I don't need people to be judgmental because that is typical of Nigerians. It's just a puzzle I'm trying to figure out.

A guy is in a no sex relationship with a girl he loves and has genuine intentions for. Maybe because of his faith or the stand of the girl, he agrees to a no sex relationship. Meanwhile, everything a boyfriend is supposed to do for his boo, he does. He buys her gifts, gives her money, gives her his attention, love and care.

Now, here comes my question,

What if along the line, the girl dumps him for another guy after he has invested so much on her(his love, money and time)

What has he gained in such a relationship?

companionship. nothing is guaranteed so spend money or don't if a woman is going to dump you she will vice versa

DONT BE ONE SIDED BOO

INTROVERT:
DONT BE ONE SIDED BOO

How do you mean one-sided?

Conjugal rights is for married folks.

EOD

Well, at least he has learnt dat e wouldn't b stup!d in his nxt relationship

jmoore:
Conjugal rights is for married folks.

EOD

Yeah, I know.

Does it mean a guy who does not want to indulge in premarital sex should wait until when he is ready for marriage before he goes into a relationship?

elnino2015:


Yeah, I know.

Does it mean a guy who does not want to indulge in premarital sex should wait until when he is ready for marriage before he goes into a relationship?

You can date without sex. Dating is not mating.

salvation....

Exactly. Our parents practiced that and the parents before them. Our generation has spoilt. Buh some people still practice it. They may be seen as old fashioned but then that is the right thing. Another factor that played a major role for them back den was early marriage. These days , it is almost impossible coz most men wait til dey ar 40 before they get married. Imagine how difficult it wud be to abstain.

elnino2015:


Yeah, I know.

Does it mean a guy who does not want to indulge in premarital sex should wait until when he is ready for marriage before he goes into a relationship?

And to you sex is an achievement?

experience

CeeJay9ja:
And to you sex is an achievement?

That's not my point.

I have also noticed that girls are more attached to a relationship when sex is involved than when there is no sex. In most, no sex relationships it is the guy that suffers. Because the girl feels she has nothing to lose should the relationship break up.

elnino2015:


That's not my point.

I have also noticed that girls are more attached to a relationship when sex is involved than when there is no sex. In most, no sex relationships it is the guy that suffers. Because the girl feels she has nothing to lose should the relationship break up.

Sex is a bond but not to the one who doesn't love you. There are scenarios you sleep with a girl dozen times and when she leaves you, you still feel like commiting suicide.

elnino2015:
I don't need people to be judgmental because that is typical of Nigerians. It's just a puzzle I'm trying to figure out.

A guy is in a no sex relationship with a girl he loves and has genuine intentions for. Maybe because of his faith or the stand of the girl, he agrees to a no sex relationship. Meanwhile, everything a boyfriend is supposed to do for his boo, he does. He buys her gifts, gives her money, gives her his attention, love and care.

Now, here comes my question,

What if along the line, the girl dumps him for another guy after he has invested so much on her(his love, money and time)

What has he gained in such a relationship?

Love, companionship, friendship.Relationship isn't about sex as most guys see it but the above ones highlighted.
Guys should have it at the back of thier mind that their lovers would make mistake and so they should be ready to deal with it . Having sex in relationship doesn't guarantee that such relationship would last neither does it entails trade by barter as most guys see it. Although it's painful if you soulmate cheats but it doesn't worth changing attitude towards them because of frequent heart break. Just take it as part of life that will fade away soon.

Why should it be about what a guy is hoping to get? It's matter of individuality. Not all men are bad and not all women are saints.Waiting for marriage does not make you a better person than say the guy who does not. What should be judged is your respect ,continued physical attraction, support, love and compatibility.

The Guy gains Majesty and Worship.

Raina80:
Why should it be about what a guy is hoping to get? It's matter of individuality. Not all men are bad and not all women are saints.Waiting for marriage does not make you a better person than say the guy who does not. What should be judged is your respect ,continued physical attraction, support, love and compatibility.

you girls eh, forget all these talk , if una like guy man express road no go open reach una, all these drama are for guys you don't trust or like

judeefcc:
you girls eh, forget all these talk , if una like guy man express road no go open reach una, all these drama are for guys you don't trust or like

Sure

Raina80:

Sure

i respect that , you are honest , more meat to ur yansh amen

judeefcc:
i respect that , you are honest , more meat to ur yansh amen

your gain and rewards shall be waiting for you in heaven

engrMikemd:
your gain and rewards shall be waiting for you in heaven

if I slap you eh

No blow ur babe, kip spending money n b doing best companion, yl one bad sharp guy be bending her over, giving her d touch your toe style.........

I noticed girls are more loyal to guys who fucckk them

Nothing.

AktorLee:
Nothing.

Very true bro

This days I just can't deal mehn, most non-virgin girls on dat BS be damaged goods anyway.

The last one had a bf but be crushing on me hard. But she can't bring herself to date me you see; girl says she wants a "defined relationship", I be like let's just enjoy the moment, see where it leads. . but nah she's not buying it. She would finally come around but wud want me (Me.!) to commit to a no-sex relationship, told her to fūck off in no uncertain terms.

I'm the price, bītch.

My ideal type of relationship Op.
I seriously don't think sex is necessary in any relationship but it's important especially for the guy to feel balance or fair share in dhe relationship.
It absurd to to think dat way.

jmoore:
Conjugal rights is for married folks.

EOD

Any right is for married couple. Just like a woman won't allow a man have sex pre-marriage, a man should also not fend for a lady pre-marriage. It shouldn't be one sided.

COMMON SENSE