Farmerforlife:
His opinion sha. I have no intention of marrying two wives. One is more than enough. What am I getting from a second one? Yellow, green, blue, red... woman is woman.

Empiree:
^^^

It is always like "I dont have intention" in the beginning but down the lane, things start to look different and you end up marrying 4. Abeg, too many women out there and them no get husband. Marry'em. Ko si oun to fi n se'yan.

Olohun ni ka ma bi si ka si ma re si. One woman may be reluctant to bear more than 2 children and if you want more, OBVIOUSLY, that's a cross road. Therefore, you are left with no choice but to marry second especially if you are okay economically.

Abeg, bring me second wife. Look at Europe, it's becoming islamic cus muslim immigrants dont give a fig leaf about so called "family planning". Them just having islamic babies

Help Yourself


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=efpbZXQUfA4

lexiconkabir:


Really, its the lifestyle that I'm used to(i.e monogamous home), my great grand father up to my Dad all had 1 wife, and this is what I grew up getting used to...

You need a second wife?



Hmm.....the video is quite eenlightening, really the Christians are disturbed about the fertility rate of Muslims, that was how i watched one, who used Turkey as a case study how Islam uptooted Christianity from Turkey in its totally, a place where Christianity thrived for centuries, a place where paul came from.

lexiconkabir:


Really, its the lifestyle that I'm used to(i.e monogamous home), my great grand father up to my Dad all had 1 wife, and this is what I grew up getting used to...

You need a second wife?

Hmm.....the video is quite eenlightening, really the Christians are disturbed about the fertility rate of Muslims, that was how i watched one, who used Turkey as a case study how Islam uptooted Christianity from Turkey in its totally, a place where Christianity thrived for centuries, a place where paul came from.

Farmerforlife:



The thing is, fertility rate does not depend on the number of wives one marries. It depends on the number of married women of child bearing age, regardless of whether their husbands have only one or four. Since Muslim women are like the proverbial 'hot cake' and very rarely stay unmarried for long, marrying 2 or 3 or 4 will only make it harder for other Muslim men to get married, but will not increase birth rates. Whether the ummah is increased by my children, or my Muslim brother's children is not important.

@Empi.ree, I really have no intention, and barring some really extraordinary circumstance, like my having to live away from my wife, or some such unlikely situation, I will continue having no intention, insha Allah. Marriage is never a bed of roses.

Empiree:
Bolded, really?. We got bunch of women out there and they dont have to be muslim faah. Some are willing to revert while some would keep their religion but may abide by your wishes as husband. Indeed it is not obligatory but condition may eventually push you towards polygamy. Besides, you may eventually and indirectly end up taking care of women you are not married to. That's true talk. I did this and I am still pissed off The thing pained me so much

Empiree:

Well, your choice at the moment. But we shall be waiting right here for your invitation for 2nd Nikkah

Farmerforlife:


I could never marry a non-Muslimah, even if she reverted for that reason. I can only marry a very knowledgeable, convinced Muslimah. I read a thread recently about a Muslim man who complained to the court that his Christian wife had taken their kids to church without his knowledge. When I die, I want my kids to pray for Allah to bestow His Mercy on me, not to be committing shirk and increasing my punishment inside the grave. Look at all these Muslim politicians that have married non-Muslim wives. How many of them are practising Muslims? Or their kids? Please dont even consider such. Remember that you are not only marrying a wife, you are marrying a future mother and role model.

There is nothing wrong with taking care of a woman that one is not married to. The trick is to keep it formal and restrict contact. Now that I am married, my wife is the go-between. Safer that way.

Empiree:
Time to turn the tide. Mine was EXACT opposite and I am used to it My high school classmate married 2 wives at 25 despite his low income and they are so happy. I can tell from their faces everyday.



They get scared by citing Turkey as typical example all the time. I mean Nigerian christians especially those in christian section. They warned against that but unfortunately, this is irreversible.

Farmerforlife:


I could never marry a non-Muslimah, even if she reverted for that reason. I can only marry a very knowledgeable, convinced Muslimah. I read a thread recently about a Muslim man who complained to the court that his Christian wife had taken their kids to church without his knowledge. When I die, I want my kids to pray for Allah to bestow His Mercy on me, not to be committing shirk and increasing my punishment inside the grave. Look at all these Muslim politicians that have married non-Muslim wives. How many of them are practising Muslims? Or their kids? Please dont even consider such. Remember that you are not only marrying a wife, you are marrying a future mother and role model.

There is nothing wrong with taking care of a woman that one is not married to. The trick is to keep it formal and restrict contact. Now that I am married, my wife is the go-between. Safer that way.




Dont hold your breath sir.

Farmerforlife:


I could never marry a non-Muslimah, even if she reverted for that reason. I can only marry a very knowledgeable, convinced Muslimah. I read a thread recently about a Muslim man who complained to the court that his Christian wife had taken their kids to church without his knowledge. When I die, I want my kids to pray for Allah to bestow His Mercy on me, not to be committing shirk and increasing my punishment inside the grave. Look at all these Muslim politicians that have married non-Muslim wives. How many of them are practising Muslims? Or their kids? Please dont even consider such. Remember that you are not only marrying a wife, you are marrying a future mother and role model.

There is nothing wrong with taking care of a woman that one is not married to. The trick is to keep it formal and restrict contact. Now that I am married, my wife is the go-between. Safer that way.




Dont hold your breath sir.

RABIUSHILE04:


I just dey feel 'EMPIREE' these days o LOL. May Allaah make you, I and all of us better on the right path, ameen.

RABIUSHILE04:



Maa shaaa Allaah, though it is allowed to marry a female from the people of the book, but I'll dare not marry a non-practising muslim, secular muslim woman talk less of a non-muslimah as a precaution. Also, rasulullaah says 4 characters are to be looked for in marrying a woman, that pataki inside is the religion. We see most muslim sisters see "bad bois" saying I'll change him, I'll change, maybe he'll change later..what if he changes you to his type..waiyadhubillah and dey abandon the serious minded akhees, just bcuz he dey obey Allaah(thus BORING). This is a serious concern esp in women, maybe na by DEFAULT sha..'Contact' can enlighten us.

With the way this generation is goin, I for one, can't even give out my blessed 28 and more unborn pretty, albarkaful, GIRLS in shaaa Allaah to an ordinary muslim, talkless of a kuffar. Allaahu musta'an.

RABIUSHILE04:


Maa shaaa Allaah, though it is allowed to marry a female from the people of the book, but I'll dare not marry a non-practising muslim, secular muslim woman talk less of a non-muslimah as a precaution. Also, rasulullaah says 4 characters are to be looked for in marrying a woman, that pataki inside is the religion. We see most muslim sisters see "bad bois" saying I'll change him, I'll change, maybe he'll change later..what if he changes you to his type..waiyadhubillah and dey abandon the serious minded akhees, just bcuz he dey obey Allaah(thus BORING). This is a serious concern esp in women, maybe na by DEFAULT sha..'Contact' can enlighten us.

With the way this generation is goin, I for one, can't even give out my blessed 28 and more unborn pretty, albarkaful, GIRLS in shaaa Allaah to an ordinary muslim, talkless of a kuffar. Allaahu musta'an.

RABIUSHILE04:

KB, mk u be 4 star general o!

lexiconkabir:


But another thing is, our sisters too can be jealous o I remember one(with apparent eeman) asking if its possible for her husband to reject houris in jannah, it should just be her and her husband in jannah, i was like, are you for real?! What gives you the assurance that you will be in jannah sef?

Empiree:

lexiconkabir:


Lol, when i saw this, i imagined myself with four women and i was just laughing hard, i don't see myself with four women sha.

If at all it happens, then my parents can certainly say I'm a rebel, because every single established thing in our family, i am always seen rebelling it

RABIUSHILE04:



This kind of 'rebelling' is HALAALy my akhee'l kareem.(O;O). I gat ur back!

lexiconkabir:


Lol, Last time i heard those words, the person that said them to me fled when the real action started

Contact17:


What happened??

lexiconkabir:


We were playing ball o, then the ball hit one senior(he was in ss3 and we were in ss1), the senior now seized the ball, we went to him trying to demand for the ball but he refused, being the person that i am, was already getting annoyed, then i tried to forcibly collect the ball which i did, the senior then said at the count of 5 i should retirn the ball, my padi said, don't return it, whatever happens, "I gat your back", i listened, the senior counted 5 and i didnt return it, the senior left angrily only to ambush us on our way home with his Friend, then the fight started, only to see that my Friend had fled, so it was now 2 to 1, tried fighting but could not cope with both of them, then i focused on one(the actual senior) not minding the blows from the other, i held his head under my armpit and gave blows, i didnt mind the blow i was getting from his friend, luckily for me some teachers passed and we were separated then flogged on the assembly the next morning of which we were also suspended for 1week.

But from that day, this particular senior always ran from me.

Although the teachers were unjust, i was the one being oppressed, my parents were not annoyed at all when i explained what happened.

AideeSheks:

You were one brave little boy

MrOlai:
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Demmzy15:
Make I contribute.

My family is monogamous, my grandfather was forced to marry a woman because of when her husband died no one took care of her. My dad is also monogamous, so I'll like to continue the cycle.

I've always thought that I'll marry any woman, whether her being a non-practising, Christian, Muslim or Jew, I didn't care before but with the little exposure I have now, she must be practicing. I can't marry a non-Muslim, in school here I've seen the bad effects. I have many friends with full Muslim names(Idris Kadri, Uthman, Ibrahim Aliyy, etc) who's father are Muslims but mom Christians so they decided to follow their moms. In fact one of them said, in Islam, if you translate the Qur'an into another language apart from Arabic, you'll be executed!

Some Muslim men give the condition that they'll watch over the their children and guide them "islamically", but what of if death takes over? I know someone who's dad(a Muslim) died and she follows her mom now.

Now concerning marriage to a Muslim lady, I'll consider beauty first before religious commitment. The reason is that, one of the main reasons for marriage is for couples to be satisfied and lower their gazes(you all ought to understand what I mean):

Imam al-Bahooti said in Sharh Muntaha al-Iraadaat (2/621):

He should not ask about her religious commitment until he has been told good things about her beauty. Ahmad said: If a man wants to propose marriage to a woman, he should ask about her beauty first, and if good things are said, he should ask about her religious commitment, and if good things are said, he should marry her. If he does not hear good things about her religious commitment, then he will have rejected her because of her religious commitment. He should not ask about her religious commitment first, then if good things are said, the he asks about her beauty, then if he does not hear anything good, he rejects her because of beauty and not because of religious commitment.

All in all, may Allaah provide us the best and rectify our affairs!

Demmzy15:
Make I contribute.

My family is monogamous, my grandfather was forced to marry a woman because of when her husband died no one took care of her. My dad is also monogamous, so I'll like to continue the cycle.

I've always thought that I'll marry any woman, whether her being a non-practising, Christian, Muslim or Jew, I didn't care before but with the little exposure I have now, she must be practicing. I can't marry a non-Muslim, in school here I've seen the bad effects. I have many friends with full Muslim names(Idris Kadri, Uthman, Ibrahim Aliyy, etc) who's father are Muslims but mom Christians so they decided to follow their moms. In fact one of them said, in Islam, if you translate the Qur'an into another language apart from Arabic, you'll be executed!

Some Muslim men give the condition that they'll watch over the their children and guide them "islamically", but what of if death takes over? I know someone who's dad(a Muslim) died and she follows her mom now.

Now concerning marriage to a Muslim lady, I'll consider beauty first before religious commitment. The reason is that, one of the main reasons for marriage is for couples to be satisfied and lower their gazes(you all ought to understand what I mean):

Imam al-Bahooti said in Sharh Muntaha al-Iraadaat (2/621):

He should not ask about her religious commitment until he has been told good things about her beauty. Ahmad said: If a man wants to propose marriage to a woman, he should ask about her beauty first, and if good things are said, he should ask about her religious commitment, and if good things are said, he should marry her. If he does not hear good things about her religious commitment, then he will have rejected her because of her religious commitment. He should not ask about her religious commitment first, then if good things are said, the he asks about her beauty, then if he does not hear anything good, he rejects her because of beauty and not because of religious commitment.

All in all, may Allaah provide us the best and rectify our affairs!

lexiconkabir:


So the long and short of this superstory be say you are looking for Cinderella in Abaya abi? Or niqob sef.

**nods in affirmation**