Hey guys, if you aint like reading long write-ups, sorry you are in the wrong page. I couldnt have summarized this without leaving out the crux of the piece. Read along, practice it and you will experience slide or great changes in your sex life...and may as well avoid that divorce or heartbreak, from cheating.
Thank me later.

How long does your sex last?
If you don’t want to put it in the comments, here’s what the stats say. The average time of intercourse is 5-7 minutes, but 50% of guys last less than 2 minutes.
And when you give guys some anonymity, they admit it. The most popular response to a reddit poll on “how long does sex normally last” was 1-2 minutes.
That’s a major problem.
The reported ideal length of sex is between 10 and 25 minutes, and 80% of guys can’t pull that off.
Both men and women want their sex to last longer, but guys lack the control to make it happen.
I had this same problem.
Depending on the situation I could only last around 2 minutes in actual intercourse.
I tried EVERYTHING to improve it. Eventually, I figured out what worked and trained myself to last well into that ideal zone.
But figuring it out was a huge pain in the ass. The advice floating around the Internet sucks, and I suspect that most of it is written by people who haven’t dealt with the problem.
Which brings us here. Me drinking enough wine to talk about my penis on the Internet.
Before we go on though… if we know each other in real life and you’re going to be weird about this at the next school/family reunion, at work, or when we’re standing next to each other at the urinal, stop reading now.
I’m about to talk a LOT about joysticks, cumming, masturbating, sex, and I figured if I was going to write this I may as well go all out.
Cool? Cool.
I’ll start by covering why you should work on lasting longer in bed.
Then we’ll move on to step one: addressing the psychological factors behind lasting longer.
Step two is the exercises you can do to start lasting longer. No gym necessary, and they’re a lot of fun.
Finally, step three is what to do during sex to make sure you last as long as possible.
Let’s get this party started–there’s a lot of great information coming (and more bad sex puns).
Sidenote: This kind of control is also the first step in training yourself to have multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms.
Why Last Longer
The obvious reason is that sex is fun. I shouldn’t have to explain that one. There are two less obvious reasons, though.
Reason 1: Fixing Insecurity
Intercourse duration is a source of major insecurity for a ton of guys (especially the ones in the less than 5 minutes camp), and it can seriously affect how they think about themselves.
No one wants to be going through a date worrying about how long they’ll be able to last that night.
No one wants to worry about losing a great woman because he can’t perform.
No one wants to feel like they aren’t fully satisfying their partner.
I was talking about this article with a friend and he dropped this story on me:
“Me and this girl had an awesome first two dates, really hit it off. At the end of the second one, we had sex, and I only lasted a couple minutes once I was inside her. She didn’t get off at all.
The next day she said maybe we should just be friends… I knew it had to be the sex. It completely crushed my confidence with dating.”
And another friend brought up this example from one of her female friends:
“I was dating this guy for a bit, and liked him a lot. But when we had sex, once he was inside it was over in 60 seconds. I just couldn’t deal with sex like that so I broke things off.”
Sex shouldn’t be a source of insecurity, and it definitely shouldn’t be a reason you lose a relationship.
When you train yourself to last into that 10 to 25-minute range, you stop worrying about the sex being long enough or good enough, and instead it becomes the icing on the cake of an otherwise awesome guy (unless you’re an asshole, in which case fix that first).
Reason 2: Female Orgasms
Fewer than 25% of women regularly orgasm during intercourse, which is abysmal. Seriously men, get your shit together.
There are a ton of aspects to making that happen: positioning, emotional connection, her mental state, whether you showered today, pre-intimacy, but none of that matters if you get off in less than 2 minutes.
I’ve rarely heard of a woman orgasming in less than 2 minutes during intercourse, so if you want her to get as much pleasure from sex as you (possibly more), you need to start lasting longer.
Hell, if you can last long enough she can just get on top of you and take care of herself.
You owe it to the women of the world to get your penis under control.

Step One: Improving Your Sex Psychology
If you go into sex thinking that you won’t last very long, you won’t. Sliding in with any sort of insecurities about your sexual abilities will make you cum much, much faster than you want to.
And if you think about it biologically, it makes sense. The insecurity makes you stressed. Your body can tell that you’re stressed. The stress suggests that this isn’t a very safe environment for you to be naked with your eyes closed and not particularly ready to defend against one of these.

So what does your body do when you’re stressed during sex? It reduces the amount of time you’re in a vulnerable state, either by making you cum quickly or not being able to get it up at all.
Which means that you need to go into sex with a confident, positive outlook on how you’re going to perform.
The best way to do that? Talk to your partner about it.
If you bring up your concerns about how long you’re lasting and that you want to work on it with them, they’re not going to think less of you. Rather, they’ll think higher of you for wanting to improve this part of your relationship, and want to work on it with you.
It’s nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about, and you’ll find that just being open about it will solve half the problem on its own.
Better, when you open up in this way and start to work on it, there are positive spillovers to other areas of life. It doesn’t just improve your communication and trust with your partner, it improves your confidence in yourself.
No partner? No worries. You can easily do the exercises without one.

Step Two: Daily Exercises for Lasting Longer
Good news, there are only two things you need to do regularly to significantly increase your sexual longevity.
It’s just kegel exercises and masturbation practice, and it’s an even 50% kegels and 50% practice so take the time for both.
Exercise 1: Kegels and Reverse Kegels (< 10 mins / day)
If you do nothing else in this article, do this.
The best way to improve your ejaculatory control is the strengthen the muscles that control ejaculation. Makes sense, right?
If you’ve never heard of kegels before, I wrote more in-depth articles on kegel exercises for men, and reverse kegels, to help you out. But you can get by with the abbreviated version below if you’re familiar with it.
Here’s what I want you to do:
1. Get naked (I told you this would be fun).
2. Put a finger or two on the skin between your legs behind your balls, but before your anus.
3. Now imagine you’re trying to stop yourself from peeing. Flex that muscle. (This is also the muscle you flex to make your penis “dance” when it’s hard. Don’t give me that look, I know you’ve done it).
4. You should feel some movement where you put your fingers, and you might feel movement in your penis and balls.
5. Don’t flex your ass like you’re trying to show off your glutes, don’t flex your legs, and don’t flex your abs. Focus just on flexing that muscle.
6. If you’re really having trouble finding it, then drink a bunch of water, go pee, and try to stop yourself. There it is.
This is called your Pubococcygeus muscle, or PC muscle, and while it can control the flow of urine it also controls your ejaculation.
Strengthening it will make you last longer, and eventually even allow you to stop yourself from reaching the “point of no return” and quickly bring yourself down from near orgasm.
To train it, we’re going to tie small weights to your penis, then you’re going to get hard and flex it to lift the weights.
Okay just kidding, it’s a little easier than that.
All you have to do to train your PC muscles is “kegel exercises” which involve flexing it repeatedly, and “reverse kegel exercises” which involve pushing out on it repeatedly.
But, like any muscle, you can’t do the same thing over and over again and expect it to get much stronger. You need to keep increasing the difficulty.
The best way to do this is to use an app called “Stamena” that gives you specific directions on how long to clench and push for, and the different speeds to do it at. If you’re on Android, you can use Kegel Trainer
As you do more of it, you “level up” in the app and start holding and pressing for longer and for more repetitions. You’ll start seeing serious improvements in your sexual longevity around level 8+.

I assume this would have a really high conversion rate on Tinder
I set a reminder in the app to ping me 3 times a day to make sure I didn’t forget. You don’t have to do it that frequently, once a day is fine, but doing it 2 to 3 times a day will get you there faster.
Once you get to level 20+ you can cut back and just do it for maintenance. But like any muscle, when you stop using it you’ll get weaker. So keep training.
Exercise 2: Masturbation & Edging (10-30 mins / day)
If you want to last longer, you have to start masturbating differently.
Many guys who have trouble lasting a long time have gotten themselves into bad habits from how they masturbate.
If you typically open the spank bank, go full jackhammer on your dick and finish up in a minute or two then yeah, you’re not going to have very much staying power with the real deal.
Here’s your new rule for masturbating: nothing less than 10 minutes. I don’t care if you have to spend 8 of those minutes just staring at it, you can’t let yourself cum in less than 10 minutes. Once that’s comfortable, up it to 15, then 20.
Now, here’s what you should be doing during those 10 minutes.
When a guy isn’t lasting very long in bed, it’s because his “pleasure graph” is looking something like this:

You’ll never look at the “boom” emoji the same
A quick escalation straight to cumming. To last longer, you’re going to train yourself to have your “pleasure graph” look more like this:

This is done through “edging,” which you’ll do during sex later but also need to incorporate into your masturbation.
Here’s how it works:
1. Start masturbating, and get yourself up to a 7 out of 10 on the arousal scale. (You’ll just have to subjectively decide what this is for you, it’ll be easier to identify with practice).
2. Stop, and let yourself simmer down to a 5.
3. Now work up to an 8, and then stop again and let yourself slide down to a 6
4. Up to 9, down to 7
5. Up to 9.5, down to 7 again. A 9.5 is just before the point of no return when you know there’s nothing you can do.
6. Repeat the 9.5 to 7 cycle over and over again until you get past 10 minutes. Then you can let yourself go, and you’ll notice this also makes your orgasms MUCH stronger.
As you’re getting more aroused, remember the STAB technique (yeah that’s right, I invented a new sex acronym) to slow yourself down:
• Squeeze: Squeeze your PC muscles HARD like you’re doing an intense kegel. Hold them for at least 10 seconds, but the longer you can hold the more you’ll come down. (You might also have success doing a couple shorter 5-second holds, or a bunch of quick 1-second holds)
• Think: Think about something else
• Avoid: Change your stroke (avoid the head) instead of stopping entirely
• Breathe: Take deep, diaphragmatic (with your stomach) breaths
Ideally, you should combine all of them, but start with one and then add others in until it becomes second nature.
Set aside 30 minutes a night for this kind of practice. The more the better.
If you have a partner you’d rather do this with, tell her what you’re working on, and ask her to help you either with manual / mouth stimulation or by having slow sex with a lot of stopping and starting.
It will be very tempting to just let yourself go when you’re hitting those 9.5 peaks, but trust me, exercising like this will be worth it.
Plus it’s a lot of fun.

Step Three: Techniques for Lasting Longer During Sex
If you’ve been doing your training, then you’re already going to last much longer in bed.
But we can layer more on top of it. These next four strategies will significantly improve your staying power, just by taking the same principles we’ve been using for masturbation to the bedroom
Strategic pre-intimacy Ordering
pre-intimacy frequently goes in this order, because women typically expect men to initiate the next stage of sex:
Kissing / touching -> Cunnilingus -> MouthAction -> Sex
There’s an obvious problem though: you’re going straight from intense oral stimulation to sex.
That’s no bueno. You want to be going into sex at a 4 or 5, not at an 8.
Here’s what you do. You’re already talking to your partner about lasting longer (unless you skipped down here, shame on you), so tell her that it’d be better if you got her off once manually (to get her warmed up more), then she went down on you, then you went down on her after.
Kissing / touching -> Get her off once manually -> MouthAction -> Cunnilingus -> Sex
When you’re receiving oral, after you get to 9.5 a couple times (same edging technique as before, just this time you yell “stop” at the peaks), switch it up so you can cool down while you go down on her and get her off a few times.
Also, tell her to push against your PC muscle (using two or three fingers or a fist works well) while she’s going down on you. It makes you last longer and feels great, but it’s hard to do during actual sex.
Then, when you’ve peaked enough times, getting a cooldown period with minimal stimulation while going down on her will increase how long you last significantly.
Alternatively, depending on how long your refractory periods are, you could get off when she’s going down on you then recover for round two (which lasts longer) while going down on her. Up to you.
Using Positions for Edging
Getting your partner to edge you during pre-intimacy is easy, but during sex it’s a little different. You don’t want to keep stopping and starting thrusting since that’s going to be frustrating for her, and it’ll make you feel self-conscious and start worrying about cumming too soon.
Instead, you can edge yourself just by switching up positions.
Some positions will move you up arousal stages faster. Others, less so. It’s a combination of:
1. Friction (more = faster)
2. Direction of motion (thrusting = faster, back and forth = slower)
3. Control (you moving = faster, her moving = slower)
4. Your position (standing = slowest, supporting with your arms (e.g. missionary) = fastest)
A position with her legs more closed (more friction) plus you doing the thrusting while lying down (e.g. missionary) will be high stimulation and get you off faster.
But a position with her legs spread and you standing or kneeling will be much lower stimulation. Same story if she’s on top of you moving back and forth instead of up and down.
(If you’re not sure what I mean by “back and forth” (vs “thrusting”) well… this is the only way to explain it (SUPER NSFW).)
You need to find your “low stim” and “high stim” positions. Get in the high stim positions when you’re at a 5 or 6, then switch to low stim positions when you’re at an 8 or 9 to bring it back down.
Most importantly, while you’re switching, take a few seconds to squeeze your PC muscles!
Breathing
The way you breathe affects how quickly you cum.
You’ve heard about how you can trick yourself into being happier by making yourself smile, right? Well, you can also make yourself more or less aroused by changing your breathing.
If you want to bring yourself down, slow your breathing and make sure they’re deep belly breaths with your diaphragm. Taking quick breaths in your shoulders and chest is what you do when you’re about to cum, so if you’re doing that, your body thinks you’re close.

Breathe like you’re fine and you’ll become fine.
MOST IMPORTANT: Clamp When You Get Too Close
Those first three tips will help you stay in the 5-9 range. But what happens when you get to 9.9 and you don’t think there’s any way to stop yourself from cumming?
This is what training those PC muscles has led to.
Assuming you’ve gotten them strong enough, all you need to do to bring yourself back from that “point of no return” is stop thrusting and clamp down HARD like a long kegel hold (or a combination of shorter ones if you found that worked better for you).
The longer you squeeze for, the more you’ll come down. With practice, you can take yourself from a 9.9 to a 6 or 7 in a few seconds, and add another ~5 minutes to your sex.
Here’s the catch though: it works better the closer you are to cumming when you do it, so you’re going to have some misfires. But with practice, you’ll start noticing when is the right time to squeeze, and you’ll get better and better at pulling yourself back from the edge.
Go Forth…
That’s it. One psychological change, two exercises to keep you in good sexual shape, three techniques to manage how quickly you heat up, and the last second squeeze to bring you back. That’s all you need.
It’s just a matter of execution. Do the exercises, be open with your partner about what you’re working on, and you’ll see results in less than a month.

Hope you did enjoy your time out...

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I usually last longer.

I need a write up that will make last for 2hour because currently i last for one hour.

One more tip.. To last longer after learning all this...

1. Focus more on giving her pleasure than getting pleasure for yourself (trust me it works)

party:
I usually last longer.

Good for you Sir, however there are others who really are struggling...it'll help them

newsphase:
One more tip.. To last longer after learning all this...

1. Focus more on giving her pleasure than getting pleasure for yourself (trust me it works)

Exactly friend. The mistakes we men make is focusing on those curves and beautiful things she has, thereby making ourselves cum quicker.
Imagine, you wanna punish her with sex, take your mind off pleasures and try to satisfy her...

Formatting makes it difficult to read, infact it is very unkind to the eyes.

otherwise, nice write-up

MPVGoddess:
Formatting makes it difficult to read, infact it is very unkind to the eyes.

otherwise, nice write-up

It is okay...I got your point. I just didn't work on it much, as it was copied