This happened last week in my family and i will try to explain the scenerio to d'best of my knowledge.

Carol(not real name)born a Baby girl to james(not real name), they named the child bola but unfortunately james died when bola was 8months old. James was d d only male child of her mother, he had 3other female siblings.
When james died, carol took care of their child for about two years then one day James'. Dad approached carol for marriage and carol declined. When it was obvious that carol would not yield to their plea they took bola from her mom and refused any form of communication with carol.

Few years after, carol remarried and still maintained communication with her daughter, gives her pockets money when she was in skool, invited her to her new home,etc. Bola is now 25.

Bola took her fiancee to her mum for intro last year n they communicate regularly. Carol asked her daughter when will d'wedding come up but she was told it it is not yet time. Then last week, 3days to d'engagement Bola called her mum to inform her dat her grand parents have decided it dat way.

Carol did not attend and did not cal her daughter to congratulate her. Her reasons are:
1.Bola should have insisted her mum must grace d' ocassion.
2. the notice is too short, she could not start informing her people at dat time.
3.It is not suppose to be her daughter dat will inform her.probably an elderly family member.
4.They probably did not want her, hence the short notice.

Has carol done well?

If u r carol, would u have attended the party?
What will u do afterward? Call ur daughter to congratulate her or not?
Mature minds will be appreciated. Thanks.

hmm.?

Na wa o, d man would ve looked 4 someone else 2 marry na, 2 continue d family name. Why must it b d late son's wife or has he being eyeing her bc it's shameful to me.

1; Bola should ve insisted her mum grace d occasion bc she has d right and ve been a gd mum all dis while.

2. Tho d notice was 2 short but she would ve tried to inform her ppl and explain to dem, dey will surely understand bc dey knew d situation of things and beg dem to accompany her.

3. Ppl dat took ur daughter 4rm u bc u refused dem, how do u expect dem to inform u.

4. Yea, dey probably don't want her...
She would ve gone to put shame on dere faces but since she didn't go she should call and congratulate her let her know dat she is pained. She will feel remorse and make amend. She will forever remain her daughter and is her right....d grand parents re only trying to remove d girls eyes 4rm her mum but she should nt allow dat.

Carol should have told her people even if they did not attend the marriage with her, they know that the girl is getting married in 3 days time.


While Carol should have attended then call her daughter on phone after like 3 weeks to scold her.