House, plz i need your advice. There's dis guy my aunt hooked me up wit  a month ago, he's at the east, I am in Lagos. He called me, we got talking, calls me often & sent me his picture through email. We like each other.

Yesterday, he called me to say that he cant send me t-fare to come & see him that he just paid for a flat 3 years N432,000 cos of me so he's not buoyant (used to live in one room). That I should please pay my transport fare.

House, I am going to see him in person for the first time. Is it right for me to pay my transport fare?

yes na pay ur fare and go see him~
and also i hope uve made adequate provision 2 get laid cos dat guy is not gonna take it easy wit u indoors ie the bedmatics~

He jst paid 4 a flat cos of u?do u want to start living with him or wot.btw.de guy sounds selfish and stingy to me.bt u can use ur money sha.wen u get dere,take time and study de kinda person he is b4 u jump into any relationship wt him.

You see na, What if am not workn. Wont going wit my money make me look desperate which am nt.

then dont go, abi na by force?

190:

yes na pay your fare and go see him~
and also i hope[b] uve made adequate provision 2 get laid cos dat guy is not gonna take it easy wit u indoors ie the bedmatics[/b]~

true talk,the bobo has been dreaming of her kitten all this while

whitesturd:

He jst paid 4 a flat cos of u?do u want to start living with him or wot.btw.de guy sounds selfish and stingy to me.bt u can use your money sha.wen u get dere[b],take time and study de kinda person he is b4 u jump into any relationship wt him.[/b]

once she gets there,she go submit.no long tory

why is he not coming to see you first, you are going to stay with a man that you have never met, pls o your auntie will not be there with you.

come on now even if d guy didn't just pay for a flat if he didn't offer the transport money will you ask him for it? well in dis situation try to be considerate he just paid for a flat and u've agreed to come and see him so on your bike. let us knw how it went dwn wen u get bck

poster,
the whole arrangemnt smacks of desperation, and the guy is taking full advantage of that fact. You being introduced by your aunt, agreeing to visit a guy who hasnt deemed it fit to at least come down to see what u really look like, at the end of the day, if u make that trip he will keep taking advantage of you/emotionally blackmail you til u get married (if he ever takes things that far)
My advice, wriggle out of the trip and let him show some committment by coming down to Lagos, even offer to pay 4 his fare if he's skint

debest1:

poster,
the whole arrangemnt smacks of desperation, and the guy is taking full advantage of that fact. You being introduced by your aunt, agreeing to visit a guy who hasnt deemed it fit to at least come down to see what u really look like, at the end of the day, if u make that trip he will keep taking advantage of you/emotionally blackmail you til u get married (if he ever takes things that far)
My advice, wriggle out of the trip and let him show some committment by coming down to Lagos, even offer to pay 4 his fare if he's skint

just look @ dat!

Truth is, he buys stuff 4rm my aunt and asked her if she had a sister. I think i should tell him 2 come instead. Afterall, am the lady, he's the guy.

ah i c, so u agree with my earlier post that the guy is playing Big Boy, and he is not showing any level of seriousness here, if this is ok with u then play along, but if u want any modicum of self respect let him prove that he respects u and come down,
What wud probably happen is u get there, he sleeps wiv u then turns round and say u r nt what he expected,

ceysaga,shows u still ve sum self esteem as a lady.wonder wt u were thinking before.nice decision.dnt make him feel ure desperate.we ladies still need to hold our heads high no matter what.

lady b
u have been warned~

ceysaga:

House, plz i need your advice. There's dis guy my aunt hookd me up wit a month ago, he's @ east, am in lag. He calld me, we got talking, calls me often & sent me hs pix tru email. We like each other. yday, he calld me 2 say dt he cnt send me t-fare 2 cm & see hm dt he just paid 4 a flat 3yrs N432,000 cos of me so he's nt bouyant (used to live in one room). That I shld plz pay my tfare. House, am going 2 see hm in person 4 d first time. Is it rite 4me 2 pay my tfare?

Let him come to Lagos.

@Poster don't go anywhere let him come and see you or are you the one that asked him to pay for the house? Forget those stories and tell him to come or forget it except you are the desperate one.

Forget him. There's a certain way to treat a lady. This is just the beginning of his excuses.

He should come to you !!

Listen to the wurooo wuroo story: He has paid rent for a bigger house because of a girl he hasnt met and he wont go visit?
I mean. Girl if youre important enough for him to get a new house, then you should be important enough to him for him to come visit.
Sit down in Lagos and let him come visit you.

Make sure you padlock your kitty and throw away the key

^^ Theres always a master key!!

Shola2009:

^^ Theres always a master key!!

;DWhat is it?

Did i lie? be doing like a village headmaster there or do u want me to show you the master key?

Is it the magic stick?

Nahh! magic stick aint got nothing on "The Master Key".
Ebonyeyes stop derailing this thread! yes?

Spit it out already

You guys looll

wen are you suppose to go anywayz ?

after all the advice i bet u guys my wages dat the girl will still pay her way up and get wat she deserves a gd **** and a broken heart

Kenny_G:

after all the advice i bet u guys my wages dat the girl will still pay her way up and get wat she deserves a gd **** and a broken heart

Dude, i was just thinking the same thing

Rosabelle:

Dude, i was just thinking the same thing

Kenny_G:

after all the advice i bet u guys my wages dat the girl will still pay her way up and get wat she deserves a gd **** and a broken heart

You aint lying about that