Guys don't seem to respect any girl dat ask them out most esp in dis part of our world n we're trying to encourage ladies to do so. How can de do dat, when we'll see them as cheap. If u were woo by a girl, i know most guys won't say no but ll u take the relationship serious or betterstill, ll u respect such a lady or see her as cheap to get? Ladies your ideas r also welcome.

Let 'em come, I can accomodate all

guys are ungrateful, especially naija guys. if it is a white lady that asks them out, they will gladly accept. but because it is a naija girl they wont accept

well it happened to me too
i never took her serious for once,although she dey die for me well well.
i just took advantage of her

There is nothing wrong if a gal ask me out. Though some naija guys wont take it very serious becos they will see the gal as cheap.
this is the main reason why naija gals dont wanna ask any guy out even if they want to. They dont want to be looked down on.

i did an experiment one day.  this guy that i had met at this party and he liked me.  i didn't really like him that much so i decided to do an experiment, to confirm my belives. so  i decided not to play hard to get, i easily reciprocated his feelings. i called him, as he would call me, i even asked him out for a date.  as soon as the guy saw that i was equally interested, he started acting up, like he's the CATCH. now he even wanted me only calling him, he wasn't calling me anymore so he can save his cell phone minutes, and he even made me pay for the date!!! he didn;t bring his wallet !!!!!

so my believes were confirmed, so not only i never make the first move, but i also play hard to get even if i like the guy, i don't make it easy for them,   i make them sweat and spend,

Yes, it's entirely OK for a woman/lady to ask a man/guy out. You'd be surprised at how many men just don't know how to start things up with a girl!(as in toasting!) That's not an excuse by the way - men need to learn this skill. It's just that many of them don't have a clue.

Its ok.

Personally, i don't care if a girl asks me out. I'll treat her the same way i'll treat her if it was the other way round. Only problem is, i won't be 100% sure if she's serious because if she can ask me out, what stops her from asking another guy out?

Dr. Lorenz:

Personally, i don't care if a girl asks me out. I'll treat her the same way i'll treat her if it was the other way round. Only problem is, i won't be 100% sure if she's serious because if she can ask me out, what stops her from asking another guy out?

dr how far with ebonyeyes?

Dr. Lorenz:

Personally, i don't care if a girl asks me out. I'll treat her the same way i'll treat her if it was the other way round. Only problem is, i won't be 100% sure if she's serious because if she can ask me out, what stops her from asking another guy out?

Do u think we will all hv a steady relationship if ladies think d way u think as in d bolded?

Anabel:

guys are ungrateful, especially naija guys. if it is a white lady that asks them out, they will gladly accept. but because it is a naija girl they wont accept

lol, u dey pity naija girls?

Basically, I see nothing wrong in it. The first relationship I have ever had was with a lady who asked me out, and the relationship was very stable and almost got to the altar, if not for her mother's opposition to our marriage in the nick of time. I have never loved or respected any lady as much as I respected  that lady ever after. I have a couple or so associates who are today happily married to ladies who actually approached them first. I think the attitude towards ladies who approach men first varies among men; some will see such ladies as cheap while others will be stunned or impressed by the boldness of such lady and give them respect. In the case of the lady who approached me first, I discovered within a short time that she was not cheap at all and that she took the action because she was only bold and very frank with herself about what she really wanted.

okay now, ask me out to know if i will not accept.

It only take maturity to to behave responsiblily.

Simply say yes or no. Respect is a serious matter, not for this childish thoughts

r231:

Yes, it's entirely OK for a woman/lady to ask a man/guy out. You'd be surprised at how many men just don't know how to start things up with a girl!(as in toasting!) That's not an excuse by the way - men need to learn this skill. It's just that many of them don't have a clue.

Why should they have to learn those skills? If you are as handsome as moi,u definitely don't need to .

it depends some guys like it while some don't

chic2pimp:

Why should they have to learn those skills? If you are as handsome as moi,u definitely don't need to .

hahaha you will be surprised dats looks doesn't really do nothing dis days you still have to say something lol

guys are ungrateful, especially naija guys. if it is a white lady that asks them out, they will gladly accept. but because it is a naija girl they wont accept

Depends on the maturity of the individual(Guy) and that's the key element.

Anabel:

guys are ungrateful, especially naija guys. if it is a white lady that asks them out, they will gladly accept. but because it is a naija girl they wont accept

Just ask me out.

Even i am facing such a thing presently in my place of work now to the extent that this girl doesn't allow me to concentrate in the office whenever am around she is always disturbing me. the funniest part is that i like her but the love is not there.

times are changing really, even though as men we do love the challenge of actually chasing women, and all the drama,unfortunately these days, no one seems to have the tyme and energy,ladies have evolved to b more daring hence they can actually ask us out,we really need it.if a girl asks me out,and she's too fine oh and she's blowing my mind oh, ill say yes. [flash=300,107]http://www.del-premium.com/advert2.swf[/flash]
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debest1:

dr how far with ebonyeyes?

Brotherly i don't jus undastand enymore o. Some of her posts dey make me fear. I don't know what my position is . Perhaps, you'll help me talk to am.

nethacker:

Do u think we will all hv a steady relationship if ladies think d way u think as in d bolded?

On what perspective do you ask your question?

Dynamiq:

Basically, I see nothing wrong in it. The first relationship I have ever had was with a lady who asked me out, and the relationship was very stable and almost got to the altar, if not for her mother's opposition to our marriage in the nick of time. I have never loved or respected any lady as much as I respected  that lady ever after. I have a couple or so associates who are today happily married to ladies who actually approached them first. I think the attitude towards ladies who approach men first varies among men; some will see such ladies as cheap while others will be stunned or impressed by the boldness of such lady and give them respect. In the case of the lady who approached me first, I discovered within a short time that she was not cheap at all and that she took the action because she was only bold and very frank with herself about what she really wanted.

May you always be Dynamiq.

Dr. Lorenz:

Brotherly i don't jus undastand enymore o. Some of her posts dey make me fear. I don't know what my position is . Perhaps, you'll help me talk to am.

You are making me out to be some Devil creature from outer space

Dr. Lorenz:

Personally, i don't care if a girl asks me out. I'll treat her the same way i'll treat her if it was the other way round. Only problem is, i won't be 100% sure if she's serious because if she can ask me out, what stops her from asking another guy out?

what kind of kindergarten logic is this?

A nigeria girl will never ask you out. belive it or you dont

bawomolo:

what kind of kindergarten logic is this?

Where do you come from mr. man? Kindergaten logic? Please don't make me laugh. I'll tell you on good authority that some (with the emphasis on some) girls can't allow a guy they feel is cool or handsome if you want it that way to pass them by. They don't mind telling the guy how she feels. When another one comes along, she says the same thing, hence my logic.

Ebonyeyes:

You are making me out to be some Devil creature from outer space

Nah. You know me now. I can't say such. Not when you've said you're an angel.

VGA:

A nigeria girl will never ask you out. belive it or you dont

quite true, however i'll advice naija guys start using them to do "shakara" by then they'll start toasting us. I tried it myself and it worked

bawomolo:

what kind of kindergarten logic is this?

I think you are being generous and doing a disservice to the intelligence of kindergarten kids.

VGA:

A nigeria girl will never ask you out. belive it or you dont

Na Owu cause am oo. Their EGO big pass signboard.

Hello ma frnd, there is absolutely notin wrong with that. By the way i've asked many out and they do same thing we think guys do when they ask a guy out. Umm, mm presently am fighting a war of findin a true love. Cos the type of ladies that cums ma way ain't ready to settle dwn, they re jst fletters. Honestly, Honestly if i shd hv a decent gal to ask me out, Hmm!!! i swear she's gonna be RESPECTED, ADORED AND CHERISHED cos it takes alot of courage to do such and i knt let her dwn. Though 08037807355 is ma numba jst incase. Thanks.

If a lady ask me out I would accept, it should be encouraged not discouraged .