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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Cully408(m): 12:29pm On Sep 07, 2016
VikingsOO7:

I'm not a fan of abortion. What I'm against is bringing a child into this world when You know fully well You cant take care of that child financially, morally, spiritually, etc. You can see the father doesn't give a fvck.

Life itself is a risk, she can as well lose her life during labor.
I get ur point bro though am nt a scent bcuz i have done worst, i paid severely for it and i promise myself dat i will never try or advice anyone to try such too, my 2cent

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Cully408(m): 12:31pm On Sep 07, 2016
Berbierklaus:

Hope you are aware that aBORTION is MURDER, that condom is 90% safe and that proper use of preventive drugs has no side effect?



I bet you are not.
Now crawl back to the hole you came from
I can see that you lack manners, i don't exchange words with kid like you
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Nobody: 12:51pm On Sep 07, 2016
Cully408:
I get ur point bro though am nt a scent bcuz i have done worst, i paid severely for it and i promise myself dat i will never try or advice anyone to try such too, my 2cent
Exactly bro, nobody is holy. I truly like Your contributions.
God bless.

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Tega4B: 12:52pm On Sep 07, 2016
VikingsOO7:

I'm not a fan of abortion. What I'm against is bringing a child into this world when You know fully well You cant take care of that child financially, morally, spiritually, etc. You can see the father doesn't give a fvck.

Life itself is a risk, she can as well lose her life during labor.

Jst wat I was thinking,'wat if I dnt mk it' loosing my life for sm1 dat doesn't care is nt worth it,am nt tryin to b pessimistic or negative. Av been through a lot lately wch I think must hv affected d unborn.

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Nobody: 12:58pm On Sep 07, 2016
Tega4B:


Jst wat I was thinking,'wat if I dnt mk it' loosing my life for sm1 dat doesn't care is nt worth it,am nt tryin to b pessimistic or negative. Av been through a lot lately wch I think must hv affected d unborn.
Hmm. Just do what You feel is best, its Your life. All those hurling insults up and down are just doing so for cheap likes. Some have done worse than abortions.

I wish You well. smiley

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Joe4real1988(m): 12:59pm On Sep 07, 2016
Berbierklaus:

It just pains me that with the knowledge of science,a sexually active adult,will just get pregnant unwillingly.

This [b]preventive drugs
can be gotten over the counter at suprisingly small prices,yet they will get unwanted pregnancy,even village girls don wise up.

Thank you smiley[/b]
. @ bolded, it's no longer advisable coz HIV nd oda stds ar on d rise Nw.........condom remains d best option if one can nt abstain. Don't u tynk so wink
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Cully408(m): 1:05pm On Sep 07, 2016
Tega4B:


Jst wat I was thinking,'wat if I dnt mk it' loosing my life for sm1 dat doesn't care is nt worth it,am nt tryin to b pessimistic or negative. Av been through a lot lately wch I think must hv affected d unborn.
Dnt let ur thought cloud your judgement madam, now let me tell you my own part, if am not mistakenly i have don (6)abortion for 3 different girls and one of the girl did (4)abortion for me expecting marriage though i Love her but i was not the marriage type,i came to ph and dated another girl while i was working and she insisted we get rid of it, i spilled diesel at my working place and paid for the money i didn't it which is 338,250 and got sacked from work after paying that money but i was later called back to wrk after some weeks,so i see it as a punishment for my evil deed so plz dnt make such mistake, embrace ur mistake as joy and see the outcome of it
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by yesboss20(m): 1:06pm On Sep 07, 2016
CharlieMaria:
Please dear give the baby a chance to Live. If you kill the baby you may not live to tell the story. Besides the Baby you are thinking of getting killing might be the only saving grace God gives you in this life, you never knew the Path God had prepared for you. It's painful though the dilemma you are in, but two wrongs don't make right. Keep the baby, bear the shame. All things work out good for those who Love God whether good or bad. You can call if need be (zero eight one eight two three five three zero eight zero.)

God bless you for that. Yours is the exemplary figure/comment here.
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Berbierklaus(f): 1:17pm On Sep 07, 2016
Cully408:
I can see that you lack manners, i don't exchange words with kid like you
My ancestor,go back to your death bed and die peacefully.
stop masturbating under my mentions

GTFOHFF
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Maga44567(m): 1:18pm On Sep 07, 2016
[quote author=CrazyQuinn post=49128888]Get rid ASAP if you know what is Good for your life angry[/qquot]
May God help you with such advice.
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Berbierklaus(f): 1:19pm On Sep 07, 2016
Joe4real1988:
. @ bolded, it's no longer advisable coz HIV nd oda stds ar on d rise Nw.........condom remains d best option if one can nt abstain. Don't u tynk so wink
Thanks I am aware,I was just highlighting ways the pregnancy could have been avoided initially,the thread is centered on pregnancy not STDs.
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Cully408(m): 1:28pm On Sep 07, 2016
Berbierklaus:

My ancestor,go back to your death bed and die peacefully.
stop masturbating under my mentions

GTFOHFF
Watch your mouth woman, you don't just spill trash to people you don't knw for safety reasons.
Not a threat but a advice from me to you so be polite
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Godzchild: 1:39pm On Sep 07, 2016
Pls keep this child,I went through worse but today am alive and happy with my son.The lord showed me mercy and grace.Please take your time and go through my story here,I even had to beg just to keep him,I sinned,I failed but I am a product of grace.My son is a breaktru in my life,u won't understand.Hold on to that preggy,u will be Alrite.Thank you Jesus.

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by danbrowndmf(m): 1:40pm On Sep 07, 2016
Berbierklaus:
My ancestor,go back to your death bed and die peacefully. stop masturbating under my mentions
GTFOHFF
thought u left this bashing stuff one time like that.
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Cully408(m): 1:59pm On Sep 07, 2016
danbrowndmf:
thought u left this bashing stuff one time like that.
Y would she stop when she still eat from her mom pot and think with her ass instead of using her head.
Wat a waste
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by hilaryiq(f): 3:44pm On Sep 07, 2016
CSTR2:
A girl get pregnants and bears the brunt of the stigma and whatever. That nigga that did the ejaculation is free. Free to spread his seed somewhere.
Common sense would dictate to a sensible lady with atleast a decent number of brain cells that she has FAR MORE to lose and should use a condom if she can't keep her legs closed.
May God not let me give birth to this kind of stupid daughter due to a freak of nature, I would disown her immediately.



It's because of Nigeria's shameful attitude towards women that's why you can say bs like this. You would disown your daughter because she got pregnant before marriage? I hope you have only sons please because you seem like you would make your daughter's life a living hell if she makes a single mistake.

As for the condoms, it is the man's responsibility to buy the condoms and his responsibility to put them on. It was her responsibility to make sure he was protected before they had sex. OP and the guy are very much in this together. No matter what the father of the child will always be OP's boyfriend.


It's so sad that because of Nigeria's non-existent laws about the treatment of their own women, men have the right to do and say all this rubbish. If the same laws in developed countries were in place, the boyfriend wouldn't have a choice than to pay child support all his life, that would have made him think twice


@OP millions of women have been through this several times all over the world. It's entirely commonplace. The only thing is Nigeria doesn't provide support for single mothers, and some illiterates with no education will call it a "shame". If you think keeping the child would be bad for you psychologically or mentally then you can decide not to keep it. Although, I've heard abortion is illegal in Nigeria so please make sure you do it in a clinic with a certified doctor!

If you keep the child please remember to tell your boyfriend's ex immediately, if you don't, there will be a lot of drama when she finds out. And don't listen to hypocrites who go about sinning everyday but are quick to judge others whose sin is "different" from theirs.


Don't let anyone guilt you into keeping a child, they are not in your situation and some are extremely judgemental and backward in their thinking. If you're not religious then outweigh the pros and cons. If you're religious however, you could read up on what the bible says about abortion but remember that no sin is above the other so forget the guilt trips from other sinners.


Please A LOT OF PEOPLE have sex before they're married! Most of them are only lucky to not be in OP's shoes, so why the f*** are people acting all righteous undecided

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by hilaryiq(f): 4:01pm On Sep 07, 2016
Berbierklaus:





Now,you made a mistake by telling me I use pills all the time,madam,I am not a righteous lady,and will boldly tell you that I use and insist on condom(it has not failed me till date) and I have the brains to use morning after pill incase something happened to the condom,who wants to be in your shoes,definitely not me. I won't be a party to ABORTION.

Hope you also noticed that I did not advice you,just have it at the back of your mind that ABORTION is not for everyone,I hope for your sake and that of the innocent man who might end up with you,your womb/reproductive organs don't get ruptured.
That is if you survive the abortion sef
Then [b]remember that you have to answer to your God after you kill the life within
you.


I leave you to your conscience,I am not qualified to judge you.[/b]


This is exactly the type of judgemental people I'm talking about. You are ALSO having pre-marital sex but because you haven't gotten pregnant (YET) so you feel it's right to judge others who fell short of that luck.

Also you're saying she has to answer to God if she goes ahead with an abortion? YOU HAVE TO ANSWER TO GOD FOR FORNICATION AND SEX WITH SOMEONE OTHER THAN YOUR LEGAL HUSBAND!!! Please bear in mind that no sin is above the other, read the 10 commandments.


"I am not qualified to judge you", but you just judged her whole life, smh. Hypocrites everywhere cheesy

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Berbierklaus(f): 4:14pm On Sep 07, 2016
Cully408:

Watch your mouth woman, you don't just spill trash to people you don't knw for safety reasons.
Not a threat but a advice from me to you so be polite
Lmao grin

And you think you have the right to spew BS to people coz you are what?
Bring your threat on,I'm your equal match or better still more than you

FF
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Berbierklaus(f): 4:15pm On Sep 07, 2016
danbrowndmf:
thought u left this bashing stuff one time like that.
I did,just don't like ediots jumping under my mentions to spew sh!t,notice he mentioned me first?
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Berbierklaus(f): 4:21pm On Sep 07, 2016
hilaryiq:



This is exactly the type of judgemental people I'm talking about. You are ALSO having pre-marital sex but because you haven't gotten pregnant (YET) so you feel it's right to judge others who fell short of that luck.

Also you're saying she has to answer to God if she goes ahead with an abortion? YOU HAVE TO ANSWER TO GOD FOR FORNICATION AND SEX WITH SOMEONE OTHER THAN YOUR LEGAL HUSBAND!!! Please bear in mind that no sin is above the other, read the 10 commandments.


"I am not qualified to judge you", but you just judged her whole life, smh. Hypocrites everywhere cheesy
You are welcomed,our big mummy,your excellency virgin mary the second grin almighty advicer,you want to menstruate under my comment or what?

I haven't insulted the OP and will not do,like I said who I'm I to judge,any ediot with a lil brain(you probably don't have any as I can see) can see that I was disgusted about ABORTION. Which your FF self must support for you to vomit under my mention.

Now carry your cobweb ridden pvssy far from my mentions,I don't exchange words with alternates,come back with your real moniker or stay silent for ever

Now swerve------------>
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by sambisa5: 4:36pm On Sep 07, 2016
CSTR2:
A girl get pregnants and bears the brunt of the stigma and whatever. That nigga that did the ejaculation is free. Free to spread his seed somewhere.
Common sense would dictate to a sensible lady with atleast a decent number of brain cells that she has FAR MORE to lose and should use a condom if she can't keep her legs closed.
May God not let me give birth to this kind of stupid daughter due to a freak of nature, I would disown her immediately.
that is why i call or refer to girl of such categories as mu'mu.
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by naniawini(f): 5:28pm On Sep 07, 2016
Cully408:
I never knew a mother like you will give such cruel advice, my God i fear nigeria women
really? Since yhu men have decided nt 2 be reasonable, u pipol do tinz wit out considering d person dat is Gettn hurt. Hw can u get a lady pregnant and be planning marriage wit anoda? Smh 4 u guys angry



Bae get rid of it ASAP if he doesn't hv any plans 4 u! Rubbish angry



No one shud quote me again!
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by thedarkside: 5:35pm On Sep 07, 2016
creepsyme:
meaning?

you are sweet.... smiley smiley smiley smiley smiley..forget what i wrote...its for the saints not you... smiley smiley smiley smiley.....
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Cully408(m): 5:46pm On Sep 07, 2016
Berbierklaus:

Lmao grin

And you think you have the right to spew BS to people coz you are what?
Bring your threat on,I'm your equal match or better still more than you

FF
You are just too stubborn, i give up and u win.
Happy now?
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Cully408(m): 5:51pm On Sep 07, 2016
Berbierklaus:

I did,just don't like ediots jumping under my mentions to spew sh!t,notice he mentioned me first?
defending your self is your only best option, did i threw abusive word on u when i mention u miss right and miss i too knw
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by cyrilamx(m): 6:01pm On Sep 07, 2016
octopusfreaky:
waow, this is so touching. Life is sooooo mysterious, there are some situation you cant imagine how u pass through but God is always there to rescue us no mata d gravity of our sin. What a merciful God we serve.
despite his mercy, we shudnt be too complacent cos death doesn't announce its coming. Whatever we do we have to remember our last moment...that why we must cooperate with the grace of God to Shun mortal Sins no matter how alluring it is or the saying : 'everybody is doing it'. Truth is my favourite prayer to God is death shouldn't meet me in State of sin.
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by sexychocolate1(m): 6:27pm On Sep 07, 2016
Tega4B:
Ok.Tx for Reading.

Av been in a relationship with my so called bf for about a year nw. Heaven knws I love him, about a month ago I got pregnant and he insisted dat I kip d pregnancy.

My problem is,after much questioning on y he's finding it so difficult to tell his parents,he opened up to me dat he got bck with his x nd dey are planning on getting married in December shocked .

Am frm a very responsible home,if my mum gets to find out she would insist dat we get married(I dnt want it to look like am forcing him on me).
Am jst few months old in my first job after school,still tryin to settle.If my boss gets to find out its a 50/50 chance of me loosing my job.

Being a baby mama is nt an option for me. Do I keep dis baby n go to his parents or Get rid of it n move on with my life.

Why kill an innocent kid because of some stupid choices you made.
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Berbierklaus(f): 7:16pm On Sep 07, 2016
Cully408:
defending your self is your only best option, did i threw abusive word on u when i mention u miss right and miss i too knw
Cully408:

You are just too stubborn, i give up and u win.
Happy now?

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Berbierklaus(f): 7:19pm On Sep 07, 2016
See this mu_mu OP o,opened another account to diss those advicing her. shocked
Murder is in this girl's blood,apaniyan lasanlasan tongue
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by CSTR2: 7:22pm On Sep 07, 2016
hilaryiq:




It's because of Nigeria's shameful attitude towards women that's why you can say bs like this. You would disown your daughter because she got pregnant before marriage? I hope you have only sons please because you seem like you would make your daughter's life a living hell if she makes a single mistake.

As for the condoms, it is the man's responsibility to buy the condoms and his responsibility to put them on. It was her responsibility to make sure he was protected before they had sex. OP and the guy are very much in this together. No matter what the father of the child will always be OP's boyfriend.


It's so sad that because of Nigeria's non-existent laws about the treatment of their own women, men have the right to do and say all this rubbish. If the same laws in developed countries were in place, the boyfriend wouldn't have a choice than to pay child support all his life, that would have made him think twice


@OP millions of women have been through this several times all over the world. It's entirely commonplace. The only thing is Nigeria doesn't provide support for single mothers, and some illiterates with no education will call it a "shame". If you think keeping the child would be bad for you psychologically or mentally then you can decide not to keep it. Although, I've heard abortion is illegal in Nigeria so please make sure you do it in a clinic with a certified doctor!

If you keep the child please remember to tell your boyfriend's ex immediately, if you don't, there will be a lot of drama when she finds out. And don't listen to hypocrites who go about sinning everyday but are quick to judge others whose sin is "different" from theirs.


Don't let anyone guilt you into keeping a child, they are not in your situation and some are extremely judgemental and backward in their thinking. If you're not religious then outweigh the pros and cons. If you're religious however, you could read up on what the bible says about abortion but remember that no sin is above the other so forget the guilt trips from other sinners.


Please A LOT OF PEOPLE have sex before they're married! Most of them are only lucky to not be in OP's shoes, so why the f*** are people acting all righteous undecided

Why is it that common sense is a very hard thing for a lot of people.
This is Nigeria where women bear the brunt of very bad pre marital decisions, I would expect a sensible woman to apply common sense and adapt. All these other stories you are yapping about is irrelevant. Nigeria is not a sane country and smart women have to look out for themselves instead of spreading their legs indiscriminately and without condoms..
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by hilaryiq(f): 7:42pm On Sep 07, 2016
Berbierklaus:

You are welcomed,our big mummy,your excellency virgin mary the second grin almighty advicer,you want to menstruate under my comment or what?

I haven't insulted the OP and will not do,like I said who I'm I to judge,any ediot with a lil brain(you probably don't have any as I can see) can see that I was disgusted about ABORTION. Which your FF self must support for you to vomit under my mention.

Now carry your cobweb ridden pvssy far from my mentions,I don't exchange words with alternates,come back with your real moniker or stay silent for ever

Now swerve------------>


Yeah, you've resulted to insults because your lack of common sense wouldn't allow you say anything. You don't support abortion, no one is forcing you to but doesn't mean you should put someone else down cause they asked for advice, there are more mature ways to give advice instead of sounding stupid and selfish.


Carry your dirty privates away from here and talk to me when you get sense.
Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Tega4B: 7:43pm On Sep 07, 2016
Berbierklaus:
See this mu_mu OP o,opened another account to diss those advicing her. shocked

Murder is in this girl's blood,apaniyan lasanlasan tongue

U need sense,receive it biko

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