dangervu:
Good day Nairalanders,please i sincerely need your candid opinion and Advice,i feel so hurt badly,i am 34 financially stable dating a girl of 25y,we have been dating for 5 years, the marriage delay was due to my family kicking against me getting married to her,i fought for my love,i fought for her for my family to accept her,things started going nice this year with my family been in consent to me getting married to her,we have been trying to conceive because that was my families condition for me to settle down with her,we have run series of test,i tested ok,got result that she as hormonal in balance, i have spent so much on her running series of test,trying to conceive,i just founds out my girl as been cheating on with a guy the last two years,i have invested so much in business for her in which on several occasions she mismanaged....she was yearning for introduction this year,which i was actually planning to do by January next year! now i feel destroyed,i dont know what to do...i want to quit she is been begging me all along,i am ashame of everything,i dont know what to tell my parents,my friends who as always seen us as great couples,i only told her sister who as been begging on her behalf...i feel so hurt and heart broken...please dont mind my English...i am crying typing this..i travel out of the county last week,i had to bug her whats app,she updated the guy immediately i left....they where suppose to see the Sunday i travelled...i need your candid advice on what to do....

martyns303:
Meyn!!! Just felt chills down my spine.... I have been in ur shoes so I know exactly how it feels. I want to share some points

# "the only good girl is the one who haven't been caught". I bet never in a 1000 years would you have believed she could do such a thing, I mean after 5yrs.

# I believe you guys stay far from each other which created enough room for her to cheat for 2yrs without you noticing. Distance is always a problem.

# Generation gap (age difference), you are 9yrs older than her, she started cheating when she was 23yrs old, she was young and was looking to have fun. You will be shocked to find out that the guy she's cheating with is a 25-27yrs old skinny undergraduate, who is way below your level. you would even ask yourself what she saw in the guy.

# women always have multiple suitors, so don't think u were the only one. She loves you, but love the other guy too. I have a first hand experience of a girl coming to sleep with her BF on a Friday while the following day Saturday is her wedding. If only the groom knows.

# I know you would be asking yourself, at 34 where do u start building a new relationship. You built a good relationship for 5yrs, u know her, ur comfortable around her, you understand each other. And now its all gone.

# The other guy knows she have a serious date, so they were just f*cking, and she's playing you for a Sapp.

# if you forgive her, you will never forget, it will hunt you for as long as you two are together and the relationship will eventually die.

# My advice is for you to move on, "no trust" is too much baggage to carry around, forget her crying, yes I know you feel weak seing her cry, but be strong. She's only sorry she got caught. 1yr from now u'll be happier and probably married.

# don't forget to tell us how it goes

ItsQuinn:
Forgive her! Cheating is not a big deal

dangotesmummy:
The poster above me has said it all.I could agree with her more.
Afterall men advise that cheating husbands is not a reason for a woman to leave so Op get on your knees to pray and fast
N.b I know some fucktards will quote me for stopeedity but I'm waiting

ItsQuinn:
Forgive her! Cheating is not a big deal

martyns303:
Meyn!!! Just felt chills down my spine.... I have been in ur shoes so I know exactly how it feels. I want to share some points

# "the only good girl is the one who haven't been caught". I bet never in a 1000 years would you have believed she could do such a thing, I mean after 5yrs.

# I believe you guys stay far from each other which created enough room for her to cheat for 2yrs without you noticing. Distance is always a problem.

# Generation gap (age difference), you are 9yrs older than her, she started cheating when she was 23yrs old, she was young and was looking to have fun. You will be shocked to find out that the guy she's cheating with is a 25-27yrs old skinny undergraduate, who is way below your level. you would even ask yourself what she saw in the guy.

# women always have multiple suitors, so don't think u were the only one. She loves you, but love the other guy too. I have a first hand experience of a girl coming to sleep with her BF on a Friday while the following day Saturday is her wedding. If only the groom knows.

# I know you would be asking yourself, at 34 where do u start building a new relationship. You built a good relationship for 5yrs, u know her, ur comfortable around her, you understand each other. And now its all gone.

# The other guy knows she have a serious date, so they were just f*cking, and she's playing you for a Sapp.

# if you forgive her, you will never forget, it will hunt you for as long as you two are together and the relationship will eventually die.

# My advice is for you to move on, "no trust" is too much baggage to carry around, forget her crying, yes I know you feel weak seing her cry, but be strong. She's only sorry she got caught. 1yr from now u'll be happier and probably married.

# don't forget to tell us how it goes

Berbierklaus:
Op what are you sad for

This is something you should go for thanksgiving with a big cow for
You realized the woman you are about to marry is a cheater,mismanage funds etc and you are sad please cheer up,Forget love,because in marriage love is not enough.

I was even thinking its something you can forgive her for until I saw this ------->


That woman is not ready to change and once the ring is on her finger,she can even kill you

@34 you are still quite young,please forget her and move on with your life,don't make a life time mistake,tell her to stop begging you and cut off communications

@dangotesmummy they are coming for you

truthsayer007:


Thanks for being sarcastic

ItsQuinn:
Actually I'm not being sarcastic, I'm being very serious

truthsayer007:

Hmmm, you have probably not invested emotionally into any relationship, so you won't understand the weight of cheating, Especially when its a woman cheating. Women don't cheat for cheating sake, it has to be she obviously don't luv you. After spending so much, you will feel like committing suicide.

ItsQuinn:
Actually I have and I am presently....and i have been cheated on severally, but i don't give a fvck

truthsayer007:


If you did't give a fvck, then you probably not putting anything into the relationship. Trust me, I've been there !

Mindfulness:
You can count yourself lucky you discovered that she is the dishonest, fraudulent, cheating, unappreciative, disloyal, treacherous kind of person before you got married to her. I know it hurts now but it is a blessing in disguise.

Your family will be happy to hear you broke up. They probably accepted her only because you insisted, which I very much respect you for. So let them have their 'I told ya so' moment and shake it off. They have all made mistakes too, plenty, - we all have even if nobody likes to admit it.

There are millions of good, honest, loving, beautiful, intelligent, caring, trustworthy, faithful, warm-hearted, interesting, exciting women out there. The next one will be better, much better. Trust it!

Mutaino7:
Normally you rarely see me quoting any of your post..infact i don't think i have ever done something like that. but today God wey say ah go open dez thread go bless you for this wise counsel you've given to a bro in need.