We all have pasts. There are some of this past that we don't wish to remember not to talk of telling someone else. Guys do you think it is reasonable to let our future spouse know our past? If YES, then how much should he/she know? At what stage of our relationship should we reveal the pasts?
If NO, why should he/she not know?

IMHO I think we should always tell our spouses our past, no matter how sordid it may appear...if they're our actual spouses, they'd forgive and understand.

But just make sure you are actually sure of your stance with the said spouse. Because you may think you're the only spouse while you may just be another option. So make sure it's a committed relationship first to avoid opening yourself and getting heart broken.
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dats if she's an understandin person ...no need to hide anything but if she's the wanama type...abeg just STFU nd play along cos a little bit of misunderstandin...even CNN go hear am

Why not? All cards on the table dude, what's so daunting about the past that can't be heard.?

sisisioge:
Why not? All cards on the table dude, what's so daunting about the past that can't be heard.?

What if there is possibility of him/her using that past to get back at you in d future?

opelyem:


What if there is possibility of him/her using that past to get back at you in d future?

No qualms... nothing the world never hear before. Besides, wetin I do wey dey so whacky? All cards on the table dude.

Yes.. Will tell her every detail n expect her to be open too. There's nothing that's new

sure, more reason he loves me so much

yes bt not all oohhhhh

Definitely. I would tell her. I've got nothing to hide.

Yeah bt make sure u do Dat at d beginning of d relationship, so dat if he cnt cope, he shud beta leav on time

Yea but not the one I sucked my sexy cousin's pussy

Team virgin, nothing to hide .

My past?nope,i cant and i dont want to knw about his past as well.

Ar u high?for what?

Not all shiit, cox u can cause pees to ur relationship if u say some stuffs,

YES

since we have decided to spend d rest of our lives together there is nothing to hide in case in d future she won't be seeing and hearing different kinds of story about from anyone apart from my family...

YES!


Sometimes, your past comes back to bite you in the as.s

Not advisable!

Some folks are of the opinion that "what happens in vegas stays in vegas".

A- A woman who has aborted, should she tell her fiance?

B- A man that was a serial rapist, should he tell his fiancee?

C- A man that was a murderer and ritual killer, should he tell his fiancee?

D- A woman that was a prostitute, should she tell her fiance?


If you find any of these ugly past about your partner five years into the marriage, what would be your reaction?

Yes. So long has it has everything to do with our relationship. I don't want to start hearing unnecessary rumours or stories about her so the best bet is to know everything from the word go. More so,i love to be free, and do not like keeping secrets.

Sure. Why not

if u tell ur bf dat u av aborted 3 times, den he will make u to abort the fourth one, and dump u ... so not all truth are to be told.... dat why der is word lyk secrets....

I as a person please don't tell me about your past and i won't tell you mine. I'll definitely get back at her whenever i smell her past in the future

Hmm.... I have got some dark pasts. My ex suspected this past secret about my life, and I observed how eager she was to leave me if she had found out it's true. I however managed to convince her I am clean, but we later separated over a minor issue.

If you find the love of your life, she/he will understand. But if you suspect she/he won't, and you don't want to lose her/him, you better keep it secret. And take that unwanted feeling of having to keep some dark secrets for the rest of your life, as a punishment to your past dark deeds.

Nah mehn.... but I strongly recommend that if u cant handle the truth dont seek to know,...there is comfort in not knowing..

The Past Is Needed To Understand The Present.