Ok, so finally i read the book by toke makinwa I am deeply touched to say the least.

While reading the book, I kept wondering ‘why did she keep forgiving this guy? He is an an unrepentant cheat and a liar! She saw all the signs and still went ahead to marry the guy.
Funny thing is, this is what happens in almost every relationship, the guy cheats and the lady forgives cos she has been "brainwashed" that she is the main ONE.

After reading this book, it just made me realize that we the ladies fall a lot for the "lies and sweet talks" and we are just too emotional....... maybe it's cos we always feel like we that special one they keep coming back to?? Why do we keep forgiving when it's obvious they will do it again?


And then to maje (the husband), why did he marry toke when he knows he loved Anita more?'
Only to end up breaking toke"s heart by continuously cheating with Anita after marriage??

So to the guys, why would you date someone or marry someone only to end up cheating on that person with another?? Why not just date or marry the person you cheating with??

rose54321:
I guess different ladies do it for different reasons. To me I feel Toke has or had low self esteem and so felt dependent on the guy, like she can't do better.

Just like your case, her relationship with Maje became a routine, a cycle, part of her sub conscious.
When at this stage its extremely difficult to pull out.

Hopefully if more ladies can tell their story it might help the younger ones from falling prey. As women it seems we are abit soft, with the right guy, we can easily be swayed.

Kyllahmc:
I dont forgive a cheating partner...
And i dont ask for forgiveness when i cheat on a partner...
Cos cheating simply means your partner is not enough for you.. And therefore can never be. Once a cheat is always a cheat. People dont stop cheating they only learn to cover their tracks better...
People should wise up...
And about the Toke makinwa's book, you cant be sure she is telling the truth... Some ladies can play victim.. I personally dont trust that lady and same goes to Tiwa savage... Sorry if youre a fan

veronicababy:
I don't think I can forgive a cheating partner

Jafar1:


I don't think u love a cheating partner

Medunah:

Exactly, I am so happy she told her story and am happier I read it cos as a very young lady, her story helped me a lot. I even put it upon myself to share the e-book to all my female friends.

Tallesty1:
It's because she's a woman. Unah wahala dey unique and e no get solution.

dingbang:
It's because yall are women... and women will always be women!

Medunah:

Exactly, I am so happy she told her story and am happier I read it cos as a very young lady, her story helped me a lot. I even put it upon myself to share the e-book to all my female friends.

Medunah:


Me I don't understand this both you "she is a woman talk o' maybe u should expatiate
And you both didn't answer the question, why do you and your people cheat??

nowpresence:

I hope you don't mind sharing the e book with me.
Email: omejevweodenema@gmail.com
Thanks.

ajokebelle:

Please can you help with the e-Book.

dingbang:
who is you and your people? ..


Please remind me d last time we had a relationship and I cheated on u.

Medunah:

Oga, it's not fight....it just a simple case of you saying you don't cheat, which I don't think you will admit to anyway.....

littlemistress:
The only effective way to stop being played by a cheat is to stop the low self esteem & cut ALL communications wt the cheat. Relocate if need be. But the thing is most ladies does not have the liver to cut ties with a serial time wasting b.astard

Medunah:




Sorry Pls drop ur numbers and I won't quote it so u will be able to edit and remove it later. My mail not working so I will send it thru WhatsApp....

dingbang:
and here u are judging again..



Look if you think all men cheat then I don't think u will end up getting married.



Now before I tell you if I cheat or not, why not we get into a relationship first, den we ascertain who cheats first.



Deal?

Medunah:

Oga, it's not fight....it just a simple case of you saying you don't cheat, which I don't think you will admit to anyway.....

Medunah:

I don't think all men are cheats! I think most men are cheats..... and sorry if it felt like I was judging, only talk from what av seen!

No deal

Seen @Nowpresence , you can remove it

Adeinfo:


Lady, you are behaving too confrontational with the guy. You are acting like both of you have issues unsolved. I hope the effect of Reading and adoring Toke is not getting over you. pls, if you want relationship breakthroughs, learn from those that have been able to sustain one not failures because you will never get objective reasoning especially from you ladies.

Adeinfo:


Lady, you are behaving too confrontational with the guy. You are acting like both of you have issues unsolved. I hope the effect of Reading and adoring Toke is not getting over you. pls, if you want relationship breakthroughs, learn from those that have been able to sustain one not failures because you will never get objective reasoning especially from you ladies.

AngelsAndStars:
you made a good point. she should know ladies always play victim so toke's story should not be taken as absolutely truth. anyways, that's her concern.