ItzMePuffPuff:
Wrong.
Volume dating is very beneficial 2 a woman.

ItzMePuffPuff:
Wrong.
Volume dating is very beneficial 2 a woman.

Sexytemi:



whether the problem is patched or not, it would save the girl from lots of heartache

aflyingbird:
not a bad idea at all . men of nowadays have more than 1 girlfriend . if another man comes along don't push him away bc u r already dating Iyke , who just might be dating ngozi n bidemi. too . in fact if u think if u think u r ur man's main chick u just might be da sidechick . unless u r 100% sure he is DA ONE or u r the only one he is seeing , have a side bf . a smart woman's guide to happiness 101

CoolFreeday:
That it doesn't work for you or any other doesn't mean its the same for everybody.
As a guy I never double dated and never will. Once am dating a lady, to be close to any lady you must know that I have a relationship. So stop using your experience to judge all guys and mislead other ladies.

My advise for ladies is; if you can have a side guys, be ready to lose him, otherwise, don't.

agbonkamen:
shut up

Sexytemi:
To All Ladies Out There, I Say Please Have A Side Boyfriend!

After reading toke makinwa's book "on becoming" I'm of the idea that if toke had had a back up plan, a guy she could count on if her boyfriend at that time maje(later ex husband) was in his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her serious and respected her more..

I've been there where I gave my all into a relationship and was very loyal to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.

A friend of mine started dating a guy, and she got to realize he was cheating on her, and not only was he cheating but with a girl so young, when my friend confronted him, this guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend saw all the evidences he still blamed her, and she asked me what she did wrong, all she ever did was love and give him all of her, she ignored all guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs.

Then another of my friend met up with a guy and ohh she fell for his charm, this my friend has had a fair share in the heart break department, her heart has been broken not once, twice and not even thrice. when she chatted me up and said"babe I've met a guy and he loves me with his all, babe he wants to marry me and babe thank God for me" I got to admit I was happy for her and in fact I thank God on her behalf and used her case as a testimony of good things to happen, I tap into her good luck and believe someday I'd also meet a guy who would love me as much as her guy did, little did I know the guy was nothing short of bastard, a guy who makes ladies curse other guys, a guy who is a disgrace to other guys...this guy impregnated my friend and made her father chase her out of the house, with nowhere to go she moved in with him and got to know who he really was, this guy still went after girls, cheats on my friend even in her condition, lodge in different hotels with different girls, and whenever she confronts him he denies it to her face, and in my friend's voice"babe, I'm so scared of him, he lies so much that when he greets me good morning I go out to make sure its really morning", and I'm sure we all know its wrong for a pregnant lady to think, but oh my friend is always thinking and sad all because she fell in love with an ahole and was loyal.

And this makes me wonder is it wrong for ladies to be loyal in their relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall in love and give you her all?, is it a crime for ladies to do all just to please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?. and my answers to these questions is just for ladies to have side boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you won't have the fear of the main guy waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the heart attack of thinking of what your boyfriend is doing at the moment, and you won't be so involved in the life of your boyfriend for him to tell you you are choking him or think less of you.

EmmaFantastic:

Sexytemi:
To All Ladies Out There, I Say Please Have A Side Boyfriend!

After reading toke makinwa's book "on becoming" I'm of the idea that if toke had had a back up plan, a guy she could count on if her boyfriend at that time maje(later ex husband) was in his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her serious and respected her more..

I've been there where I gave my all into a relationship and was very loyal to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.
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Xiadnat:
Tskk...and what would be the point of side persons? To me, they are all ways of creating 'drama', 'baggage' and 'junks in trunks' of life metaphorically speaking. Ain't no body got time for that.

I like my life simple, and as worry and drama free as possible. 'Sides JC is my one true side BFF.

I can only deal with one guy drama at a time. When I commit to something or someone, I am all in. No sides anything.

The idea of side chicks and side boyfriends is that of people diversifying their heartbreaks...spreading their 'heartbreak eggs' in many baskets.

That's how come people are in their 20s and 30s, and they already have soap opera dramas to last a lifetime.

I don't know why people choose to attract problems in their life and they wonder why their life sucks or are unhappy and unfulfilled and mean and angry.

People need to deal with risks that comes with living. Relationships are a risk. Giving and loving someone is a risk. Take the risk with the reward. And, accept pain that comes with risk and inevitable part of life. Grow some balls, get some muscles and build resilience.


Love like you can never be hurt; but keep in mind you will. Love with your heart like it can never be broken. If it is broken, use a super glue, glue it back and keep the heart beating. Keep stepping.

*taps outs*

Gawd, why do I always have sermons. Lawd, why?

KingRex1:
The right guy may come along, but since you've resorted to having a side bf, it would all go wrong again.
And then you'll come back with a new thread.. 'if he has these qualities, he's the one, don't keep a side bf'

greg42:


I want to correct you.... a woman doesn't double date.... a parasite does..... The only thing double dating does is to ruin your long term chances with ALL of your back-up plans

is that so for a man with side chicks?

klassykute:
edo girl

ItzMePuffPuff:
Wrong.
Volume dating is very beneficial 2 a woman.

Benita27:
To think Toke wrote down all that transpired between her and her bf later husband on that book is to believe Buhari will make N1 equal $1 before he leaves office.

Poo happens and because some1 cheated on you isn't a guarantee that all the guys who'll come your way will be cheats.

"All men are not the same" cheating isn't an option for me.

iykekelvins:
This one wey my name enter your post so.

klbakare:
volume dating, hmmmnn what a vocab. Am learning new words I guess. So what volume are you presently? Volume 6 or 7? Can I join in the volumes?

Ha
i meant BEFORE u get a boyfriend,when yer just going out on dates (dating)
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And volume dating it what we call this in america

Amelian:
In my own point of view, having a side boyfriend is OK for ladies, range 18 to 29.
But ladies 30s and above? Side boyfriend is. Not too cool. And I realised recently. Ladies 30s and above shouldn't dabble or take a guy younger than them serious or expect a younger guy to really be serious with us. Although it takes one out of 1million for a younger guy to settle with a lady who is older. There are still older men out there for ladies in their 30s. Whom have seen it all and ready to be faithful and give it a shot.

Ladies should simply open their eyes, and senses and watch when they are dating who is insincere and a player. Our instincts tells us this guy is not in love with us. Don't ignore it. Ask your guy certain questions that will. Make him frustrated and tell. U the truth about his feelings for. U

U can date and break up with a guy with a week! If u don't trust him
Even within a month! It's allowed.. I do it alot, to avoid stories that touch.
My friends will be like Amelia! How could u? Just a week! And your guy is gone?
I said yes! Trust me I know what am doing.

I don't like to cheat and I won't put up with your cheating asss.!
So that's it.. People can talk, I don't fucvking care.

Thank God am with a better human being sef and a real. Man..

God help us.. Amen

TheSonOfMark:
Pay no attention to that tramp who's justifying cheating.

says the man who said faithfulness is earned
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So whos truly the tramp

agbonkamen:
English teacher ride on. it was intentionally written because wise cows like you will definitely stop over for correction, anyways i hope you got my message?

ItzMePuffPuff:
says the man who said faithfulness is earned
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So whos truly the tramp

TheSonOfMark:
Of course, Valerie would quote Kingsley.
The last time we did this three nights ago, I dragged you across the pages of that thread, soiling you in the murky waters of shame.

What do you want from me, Valerie?

Hahaha
Is that what u imagined u did?
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U ran away. U always run away before im done.