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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by missjo: 10:10pm On Nov 22, 2016
DarkRebel101:


I'm a mechanical bull armed with the mental toughness of an assassin trained by the League Of Shadows.

I consider one of my sterling qualities to be doggedness...and willpower.

So babe, gird up ‘cause you're in for a long and bumpy ride of awesomeness. cheesy



Do I have to buy you a candy? A tiara? Take you out for a nice dinner? Give you a chaste kiss until your cheeks are smitten with weights of a smarting dimple? Or do I need to go for broke by giving you a Donald-Trumpalingus? grin

What must I do for the pinpricks of both our past misdemeanors to evaporate into the cold, anonymous embrace of nothingness?
I can't even come up with a response to this because I'm embarrassed for you. cheesy
Remember I said something about trying too hard? This sounds thirsty AF grin


Yup, I don't like him one bit.

And you're wrong, he does care whether I live or die -- if I give him one mention, he would give me twenty even though I snob them all. That or he lacks self-control.
LOL, you have an overestimated sense of yourself.
I've been here since 2013 although there have been breaks at various points, but one thing I noticed about your feud is you're the one who always gets in his way by quoting him first (always to pick a fight). Why is that? grin
That's how I know he isn't concerned with your online presence cheesy

BUT YOU WILL DENY IT. tongue


There is no conflict of interests here, unless you two are screwing offline? grin — which I highly doubt. You deserve better than that... cheesy
And you're better I guess. By what criteria? Your posts on an anonymous site? grin

I don't know what you look like, what you do for a living, how old you are, your real name etc.
I've known your nemesis a while and he ticks a lot of my boxes even though we are just good friends tongue

Screwing offline? Mmmhmmm
Is that what you do here? Making female friends so you can screw them offline? shocked


Of course, you've got X-ray vision. grin
Not necessarily, anyone with a keen eye can see it.
You were also trying this with my Mindfulnēss and I don't believe in coincidences.
She and he are also close here, so it looks like you're consciously trying to outdo him somewhat and it is EMBARRASSING. tongue cheesy cheesy


Well, it's not a trick question, just some interesting pun I saw written on a guy's shirt some months ago.

How do you like your eggs? Poached? Fried? Or fertilized? tongue
I like it sunny side up tongue
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by missjo: 12:37am On Nov 23, 2016
DarkRebel101:


I was deadpanning. Thirsty for you? You wish.


[...]
LMFAO cheesy cheesy cheesy
You're a child I swear down. Now you're throwing tantrums on account of being stone-walled grin
You honestly thought I was chatting with you because you're soo cool. shocked

Then you went again with this talk about how I stalk you. cheesy
I asked you the other day but you refused to answer:
I have never quoted you on this site since I've been here, SO WHAT ARE YOU ON ABOUT BOY? cheesy

I don't even know what you look like, why would I stalk a faceless person? Do I look like I get impressed with the long essays laced with fancy words, which like I noted before is proof you're overcompensating for something?
Why on earth would I be attracted to 'desperate' when there's absolutely nothing sexy or attractive about that. undecided


Well I don't have to tell anyone here how I feel because he might already know. Like you said, we might already be screwing offline tongue cheesy cheesy
No hard feelings child, just stick to your level and quit trying to score ladies who are way out of your reach. cool


•••
By the way, I hope you know you revealed at least 5 of your other usernames (because each kept getting banned) to me on the TV/Movies thread where you launched an unprovoked attack on me? grin
I know you like and share your own posts, with proof.
YOU'RE SICK, and I mean this with concern. cheesy

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 1:02am On Nov 23, 2016
missjo:

LMFAO cheesy cheesy cheesy
you're a child I swear down. Now you're throwing tantrums on account of being stone-walled grin
You honestly thought I was chatting with you because you're soo cool. shocked

LOL. You're the one throwing tantrums, dear.

People only get stonewalled when they try to acquire something. I never tried to acquire anything from you -- I already told you that I'm not the least interested in your barmy-āss. Why are you still belabouring the point? Psycho. grin


Then you went again with this talk about how I stalk you. cheesy
I asked you the other day but you refused to answer:
I have never quoted you on this site since I've been here, SO WHAT ARE YOU ON ABOUT BOY? cheesy

Liar, liar, pants on fire. At the end of this post you'll find a screenshot of you giving me a mention. (I had never quoted you on this forum when you gave me that mention after you stalked me to TV/movie section)


I don't even know what you look like, why would I stalk a faceless person?

Because you're mentally-unstable. You stalked me all the way to TV/movies thread even when I didn't know you, and even made a post on a thread you've never commented on before all because of me. You are a creep and you need help! grin


Do I look like I get impressed with the long essays laced with fancy words, which like I noted before is proof you're overcompensating for something?
Why on earth would I be attracted to 'desperate' when there's absolutely nothing sexy or attractive about that
. undecided

I never wooed you so spare me these lamentations, please. See this mosquito growing wings. grin

It doesn't change the fact that you are a sick, creepy stalker.grin


Well I don't have to tell anyone here how I feel because he might already know. Like you said, we might already be screwing offline tongue cheesy cheesy

None of my business, child. How are we even sure you are not him disguising as a female? grin


No hard feelings child, just stick to your level and quit trying to score ladies who are way out of your reach. cool

Score who? Ladies like you? Where have you ever seen me trying to score any lady beyond the superficial gibes and teases? I told you that you're delusional and out of your mind. I have lots of babes with benefits offline, online babes are not my thing. grin grin

Fun facts:

1.) I don't do social media dating.

2. No lady – save for one – can say I've sent her a pm throughout this year. The reverse is the case and I don't care to reply the 'many' mails I get ‘cause I'm not the least interested.

So what are you raving about? Calm your tïtties, woman. grin


•••
By the way, I hope you know you revealed at least 5 of your other usernames (because each kept getting banned) to me on the TV/Movies thread where you launched an unprovoked attack on me? grin

I revealed only two and they are both banned. Stop lying.

i know you like and share your own posts, with proof.
YOU'RE SICK, and I mean this with concern. cheesy

Please post the proof.

What you know is none of my concern. My followers dish likes to me, and those who agree with my posts. It's only a low self-esteemed and insecure waif like you that would need to validate your self-worth by liking and sharing your posts.

Can you even hear yourself, child? You sound like an idïot. grin

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 1:03am On Nov 23, 2016
Missjo, you really ought to see a psychiatrist. I'm serious. grin

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by missjo: 1:35am On Nov 23, 2016
DarkRebel101:
Missjo, you really ought to see a psychiatrist. I'm serious. grin
Quit embarrassing yourself, I'm not interested in the essay about your life up there. cheesy cheesy
Like I said before, I have never quoted you before and the screenshot you just posted proves two points:

1. IamWestAfrican is one of the many alternate usernames you revealed on that thread, which you use to go about liking and sharing your own posts.

2. My mentioning you was ONLY after you used the IamWestAfrican handle to tell me it was you Darkrebel, WHICH IS WHY MY RESPONSE WAS ONLY AN ACKNOWLEDGEMENT.
cheesy

Anyway since you're out to embarrass yourself further and prove to everyone how much of a child you are, Let me help you with my own screenshot showing how we got there:

Enjoy cool

Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 1:44am On Nov 23, 2016
missjo:

Quit embarrassing yourself, I'm not interested in the essay about your life up there. cheesy cheesy

I have you cornered already, what else has your crazy-äss got to say? cheesy


Like I said before, I have never quoted you before and the screenshot you just posted proves two points

You mentioned me when I had never mentioned you on this forum before. You clicked on my profile, and that was how you saw the post I made about your god, then you reported to Mods like the chicken that you are. You are a stalker, a creep, and you are obsessed with me. Unfortunately I don't do mad women. grin


1.. IamWestAfrican is one of the many alternate usernames you revealed on that thread

Iamwestafrican was only one of the 2 or 3 alternates, not many. I see your delusions have befogged your memory as well.


2. My mentioning you was ONLY after you used the IamWestAfrican handle to tell me it was darkrebel, WHICH IS WHY MY RESPONSE WAS AN ACKNOWLEDGEMENT, NOT A DIRECT MENTIONcheesy

I only used the account to quote you because you made a subliminal diss at me and because I knew you were the one who reported to the Mods because I was hurting your boy. However you try spin it, the fact remains that you stalked me. grin


Anyway since you're out to embarrass yourself further and prove to everyone how much of a child you are, Let me help you with my own screenshot showing how we got there:
Enjoy cool

You're the one embarrassing yourself.

Because of your busybody and bitchiness, you stalked me to TV/movie thread.

Because of your jealousy and delusions, you claimed my convos with Mindy was because I wanted to outdo a charlatan. What a child.

Because of your inanity and pettiness, you claimed I try to score ladies -- yet cannot provide a single shred of evidence. So bantering with ladies equates to wanting to score them? You've never been the sharpest tool in the box anyway.

Because of your insecurity, you claimed I like my own posts.

Missjo, you personify insanity. Accept that you are mad. grin

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by missjo: 2:08am On Nov 23, 2016
DarkRebel101:

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Okay then, this has been fun. You win, son.
I am so into you and I'm stalking you because you're the sexiest most attractive SOB on Nairaland with NO profile photo to back it up. LMFAO cheesy


About your usernames, the proof you seek is already within you.
I'm not making that claim here for anyone else to know.
I'm only revealing it because I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT I KNOW about how you like & share your own posts ESPECIALLY DURING ARGUMENTS. I want you to remember this deep down so you know that I see through you.
Apart from your tendency to try too hard, this is another reason why I'm certain you're as FAKE as they come.

Now you can rest easy knowing you ain't ever gonna snag a butterfly like me, not even in your wet dreams. cheesy
I don't do fake, desperate, and I'm definitely not trying to get in tha slammer for child abuse.

Love you kiss

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 2:17am On Nov 23, 2016
missjo:

Okay then, this has been fun. You win, son.
I am so into you and I'm stalking you because you're the sexiest most attractive SOB on Nairaland with NO profile photo to back it up. LMFAO cheesy

Are you on your period and are you deaf? I said I'm not interested in you. Na by force? See me see trouble ooo. MissHO, Can you please get off my dïck? grin

And why do you efface my posts? You don't want your followers to see you getting exposed as the mentally-unstable stalker that you are, innit? At least you have small shame and small sense. cheesy


About your usernames, the proof you seek is already within you.
I'm not making that claim here for anyone else to know.
'm only revealing it because I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT I KNOW about how you like & share your own posts ESPECIALLY DURING ARGUMENTS I want you to remember this deep down so you know that I see through you.
Apart from your tendency to try too hard, this is another reason why I'm certain you're as FAKE as they come.


You said you would provide proof and now you're squeaking like a family of rats. Möron, who are you trying to fool?

I already told you, bïtch...I'm not as petty as you are, neither do I pay any attention to likes or shares. If they come, they come; if they don't, they don't. Only insecure litluns like you focus on such trivialities. I just liked one of your post, maybe now you'll stop with your madness. grin


Now you can rest easy knowing you ain't ever gonna snag a butterfly like me, not even in your wet dreams. cheesy

I'm sure my girlfriend packs more heat than you. Who wants to snag a toothless, small-tïtted, flat-āssed, mosquito-shaped psychotic chicken? Tufiakwa! Sango forbids it! grin


I don't do fake, desperate, and I'm definitely not trying to get in tha slammer for child abuse.
Love you kiss

Keep your love to yourself -- you need it more than I do, you sad, envious, and manic depraved bipolar sociopath. grin

See this small girl of 18 years old talking about child abuse? grin grin

...

I also don't do desperate and creepy stalkers who tail me all about Nairaland. Have some dignity, missjo, and stop stalking me all around this forum. The stench of your presence combined with that of your panties is sure to send any nose unlucky enough to sniff it into comatose. grin

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by missjo: 2:41am On Nov 23, 2016

The stench of your presence combined with that of your panties is sure to send any nose unlucky enough to sniff it into comatose. grin
Quoted ONLY for reference purposes.

Gradually revealing his true self, not the intellectual gentlemanly front he puts up & desperately tries to maintain. cheesy
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 2:46am On Nov 23, 2016
missjo:

Quoted ONLY for reference purposes.
Gradually revealing his true self, not the intellectual gentlemanly front he puts up & desperately tries to maintain. cheesy

I'm a shape-shifter, I can be whatever I want and whenever I want to. A lowlife stalker like you sure doesn't deserve the gentleman and civil side of me. Why not go cure yourself of your giant inferiority complex? tongue

And why aren't you asleep, stalker? Go to bed, your brain batteries obviously need a factory reset. cheesy
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 9:30am On Nov 23, 2016
Missjo, so after realizing the applesauce you wrote, you went to beg a Moderator to delete the posts you made about me and Mindfulness so she wouldn't get a mention? grin

Too bad I saved all the posts already. What you cannot say in front of someone, don't say behind their backs by misspelling their monickers. It reeks of underhandedness and deceit.

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by sisisioge: 9:40am On Nov 23, 2016
Lobatan!

OP, how far with our well groomed, grounded and mature bobo? You could also send the two love birds derailing your thread away. Their pre-intimacy is unsafe to read grin grin grin

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by megastu(m): 11:13am On Nov 23, 2016
Your greatest undoing is dating two men.

You have made a big mistake already because no matter what happens you will keep comparing which will not make you have piece of mind.

anitank:
I don't know why this always happens to me. It's either I'm single with no one saying hi or I have to choose between two people who want me at the same time. It's never in-between.

I met this guy who's just a year older than me (he's 29). He's a nice person with a really good heart but I have a little problem with the fact he's a bit immature. He's always on social media posting very irrelevant stuff, plays mind games with me, not always sure about his decisions and sees nothing wrong with breaking promises. And each time I complain, he thinks I'm overreacting. And even when he apologizes, he goes back to the same thing after a few days. But even with his flaws he has his great sides too. I was really skeptical at first dating someone within my age range because I know the maturity level always differs but I decided to give it a chance and not just assume things, afterall no one is perfect, not even myself. I really do like him but his behaviors gives me concerns. The last time we had a heated argument and I tried breaking up with him, he got really sick and hypertensive and had to take days off work to see a doctor. I had to make up with him. He specifically said he doesn't know if he'd survive if I ever left him.

Now my big sister introduced me to her friend's brother who is way older than I am (he's 40). He's very mature and patient, goes straight to the point, doesn't play any games. He pretty much knows what he wants. We've only spoken a couple of weeks and talked about variety of topics concerning life, family, work, dreams and aspirations etc and trust me nothing beats having a partner you're intellectually in sync with. And although things are not defined yet, you could easily tell where this is going.

The both men have absolutely nothing against me having a son (whose father died few months to our wedding four years ago). The younger guy particularly likes my boy a lot. Never goes a day without asking about him, bought him a game for his birthday and is currently asking what he wants for Christmas. The both men have also introduced me to their parents. I spoke with the younger guy's mum on the phone. The older one took me to his family home and I received a really warm welcome from them. None of us live in the same country but my job takes me around the world and I get to see them whenever I travel to the country they live.

Now this has nothing to do with money or even age but everything to do with me making the right decision and having peace of mind at the end of the day.

Bottom line is I like the younger guy and feel more attached to him and can tell he wants this to work out. He's always talking about having a road trip someday as a family with "our twins" and my son, but it's emotionally draining being with a "man-child" and don't know how long I can wait for him to realize that certain behaviors should be left for teenage boys. If I complain tomorrow, the usual tagline would be "did you not see all those behavior but you stayed thinking he'd change?". At a crossroad now and need a tough-love kinda advice but please don't roast me.

Thanks in advance

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by anitank(f): 1:41pm On Nov 23, 2016
sisisioge:
Lobatan!

OP, how far with our well groomed, grounded and mature bobo? You could also send the two love birds derailing your thread away. Their pre-intimacy is unsafe to read grin grin grin

My dear, you can even imagine the disrespect. But oh well, let them play away.

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by anitank(f): 2:04pm On Nov 23, 2016
megastu:
Your greatest undoing is dating two men.

You have made a big mistake already because no matter what happens you will keep comparing which will not make you have piece of mind.


Very precise and very correct too. That's why I've decided to let every other thing go and concentrate on one person alone, which is me. The best advice I got here was to cut them all loose, work on myself and decide what exactly I want. That way it's easier making a decision and sticking to it without swaying from one person to another

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by NevetsIbot(m): 4:43pm On Nov 23, 2016
babe. Go for the younger one.... You like him and he'll definitely change. I'm rooster sure
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by missjo: 6:32pm On Nov 23, 2016
DarkRebel101:
Missjo, so after realizing the applesauce you wrote, you went to beg a Moderator to delete the posts you made about me and Mindfulness so she wouldn't get a mention? grin

Too bad I saved all the posts already. What you cannot say in front of someone, don't say behind their backs by misspelling their monickers. It reeks of underhandedness and deceit.
undecided undecided
Boy, what are you smoking?

First I went to beg a moderator to delete posts to hide a mention (I don't even know what this means), then in the very next paragraph I already spelt it wrong to avoid the same mention. undecided
Since when has misspelling the username of someone stopped them from seeing it especially when they're a regular in the same section?

And what am I supposed to do with the information that you saved it?
Should I be scared of something? COLOR ME CONFUSED undecided
Not a single one of my posts is hidden on this thread and the one where I made reference to her is still up there, so I ask again What brand of shît are you smoking?

You're just a child and I'm embarrassed for you.
I don't know what makes you think I would EVER be attracted to a toddler like you in any way, shape, or form. You better recognize yo level and get yourself checked for this abomination you're trying to force on me.

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Nobody: 12:08am On Nov 24, 2016
anitank:


My dear, you can even imagine the disrespect. But oh well, let them play away.

My apologies, ma'am.

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by sisisioge: 11:18pm On Dec 05, 2016
onegig:
There's no greater blackmail in relationship than the excuse of getting sick and telling the other person you would die without them.

That's a big red flag you don't want to ignore. Reeks of lack of self esteem and worth.

Hmmmm, I can't access my P.. embarassed
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by davidif: 7:18pm On Mar 06, 2017
anitank:
I don't know why this always happens to me. It's either I'm single with no one saying hi or I have to choose between two people who want me at the same time. It's never in-between.

I met this guy who's just a year older than me (he's 29). He's a nice person with a really good heart but I have a little problem with the fact he's a bit immature. He's always on social media posting very irrelevant stuff, plays mind games with me, not always sure about his decisions and sees nothing wrong with breaking promises. And each time I complain, he thinks I'm overreacting. And even when he apologizes, he goes back to the same thing after a few days. But even with his flaws he has his great sides too. I was really skeptical at first dating someone within my age range because I know the maturity level always differs but I decided to give it a chance and not just assume things, afterall no one is perfect, not even myself. I really do like him but his behaviors gives me concerns. The last time we had a heated argument and I tried breaking up with him, he got really sick and hypertensive and had to take days off work to see a doctor. I had to make up with him. He specifically said he doesn't know if he'd survive if I ever left him.

Now my big sister introduced me to her friend's brother who is way older than I am (he's 40). He's very mature and patient, goes straight to the point, doesn't play any games. He pretty much knows what he wants. We've only spoken a couple of weeks and talked about variety of topics concerning life, family, work, dreams and aspirations etc and trust me nothing beats having a partner you're intellectually in sync with. And although things are not defined yet, you could easily tell where this is going.

The both men have absolutely nothing against me having a son (whose father died few months to our wedding four years ago). The younger guy particularly likes my boy a lot. Never goes a day without asking about him, bought him a game for his birthday and is currently asking what he wants for Christmas. The both men have also introduced me to their parents. I spoke with the younger guy's mum on the phone. The older one took me to his family home and I received a really warm welcome from them. None of us live in the same country but my job takes me around the world and I get to see them whenever I travel to the country they live.

Now this has nothing to do with money or even age but everything to do with me making the right decision and having peace of mind at the end of the day.

Bottom line is I like the younger guy and feel more attached to him and can tell he wants this to work out. He's always talking about having a road trip someday as a family with "our twins" and my son, but it's emotionally draining being with a "man-child" and don't know how long I can wait for him to realize that certain behaviors should be left for teenage boys. If I complain tomorrow, the usual tagline would be "did you not see all those behavior but you stayed thinking he'd change?". At a crossroad now and need a tough-love kinda advice but please don't roast me.

Thanks in advance


Hold up! You mean you are seeing two people at the same time?!?! Wow!! shocked shocked shocked shocked
Do they even know that you are cheating on them? Na wa o. Talk about someone going out of there way to put themselves in a confusing situation.

Your confusion is on you. You are eating from two plates at the same time. Sorry girl but you can't serve two masters.
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by davidif: 7:24pm On Mar 06, 2017
Either way, hope you have made your decision.
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by davidif: 7:44pm On Mar 06, 2017
megastu:
Your greatest undoing is dating two men.

You have made a big mistake already because no matter what happens you will keep comparing which will not make you have piece of mind.


Thank you o jare.
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by davidif: 8:59pm On Mar 06, 2017
sisisioge:
Lobatan!

OP, how far with our well groomed, grounded and mature bobo? You could also send the two love birds derailing your thread away. Their pre-intimacy is unsafe to read grin grin grin

My sister I tire for them o. I don't know why you can't ban some people from commenting on your thread.
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by anitank(f): 10:08pm On Mar 06, 2017
davidif:


Hold up! You mean you are seeing two people at the same time?!?! Wow!! shocked shocked shocked shocked
Do they even know that you are cheating on them? Na wa o. Talk about someone going out of there way to put themselves in a confusing situation.

Your confusion is on you. You are eating from two plates at the same time. Sorry girl but you can't serve two masters.

Thanks aunty for your contribution, but if you read my post clearly there's absolutely nothing in it that says I was cheating on any of the stated men. And if you've never been at that crossroad where you're not sure which path to follow, then your life must be perfect.

And because you brought me back to this thread, I'd like to let those who're still following know that I finally made a decision, the right one and happy I did. Introduction was last month and wedding coming soon smiley
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by davidif: 10:16pm On Mar 06, 2017
anitank:


Thanks aunty for your contribution, but if you read my post clearly there's absolutely nothing in it that says I was cheating on any of the stated men. And if you've never been at that crossroad where you're not sure which path to follow, then your life must be perfect.

And because you brought me back to this thread, I'd like to let those who're still following know that I finally made a decision, the right one and happy I did. Introduction was last month and wedding coming soon smiley


First of all, I have never dated two people at the same time at least not to my own knowledge because I know that would be wrong and unfair for both parties. Oh and it would also be termed as cheating.

Secondly, good for you. Hopefully you made the best decision.

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by funkyjms: 11:56pm On Mar 06, 2017
smiley
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by agabaI23(m): 8:38am On Mar 09, 2017
anitank
You have not told us who you have chosen after reading our rants here... wink
Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Ioannes(m): 10:11am On Mar 09, 2017
anitank:
I don't know why this always happens to me. It's either I'm single with no one saying hi or I have to choose between two people who want me at the same time. It's never in-between.

I met this guy who's just a year older than me (he's 29). He's a nice person with a really good heart but I have a little problem with the fact he's a bit immature. He's always on social media posting very irrelevant stuff, plays mind games with me, not always sure about his decisions and sees nothing wrong with breaking promises. And each time I complain, he thinks I'm overreacting. And even when he apologizes, he goes back to the same thing after a few days. But even with his flaws he has his great sides too. I was really skeptical at first dating someone within my age range because I know the maturity level always differs but I decided to give it a chance and not just assume things, afterall no one is perfect, not even myself. I really do like him but his behaviors gives me concerns. The last time we had a heated argument and I tried breaking up with him, he got really sick and hypertensive and had to take days off work to see a doctor. I had to make up with him. He specifically said he doesn't know if he'd survive if I ever left him.

Now my big sister introduced me to her friend's brother who is way older than I am (he's 40). He's very mature and patient, goes straight to the point, doesn't play any games. He pretty much knows what he wants. We've only spoken a couple of weeks and talked about variety of topics concerning life, family, work, dreams and aspirations etc and trust me nothing beats having a partner you're intellectually in sync with. And although things are not defined yet, you could easily tell where this is going.

The both men have absolutely nothing against me having a son (whose father died few months to our wedding four years ago). The younger guy particularly likes my boy a lot. Never goes a day without asking about him, bought him a game for his birthday and is currently asking what he wants for Christmas. The both men have also introduced me to their parents. I spoke with the younger guy's mum on the phone. The older one took me to his family home and I received a really warm welcome from them. None of us live in the same country but my job takes me around the world and I get to see them whenever I travel to the country they live.

Now this has nothing to do with money or even age but everything to do with me making the right decision and having peace of mind at the end of the day.

Bottom line is I like the younger guy and feel more attached to him and can tell he wants this to work out. He's always talking about having a road trip someday as a family with "our twins" and my son, but it's emotionally draining being with a "man-child" and don't know how long I can wait for him to realize that certain behaviors should be left for teenage boys. If I complain tomorrow, the usual tagline would be "did you not see all those behavior but you stayed thinking he'd change?". At a crossroad now and need a tough-love kinda advice but please don't roast me.

Thanks in advance


Sorry for quoting this long piece and I know it's also an old post, but in case you've made your choice, then at least someone going through this might see this response.

I've come to realise that Because we love someone doesn't mean we have time marry them.

If the younger guy is physically exhausting now, what will happen when the two of you start living together through months and years, enduring his childish behaviour ( he's already 29, So he won't change).

If I were you, I'd go for the older guy only after I've made my own personal and detailed research as to why he hasn't married at 40.

All the best.

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by anitank(f): 5:58pm On Mar 09, 2017
Ioannes:


Sorry for quoting this long piece and I know it's also an old post, but in case you've made your choice, then at least someone going through this might see this response.

I've come to realise that Because we love someone doesn't mean we have time marry them.

If the younger guy is physically exhausting now, what will happen when the two of you start living together through months and years, enduring his childish behaviour ( he's already 29, So he won't change).

If I were you, I'd go for the older guy only after I've made my own personal and detailed research as to why he hasn't married at 40.

All the best.

Thank you very much. And I absolutely agree with you. Most times love is just not enough because on the long run only endurance, patience and perseverance would sustain a marriage. There's no such thing as a fairytale marriage. It takes two mature people to make it work, or atleast one mature and coolheaded person, as I can be really strongheaded sometimes. So yes I made my decision based on facts and real life experiences and I chose smart over spark. Thanks for your contribution

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by Ioannes(m): 6:03pm On Mar 09, 2017
anitank:


Thank you very much. And I absolutely agree with you. Most times love is just not enough because on the long run only endurance, patience and perseverance would sustain a marriage. There's no such thing as a fairytale marriage. So yes I made my decision based on facts and real life experiences and I chose smart over spark. Thanks for your contribution

My pleasure. smiley

I sure wish you happiness with your choice.

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Re: Between An Immature Young Guy And An Older Man by MRAKBEE(m): 1:30am On Mar 08, 2018
anitank:
I don't know why this always happens to me. It's either I'm single with no one saying hi or I have to choose between two people who want me at the same time. It's never in-between.

I met this guy who's just a year older than me (he's 29). He's a nice person with a really good heart but I have a little problem with the fact he's a bit immature. He's always on social media posting very irrelevant stuff, plays mind games with me, not always sure about his decisions and sees nothing wrong with breaking promises. And each time I complain, he thinks I'm overreacting. And even when he apologizes, he goes back to the same thing after a few days. But even with his flaws he has his great sides too. I was really skeptical at first dating someone within my age range because I know the maturity level always differs but I decided to give it a chance and not just assume things, afterall no one is perfect, not even myself. I really do like him but his behaviors gives me concerns. The last time we had a heated argument and I tried breaking up with him, he got really sick and hypertensive and had to take days off work to see a doctor. I had to make up with him. He specifically said he doesn't know if he'd survive if I ever left him.

Now my big sister introduced me to her friend's brother who is way older than I am (he's 40). He's very mature and patient, goes straight to the point, doesn't play any games. He pretty much knows what he wants. We've only spoken a couple of weeks and talked about variety of topics concerning life, family, work, dreams and aspirations etc and trust me nothing beats having a partner you're intellectually in sync with. And although things are not defined yet, you could easily tell where this is going.

The both men have absolutely nothing against me having a son (whose father died few months to our wedding four years ago). The younger guy particularly likes my boy a lot. Never goes a day without asking about him, bought him a game for his birthday and is currently asking what he wants for Christmas. The both men have also introduced me to their parents. I spoke with the younger guy's mum on the phone. The older one took me to his family home and I received a really warm welcome from them. None of us live in the same country but my job takes me around the world and I get to see them whenever I travel to the country they live.

Now this has nothing to do with money or even age but everything to do with me making the right decision and having peace of mind at the end of the day.

Bottom line is I like the younger guy and feel more attached to him and can tell he wants this to work out. He's always talking about having a road trip someday as a family with "our twins" and my son, but it's emotionally draining being with a "man-child" and don't know how long I can wait for him to realize that certain behaviors should be left for teenage boys. If I complain tomorrow, the usual tagline would be "did you not see all those behavior but you stayed thinking he'd change?". At a crossroad now and need a tough-love kinda advice but please don't roast me.

Thanks in advance

Let me believe that you had made the right choice and not regretting now.
Happy married life..
However, I think you have to create a thread on the choice you finally made and the experience so far. This will help our bachelors and spinster alot.

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