"Is abstinence before marriage a realistic message?" Most people are going to have sex anyway, so why bother even teaching abstinence?

Many in the modern culture have declared that sexual morality is dead, that abstinence isn't realistic, but it is instead old-fashioned and outdated. Is abstinence before marriage even reasonable in today's "hook-up culture"?

It is the best option

OLAADEGBU:


"Is abstinence before marriage a realistic message?" Most people are going to have sex anyway, so why bother even teaching abstinence?

Many in the modern culture have declared that sexual morality is dead, that abstinence isn't realistic, but it is instead old-fashioned and outdated. Is abstinence before marriage even reasonable in today's "hook-up culture"?

Suggested answer:

Question: "Is abstinence before marriage a realistic message?"

Answer: Many in the modern culture have declared that sexual morality is dead, that abstinence isn't realistic, but it is instead old-fashioned and outdated. Is abstinence before marriage even reasonable in today's "hook-up culture"?

God designed sex to be enjoyed within a committed marital relationship. When God brought Adam and Eve together in marriage, He established the "one flesh" relationship. Genesis 2:24 tells us that a man will leave his family, join to his wife, and become "one flesh" with her. There are numerous verses that declare sex before marriage to be sin (Acts 15:20; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13, 18; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). The Bible commands complete abstinence before marriage. Sex between a husband and his wife is the only form of sexual relations of which God approves (Hebrews 13:4).

God’s truth is eternal—not old-fashioned or unrealistic. However, God’s truth isn’t always easy! Sexual abstinence before marriage is often difficult and requires commitment, self-control, and some strategy. In a sense, it requires a person to be a rebel in a "sexually enlightened" culture.

In reality, the sexual enlightenment philosophy has brought our culture a lot of negative things—porn addiction, sexually transmitted diseases, emotional damage, and abortion on demand. Many in today's culture say that a "hook-up" is the goal of the night. Singles bounce from club to club looking to hook up with a stranger for casual sex. But that's not how God designed sex to work.

Blogger Matt Walsh describes this well: "Describing sex as 'casual' is like describing the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel as a 'nice little doodle.' . . . The people who diminish and cheapen sex are the ones who get to pass themselves off as 'sexually enlightened.'"

Perhaps you are in a committed relationship, maybe even engaged to be married. For you, sex would not be "casual"; even so, God wants you to wait for the marriage relationship before you have sex. Saving this special, God-given intimacy until marriage will deepen your relationship and prevent future regrets.

Many see abstinence as unrealistic because no one has shown them how to live it out. If someone just shakes a finger and says, "Don't have sex before marriage," but doesn't give the tools to live that message, abstinence becomes a lot more difficult. Here are some tips from those who have faced the temptations and walked the path of abstinence:

• Understand that you can be a rebel in the culture. No one should force you to have sex before marriage. If you want to honour God by saving sex for a marriage relationship, then you can do it!

• Keep your eye on the prize. That prize isn't your future spouse. It isn't your wedding night. Your end goal is becoming more like Christ. That's God's plan for you.

• Don't put yourself in situations where you'll be tempted to compromise your values—or your sexual purity. This may mean not being alone together. You know what those situations are, so avoid them.

• [s]Date people who are like-minded. When both of you are on board with abstinence, you can help each other keep the commitment of abstinence[/s].

• Set boundaries. Ask a good friend or mentor to keep you accountable.

Abstinence is more than not having sex before marriage. Strive for sexual purity in all areas of your life—in thoughts, in words, in actions. If you think about or talk about sex a lot, you're going to have a lot harder time not doing it.

Whether the culture says abstinence is realistic or not doesn't change God's truth. He has established sex to be limited to marriage, and He will equip you to honour Him through abstinence. First Corinthians 10:13 says, "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it."

Is abstinence realistic? Yes. Is abstinence always easy? No, but, with God, it is possible.

Note: Perhaps you've already lost your virginity. Please know that God is in the business of second chances. He wants you to come to Him in repentance, and He will forgive your sins and heal your heart. It's not too late to make the choice to live righteously and in ways that are pleasing to Him.
http://www.gotquestions.org/abstinence-before-marriage.html

OLAADEGBU:


Why is it the best option?

It has a lot of advantages and no disadvantage

lilyqueen:


It has a lot of advantages and no disadvantage

Can you please elucidate on some of the advantages?

OLAADEGBU:


Can you please elucidate on some of the advantages?

No sexually transmitted diseases

No unwanted pregnancy

Low rate of heart break and so on

OLAADEGBU:
"Is abstinence before marriage a realistic message?" Most people are going to have sex anyway, so why bother even teaching abstinence?

Many in the modern culture have declared that sexual morality is dead, that abstinence isn't realistic, but it is instead old-fashioned and outdated. Is abstinence before marriage even reasonable in today's "hook-up culture"?

Op, this is religion section this topic is better moved to the romance section.
Abstinence before marriage is the right thing to do, you don't need anyone to tell you that.

Whether it's realistic or not, you don't expect anyone that is a Christian and morally upright to say it's unrealistic. You can only get contrary response from Atheists here.

As for me, i say it's realistic afterall there are a lot of people practicing celibacy.

I can't say if it's reasonable or not, but it is possible.

Nobody practices abstinence before marriage.
Those who claim to be abstinent, if you investigate, are often doing everything except penetration.
There must be some exceptions though.

Seun:
Nobody is practicing abstinence before marriage. Those that claim to be abstinent, if you investigate, are doing everything except penetration.

Fact Only !!
This just made my night.


Good night.

Seun:
Nobody is practicing abstinence before marriage. Those that claim to be abstinent, if you investigate, are doing everything except penetration.

LOL. That's usually the message they preach to fool those who want to be fooled.

At times, even if one of the couple is abstaining, the other might not be. I've seen this instance countless of times. That's why I'm a staunch advocate of pre-marital sex.

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Very simple and yet a complex question . Personally, am of the opinion that sex is so significant, so powerful and so dangerous if misused, that it requires the type of long-term commitment, deep trust and strong mutual understanding that marriage conveys,sex is an integral part of human nature. almost no one would argue that ,indiscriminate sex with no concern for the physical, social or moral consequences is a good thing. Even that's exactly what our instincts would tell us to do. Human instincts don't care about long term consequences or social sanction, but human need to. The notion that sex should only be the expression of selfess, enduring love is not supported by science,so it would be a religious convicetion you either do or don't have.

The act to delay or lemme use the word ABSTINENCE is really important to develop,but can constant self denial of the fleshy desire makes human happier?. People with low sex drive ,abstinence can be on the normal side for them.

Sex comes in many ways, different flavour..No youth wants to enter a marriage been ignorant of the common explorations and variations that puts them on a huge disadvantage unless they're certain they and whoever they wnats to marry will be happy with plain variation of Sex...so ABSTINENCE is just WEIRD when you start rationalizing it as anything more than an act of practical necessity,

If you can abstain.. No wahala.. and if you can't, Enjoy the rides or circumstances that it birth

Penetration or Non-penetration ?



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Seun:
Nobody is practicing abstinence before marriage. Those that claim to be abstinent, if you investigate, are doing everything except penetration.

@"Nobody": This is a fallacy of hasty generalization. Not everyone follows the crowd...

OLAADEGBU:
"Is abstinence before marriage a realistic message?" Most people are going to have sex anyway, so why bother even teaching abstinence?

Many in the modern culture have declared that sexual morality is dead, that abstinence isn't realistic, but it is instead old-fashioned and outdated. Is abstinence before marriage even reasonable in today's "hook-up culture"?

abstinence is good in some ways. Just look at the high rate of hiv/stds for example.

Abstinence should be a personal thing. Your thread is sending the wrong signal to teenagers, making them believe having sex is right. Don't get me wrong, sex between adults is alright.
it's one thing to have sex, and another to be faithful.

Now to your question.
is abstinence before marriage reasonable in today's hook up culture? Yes and no.
Yes! If is a personal decision.
No! Because i'd like to please myself or rather satisfy my urge that moment. Guy, we all have blood running through our veins. Is just like you are pressed but you're being restricted to ease yourself at that particular time which is bad.

Seun:
Nobody practices abstinence before marriage. Those that claim to be abstinent, if you investigate, are often doing everything except penetration.

and I put it to you that some people are so committed to abstinence that they don't even embrace/hug each other, talk less of kissing or pre-intimacy. It's just like saying it is impossible to be great and affluent in life without been through formal education at any time in life, and that if you investigate they probably dropped out of school at some point.

The fact that it seems impossible to you doesn't mean people have not totally abstained in the past even till this present terrible end time.

Ok bye.

he went to modify his post, you for leave am na

lilyqueen:


No sexually transmitted diseases

No unwanted pregnancy

Low rate of heart break and so on

Are these enough reasons to stop folks from having premarital sex?

Drdreyy:


Op, this is religion section this topic is better moved to the romance section.
Abstinence before marriage is the right thing to do, you don't need anyone to tell you that.

Why romance section, and can you explain why abstinence is the right thing to do?

Drdreyy:


Whether it's realistic or not, you don't expect anyone that is a Christian and morally upright to say it's unrealistic. You can only get contrary response from Atheists here.

Apart from atheists, do we have anyone who thinks abstinence is unrealistic today?

Drdreyy:


As for me, i say it's realistic afterall there are a lot of people practicing celibacy.

Is it realistic because a lot of people are practising it or because you have other reasons for doing so?

OLAADEGBU:


Are these enough reasons to stop folks from having premarital sex?

YES

OLAADEGBU:


Why romance section and can you explain why abstinence is the right thing to do?

You can see the little number of views and responses you have gotten since yesterday.
Any born again Christian and morally upright person that reads the title will not even bother clicking it talkless of commenting, except few ones that care to correct you.

Premarital sex is a sin and not allowed by God. Ofcourse it's the right thing to do, because

1. You are obeying God.
2. You save your self from the risks of sexually transmitted diseases and heart breaks.

OLAADEGBU:


Apart from atheists, do we have anyone who thinks abstinence is unrealistic today?

Agnostic Christians and others who do not regard God or fear God.

OLAADEGBU:


Is it realistic because a lot of people are practising it or because you have other reasons for doing so?

Bro, it's realistic. Anybody who feels the urge is too much for him/her should go and get a partner and be legally married.

Even the virgins are not ready for abstinence. They dont want to be shocked by the what he has or capable of

I don't know

few people might be practising it, but there are people who have decided to keep themselves till marriage.


N.B: YOU LEAVE PART OF YOURSELF WITH WHOSOEVER YOU HAVE SEX WITH, WHETHER 2 OR 10.

#abstinence till marriage all the way.

Rdr

Abstinence is a NECESSITY just like food cloth water n money

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Stories we get from "Abstinence teachings" on social Media.

1. Help!!! My husband has a small ddick. What should I do?

2. Help!!! My Husband is a 1 minute man. He cannot satisfy me in bed. What should I do?

3. Help!!! My Wife does not like sex, I am tempted to go outside. What should I do?

4. Help!!! My Husband touches me once in 6 months since after our marriage. What should I do?

5. Help!!! My wife cries each time we make love. I am even afraid to touch her. What should I do?

6. Help!!! My husband has a weak eerection. I don't feel his ddick inside me. What should I do?

7. Help My wife is not Good in bed. She lies like a lug of wood. I don't enjoy sex with her . What should I do?


When you refused to check what your buying before you pay, please don't come to me for any silly advice. I have stopped contributing on threads on such topics for a very long time now.

Sexual compatibility is key to a successful marriage.

Be wise + Be smart

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lilyqueen:


No sexually transmitted diseases

No unwanted pregnancy

Low rate of heart break and so on

No fore-knowledge of the person you are about to marry.

Many marriage have collapsed because the wife or husband finds out that their spouse cannot satisfy them sexually.


That is 1 of the disadvantage

The only thing that can prevent sexual transmitted disease and unwanted pregnancy is faithfulness and mutual understanding. Human body is wired for sex

OLAADEGBU:
"Is abstinence before marriage a realistic message?" Most people are going to have sex anyway, so why bother even teaching abstinence?

Many in the modern culture have declared that sexual morality is dead, that abstinence isn't realistic, but it is instead old-fashioned and outdated. Is abstinence before marriage even reasonable in today's "hook-up culture"?

Where and where is this message taught?

Seun:
Nobody practices abstinence before marriage. Those that claim to be abstinent, if you investigate, are often doing everything except penetration.

You might be right, but are still some people who still abstain totally.

It depends on what you want for yourself. If you can abstain before marriage its best, but if you can't its better you talk up with your partner. Also being faithful with that single partner is key to avoid lots of risk and what it could bring.

Seun:
Nobody practices abstinence before marriage. Those that claim to be abstinent, if you investigate, are often doing everything except penetration.

Seun, dont say on what u dont have much knowledge on. There are a lot of ppl who do not even hug, kiss or romance talkless of sex during their courtship. Many are practising full celibacy and more will still continue. Cos the world is morally depraved shouldnt mean that we shld move castigate the right thing.

Please, who wants to buy?