pride, but lack of opportunity. Is it True?

Well, it depends,


Virginity sha is NOT a guarantee for a sucessful marriage. If a man won't marry you cause you are NOT a virgin, I suggest that you keep it moving.

I concur that its a double standard in society: Women are expected to be virgins while Men are not.

sexyLeamon:

course it was special, but you missed my point, why do guys emphasis on it so much? some men wouldn't even marry u if u are not virgin.

I haven't missed the point. Just as it was special for u so it's for us.

While I do not condone promiscuity. I believe that often times people loose their virginity under certain circumstances,

Rape, Sports,, and so on,


Virginity has an exaggerated value in the Nigerian culture/but I bet you if were to ask your parents, they weren't exactly virgins when they got married, and birth us.  

The only men looking for virgins especially when they are not virgins themselves either cannot Bleep or they have small joysticks. It is just that simple. They are just insecure.

Difference between a wife and a slut.

men like virgins because if they deflower a girl the girl never forgets them, there is something like a bond between them.

G.E.E:

men like virgins because if they deflower a girl the girl never forgets them, there is something like a bond between them.

When you find your true love, trust me you'll forget everyone else u've phucked.

Aqva:

Difference between a wife and a slut.

Not really, Ive seen virgins get married and engage in adultery during the course of their marriage. ehn, so this is not true my friend.

Which men are we talking about here?Is it men in general or men in nairaland?it is because guys i know do not give 2 f%&Ks about virginity in a girl for marraige.

It is always good to look out for a man who is well matured psychological, emotionally and spiritually that can treat a woman with love and respect

Men who are obsessed with women's virginity are still Immatured marriage license should not be given to them ( thank god I'm taken)

Virginity is not a guarantee to successful/happy marriage

It's probably something similar to when you go to a gadget shop and buy something. If you are to pick between similar product and price, one with the package opened and another one with package sealed, which one you are likely to go home with?
i might be wrong, it's a guy thing.

It's not a guy thing. Please speak for yourself.

I am a man and to me,Virgins re hardwork most of em can be very immature when it comes to the issue of sex.And besides marrying a virgin does't mean a man is shielded from the problems associated with marriage but that is not to say virgins do not make good wives,i would even love to have one for a wife but I aint waiting.

I know a virgin who has been havin sex in ages but she still remains a virgin; she had been taking it up the ass. So where do you classify such? I believe the issue of virginity is just over emphasised. In some cases, as rightly said earlier, they fail in their marriages due to their inability to satisfy their sexually over experienced husbands.

mikesleek:

I know a virgin who has been havin sex in ages but she still remains a virgin; she had been taking it up the ass. So where do you classify such? I believe the issue of virginity is just over emphasised. In some cases, as rightly said earlier, they fail in their marriages due to their inability to satisfy their sexually over experienced husbands.

hahahahaha!

You'd need a lot more choices than 2 to get anywhere on this and the fascination level would depend on the guy.

It could be about bragging rights. It is probably a perk for a guy that lacks sexual confidence (she won't know if he sucks in bed). It can be a turn on to a guy for various reasons: tightness, the thrill of giving someone a new experience, the guy knows he won't be forgotten, the list could go on for a while.

Personally, I would say the best sex I've ever had has been with a partner who was VERY sexually confident, was willing to experiment, was impulsive sexually and was also very experienced.

Being someone's first is a very unique experience in a very different way, especially if you are somewhat skilled and experienced and are more interested in her pleasure than just adding a notch to the headboard.

I dont mean to sound rude,but abeg it pisses me off when some guys emphasize so much on a females virginity. After the guys have disvirgined other girls, then they start looking for virgins to marry.