Silentscreamer:
true. lots of peeps get married for selfish reasons..

Sexxkillz:
Truer words have never been spoken.

aameyah:


Sexxkillz, I don't believe this. You sound disillusioned.

Toks2008:
This piece is written as a result of the misconception many people have when it comes to tagging a marital union a scam or potential scam.

Many guys and ladies are still single at very ripe age because they still believe that their intending spouse should love them for "real"(whatever that means) so they always want to be too careful and in the process fall into worse hands..

The stark truth is that there will always be a reason for anyone to be with another regardless of how selfish,lame or wicked it may sound but at the end it is still a legitimate union and the couple could be together till death if the conditions remain favorable so what is the fuss about?

In essence,whatever reason you choose to marry that person is your choice..whether it is because of parental pressure,beauty,sex,money,nationality,fame,power and so on,it remains a valid reason and the other party should either take the risk or back out.

- An unassuming guy woos a rich lady and she says he only wants her money.

-A rich guy sees a lady who wants him and he says it's about his money.

-A Nigerian guy or lady chooses to marry an European or American and they say it's for a green card.

-Even a broke cocky guy will say a lady does not really want him but just love his bedmatics.

Conclusively I will say there is really nothing like scam marriage because most marriages are as a result of selfish interest from both party.

My opinion.

Miladi:
@OP

Words failed you! Marriage can only be scam to those who married for superficial reasons. However, those who married based on good attributes never have reason to assume their marriage as scam.

bossoflife:
Nonsense topic. Read your Bible very well and see what God says about marriage. Instead posting assumption content here. If marriage is a scam remain single for life. Se oti gbo

Toks2008:


Marrying for true attributes in itself is a scam...why not marry a prostitute or a criminal?

And if you read my conclusion,i reiterated that no marriage is really a scam because there must always be a selfish reason behind any marriage.

SmartyPants:


Marriage should always be about something much more genuine than the ephemeral. And that is why it is always more natural to gravitate towards people within your social class.There are so so so so so many cases where people of comparable economic status have gotten married simply because of each other, and the marriage works.

Btw what is your goal in airing this opinion of yours? Its not everything that passes through your mind that must pass out of your mouth.

Toks2008:


Marrying for true attributes in itself is a scam...why not marry a prostitute or a criminal?

And if you read my conclusion,i reiterated that no marriage is really a scam because there must always be a selfish reason behind any marriage.

Toks2008:


As i wrote, this thread was not written for frontpage and i did not intend getting it out here but for whatever reason it is here i guess some will find sense in it and some will see it as vague.

Nevertheless i believe it is insightful enough...BTw DID YOU REALLY READ THROUGH OR YOU JUST READ FEW WORDS?

claremont:
Good points here.

Most men go into it for regular free sex, most women do it for material returns. It has always been a symbiotic relationship.

Toks2008:
This piece is written as a result of the misconception many people have when it comes to tagging a marital union a scam or potential scam.

Many guys and ladies are still single at very ripe age because they still believe that their intending spouse should love them for "real"(whatever that means) so they always want to be too careful and in the process fall into worse hands..

The stark truth is that there will always be a reason for anyone to be with another regardless of how selfish,lame or wicked it may sound but at the end it is still a legitimate union and the couple could be together till death if the conditions remain favorable so what is the fuss about?

In essence,whatever reason you choose to marry that person is your choice..whether it is because of parental pressure,beauty,sex,money,nationality,fame,power and so on,it remains a valid reason and the other party should either take the risk or back out.

- An unassuming guy woos a rich lady and she says he only wants her money.

-A rich guy sees a lady who wants him and he says it's about his money.

-A Nigerian guy or lady chooses to marry an European or American and they say it's for a green card.

-Even a broke cocky guy will say a lady does not really want him but just love his bedmatics.

Conclusively I will say there is really nothing like scam marriage because most marriages are as a result of selfish interest from both party.

My opinion.

Toks2008:



You are a troll lady so just negodu.

I went through your hypocritical thread pretending you are not the one involved but psychologically it is so clear you wrote about yourself.

Get this straight for the last time. almost all if not all marriages are scam and even your marriage is a big big scam.

How does it become a scam if a lady feels she cant marry a poor guy?

ITS HER FREAKING CHOICE and same way you come up attacking me because i defended a guy who married a lady and latter brke up after getting a green card...does that nullify thousands of Nigerians who are married happily to foreign ladies even years after getting their green card?

Cant you see how confused you are?

eyinjuege:


Your reason is still selfish whether you decide to stick to your vows or not.
You want to marry her to take your business to greater heights?
That's one of the commonest, most selfish reasons for marriage. What's the difference between that and marrying your child off to secure your political or financial dynasty? There's even no difference between that and those who marry for green card, because some are faithful to their vows.
You see a lot of the children of the rich or royalty marry each other without coercion for this same reasons, and of course they always intend to stay faithful.
The guys/women that marry others for money do so with the intention of staying faithful else they lose the butter for their bread.

FortuneTeller:


So it's now I am writing about myself? It's now my marriage is a scam? Do you see how the scammer turns things around. He comes as an armed robber yelling "Teef Teef" against the innocent. Ka chi fo!

Prince16:

Lolz.
Well d earlier EVERYONE
realises dt NO ONE marries 4 #selfless reasons, d better 4 all!

There is(are ) alway(s) a reason(s)4 marriage: either 4 procreation, #free sex, loneliness, "gold", beauty ,security etc.
Why does d average guy not get married to any lady he meets? Why must it be 'her'? And 2 d lady, why, out of d numerous suitors ,did u agree 2 marry dt particular guy?

Even The Lord Jesus Christ got wedded to d church for 'eternal life' sake.

(Romans 7:4 KJV) Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ; that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God.

(2 Corinthians 11:2 KJV) For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.

conclusion: There is Always a reason behind every action we take. No action is random. The Lord gave his life on d cross not for show-bolting sake. He had a reason! [John 3:16]
Thanks

Prince16:

Lolz.
Well d earlier EVERYONE
realises dt NO ONE marries 4 #selfless reasons, d better 4 all!

There is(are ) alway(s) a reason(s)4 marriage: either 4 procreation, #free sex, loneliness, "gold", beauty ,security etc.
Why does d average guy not get married to any lady he meets? Why must it be 'her'? And 2 d lady, why, out of d numerous suitors ,did u agree 2 marry dt particular guy?

Even The Lord Jesus Christ got wedded to d church for 'eternal life' sake.

(Romans 7:4 KJV) Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ; that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God.

(2 Corinthians 11:2 KJV) For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.

conclusion: There is Always a reason behind every action we take. No action is random. The Lord gave his life on d cross not for show-bolting sake. He had a reason! [John 3:16]
Thanks

Miladi:


You amuse me. Any sane and sound person knows that there's nothing "selfish" in one being conscientious. Words has failed you many a time.

There's no gain in being myopic OK, so stop being conceited - conceit is God's gift to little people.

ILuvGummyBearz:
no but itz not for the faint hearted