TheSeeker:

Why can't he consider the fact that she may have actually been scared to lose him if she had told him firsthand?

zuuby:

In this clime, a woman with a child is usually looked at ( not by everybody ) like a second hand or tokunbo.
So the guy may just be thinking how his family and relatives would accept an '' after one '' .

CrazyMan:

I feel she has more skeletons in her cupboard; also, she’s might probably still be seeing the father of the child hence her muteness about the child towards your friend.

Doesn't she know that keeping such things secrete most especially when she claims to love the guy shows clearly that she has no iota of love for him.

Finally, why did she have to wait until the guy she claims to love found about her dirty little secrete from another source?

I believe that she has a hidden agenda; I would suggest that you tell your friend in question to seek love elsewhere and forget about this fellow.

TheSeeker:

Wow!

~Sissy~:

the relationship already lacks trust. i wonder how long she was planning on keeping this a secret? i mean, this sort of things you dont keep them secrets. she should have told him upfront, if the guy sees in her than her past life he would have stayed. its not as if being a single mother means the end of relationships or love life.

being the guy here, it would definitely be a hard pill to swallow. even if he accepts her back, what other secrets is she hiding? how is he sure there isnt  more in the pot? how can they regain the lost trust in the relationship? trust is crucial in relationships and if the guy checks and see that its something he cant rebuild then the relationship serves no useful need again. however, if the trust can rebuilt then he should stay and walk things out

izeek:

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He needs to ask himself this: Will she stay if it was the other way round? A honest answer to this internal question will solve his riddle!


i think he should also ask himself if he would have held back such info if it was him .
this is not something u hide abeg.

if she chose not to tell him and now the bubble burst, then he shud do what he feels like. no one will raise an eyebrow,
or even blame him . i just think he should consider other things too, like if he loved her, and also if aside from this child issue her atitude has been good so far.

spikedcylinder:

Its not something one hides, yes but if he hid it from her because he was scared of losing her, will she forgive him and move on?

izeek:


thats the mistake we all make, hiding things cos we feel we might loose the peron.

i believe you lay it all in theopen from the onset, and if he feels its too muh for him to hndle then let him move along.

Thank you ooo.
I always say, give them the full blast. . .if they stick around, then they are worth all the effort.

Na why, people relationships crumble. . friendship/relationships. Keep tip-toeing around each other