Ashmark:
I don't understand why women like shouting of little thing. They got raped at age 1, lost parent at age 8, cheated on at age blah blah.

You want to know what have bin through myself ?

Pack well Makinde.

I swear I tire for the matter oooo! Na them go talk say one thing one thing! Always ready to make noise out of anything

FlirtyKaren:
Media personality Toke Makinwa has survived a whole lot. At the age of 8, she lost her parents in a house fire.

As an immature teenager, through her twenties, she fell in love with a man who would nearly ruin her life - with a sex tape, side girlfriends. A man that almost drove her to commit suicide by drinking Dettol after he cheated, got babymama pregnant, their wedding crashed and the story blew into a huge international scandal.

Toke Makinwa now has a soon to be released book – On Becoming in which she shared her incredible survival story and it has been an interesting and eye-opening read so far!

Toke says it “is not a tell-all but a must tell. Here are some MUST-READ excerpts.

The Discovery
I got on my knees in front of him, my voice calm as I can make it. “Maje, you can’t keep lying. What is going on?
He walks away, leaving me there with my heart in my hands. I see him pacing, like he is
having a private conversation. Then all of a sudden, he walks back to the living room, looks straight into my eyes and says, ‘She’s pregnant’.
I fall to the ground. My head….
‘What’s she having?’
‘A boy,’ he says.
‘How long have you known?’
‘I’ve always known…. It was what I thought I wanted,’ he says.

The Wedding

“Finally, I thought. He chose me! He has stepped up and he’s finally ready to make us a priority.
It was my wedding day.
I was happy, yet I was waiting for something to happen. Maje had disappointed me three times before. We would pick a date to go to the wedding registry and he would call it off…. We had discussed eloping, but he’d never committed to any plan.
It wasn’t until we shared our first dance to John Legend’s ‘All of Me’ that I finally believed that it had happened.
We got back together (after a quarrel because Maje took ‘an ex’ to a party he bluntly told Toke he wasn’t taking her to and he and the ex were ‘touching freely and kissing’)…
Maje invited me to Abuja…. As I was putting away my things I saw all kinds of feminine items – earrings on the dresser, sanitary pads in the drawer….”

The Other Woman

“Who was that girl?” I asked
“That’s that girl”
“Which girl?”
“The girl I told you about. Her friends are always calling me to say she really likes me and has a crush on me. Her name is Anita.”
“So that’s the Anita girl they say you are dating.”
“I’m not dating her. How can I date someone that is always saying ‘can I come and see you? I’ll bring my friend that you think is cute’?”
I accepted Maje’s explanation and concluded that Anita was not important. So I’ll be with Maje and she’d call and I’d tell him, “The girl that has a crush on you is calling.” And it would be nothing.

The Sex Tape and Bleaching

“At some point while we were dating, Maje had asked if he could tape us having sex. This was a new one for me but I would do anything to keep my man, or so I thought, and so I obliged.
But I was nervous afterwards because I didn’t want the tape to get into the wrong hands….
I dragged the file back to his desktop, and I could tell from the stilled image in the video that the person in it was not me…. I clicked play and watched horrified as Maje had sex with Anita.
Watching that video, all of the inadequacies I thought I had dealt with over the years came rushing back.
I had been with Maje from when I was an immature teenager, through my twenties, and for most of those years, Anita had been the standard I had to live up to. I had lightened my skin at some point – Anita was half Lebanese and half Ibibio, and Maje made me feel like he preferred her lighter skin.”

Breakups and Makeups

Months passed and I still couldn’t find a job (in London). And I was still heartbroken. Maje and Anita were officially an item, and I stalked them on Facebook. Maje would put her picture up and they would write on each other’s walls.
…one cold night as I got off the bus, I got a Facebook message from Maje. It read: ‘I miss you and I cannot deny or hide it, come back to me’.
We started talking again… I convinced myself that he had changed.
Maje and I had been together for nine years, on and off, at this point, and it had been an unending cycle of hurt and betrayal. Every time we took ten steps forward in our relationship, we took fifty back. Each time I gave up and let go, Maje would come after me and hold on so tightly till I gave in.

Another child

… there was a 70-day fasting and prayer programme at my church. I joined in: I was praying for Maje and I. On the final day, I prayed and asked God to reveal why Maje and I couldn’t find peace with each other.
…I opened my email address and typed Maje’s email address in. I had no idea what his password was but I was determined to get into his account…. I went through email after email until I found pictures of a boy that looked exactly like Maje….

Contemplating Suicide

I was sitting in the bedroom one day. There was a bottle of Dettol in the bathroom and a thought came, very strong, “Just drink it and die. What’s the point? The whole world is laughing at you right now. Just end it.”
Faith
The devil finds a way to fill your head with lies when you have just gone through a period. These lies can make you question everything, including the very purpose of your existence. Lies like:
‘You’re not good enough’
‘This is the best thing that could have happened to you and now it’s falling apart’
‘This will end you’
When this lies came, God’s word provided a much-needed comfort and a reminder of my identity and His plans for me.

Moving on and Healing

Maje hadn’t made it easy for me to move on. He’d begged like his life depended on me staying….
And then there were the outrageous comments:
‘Maje spent X amount of time with Anita so she wasn’t the mistress, Toke was’
‘She didn’t break your home, you did. You came between two people who loved each other by marrying him’.

…. That day’s topic was about making marriage work, and it hit me so hard that I cried like a baby. I wasn’t a virtuous woman; I was a girl! A girl with a daddy-void so large that she had all of her issues and expectations on a man who was still trying to discover his purpose.

All my mistakes became clear to me. I hadn’t lost my marriage to another woman. I had given my marriage to her.

While I’m not sure if I’ll find love again, I am sure of the contentment I have found in a God who’s got my back 100%.

http://www.lailasblog.com/2016/11/toke-makinwa-maje-ayida-tell-all-book.html

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You fell in love with an unrepentant player.
Who took advantage of your emotions.

Almighty God JEHOVAH will bring you the real man who will be your husband for life.

Person call off wedding many times, una discuss elope he no send you, you visit am dey see woman property way no be your own , dey see many things still you still go Marry am... Anty you saw the handwriting on the wall, but you decided to ignore it.... Heal alone by yourself, sorry ..

70 days fasting on top one man head! Only God know the number of babalawo and Alfa this toke consult on top maje head. Na the fasting one she gree talk For her book

I just want to see that video who knows where I can find it

aalangel:
She caused her problems. She loved Maje to a fault. It's the duty of a man to love a woman not vice versa.

She should dedicate herself to God. Another man can still make her happy.

She should also stop pitying herself.

I thought love should be mutual in relationships and matriage and not weighted toward's one end. Where was your claim stated?

Mayflowa:


I thought love should be mutual in relationships and matriage and not weighted toward's one end. Where was your claim stated?

The Bible says, husbands love thy wives, wives be submissive. That is if you believe the Bible. There are a lot of atheists on this site.

its obvious she still has feelings for the man

yinkslinks:
Na she can't do that. Were u there? Just saying that to be self pitied. She saw all that the man does and still went ahead to marry him. See marriage is business. She was looking for a deal that didn't come through.

wr u there yourself? Don't speak about people's pain like that? You sound like somebody that doesn't know what it means to love because there is a lot of hate in your statement,she loved him. Love does not judge love will give u a chance over and over again

Omudia:
That is the mistake most people make. Never put up with a serial cheater in a relationship. A guy that can boldly flaunt his new girl in your face after y'all break up is a baby and undeserving of your attention and time.

Also... Why should any sane person do a sex tape? If he even has an iota of respect for you, he wouldn't ask for a sex tape. And you agreeing just proves how dumb you are. You cannot lose yourself, morals and values just to please a total jerk. Na wa for two of Una!

I wish ladies can learn . My ex wasn't only flaunting the new girl oh even his friends and families to forgive that kind thing dey hard. My ex knows he can never find peace! Toke is strong

Toke is not the wrong one here, she is the one who was wronged. No one wants to call a spade a spade, but it was sweet looking Anita that interfered with a marriage. She is the one that should be booed. But the world has turned upside down and toke is the one that is being held responsible. I don' t know if side chicks know they can be sued for enticement and seduction. once one is sued , the others would arrange themselves. If a man is married, leave him alone. If a woman is married, leave her alone. I wish women can become accountable to themselves. Anita has a lot of questions to answer. Toke should sue her, afterall, she has released a book and is making money. Let her make money of her pain, thats the least she can get out of all this one sidedness
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shut up

Can this lady just move on and leave that man alone... the pity party has to come to an end