u beta run for ur dear life
does it mean that there r no single guys without baggages?

Babe, I doubt you are looking for advise here. Every of your line is leaning towards this guy while every other poster here is angling on the opposite.
Beta clear your eye. Your guy is like an accidented Dangote truck that leaves trails of mishap wherever it goes.

orisirisi

TheArchangel:
Babe, I doubt you are looking for advise here. Every of your line is leaning towards this guy while every other poster here is angling on the opposite.
Beta clear your eye. Your guy is like an accidented Dangote truck that leaves trails of mishap wherever it goes.

Im trying to be neutral. my friend is following too. she needs to be sure the people advising her really understand.

silverr:

Im trying to be neutral. my friend is following too. she needs to be sure the people advising her really understand.

Understand what
Dis guy has a long list of BEWARE OF ELECTROCUTION warnings written all over him.
Let me tell you sincerely, a nairaland family members would've commented a good thing about him from your write-ups if there is any, but unfortunately there isn't.
Impregnating and having children from three different women at 34 reeks of the highest form of irresponsibility without mincing word.
A guy that cannot use condoms on random girls is not worthy of a side glance from a decent lady. He did it thrice, which ultimately makes his a serial cheater/ adulterer. No wonder the first wife ran without looking back.
Let your friend go at her on peril.

His ex wife took 80% of his wealth after the divorce. In Nigeria?
Tell me another story.

Dude is a broke scam artiste who knows how to manipulate women into spending money on him. then when they realize he's full of stories, the relationships go south. Those play boys know how to give the appearance of wealth when they don't even have shishi in their accounts. Let her not be fooled.

Your friend is already setting up office for him in V.I. Lmao.

cococandy:
His ex wife took 80% of his wealth after the divorce. In Nigeria?
Tell me another story.

Dude is a broke scam artiste who knows how to manipulate women into spending money on him. then when they realize he's full of stories, the relationships go south. Those play boys know how to give the appearance of wealth when they don't even have shishi in their accounts. Let her not be fooled.

Your friend is already setting up office for him in V.I. Lmao.

The guy is good, i give him an A+

silverr:

well, he's patient. jovial.matured and kinda romantic thats what i mean by perfect character

LMAO. No comment abeg.

Forgive me, but to even consider such a person at a young age speaks volume of your self-esteem and ability to make sustainable choices (except of course, you're marrying him for financial or political reasons).

people never change, they may stop for some time but they still go back to who they were before.

I am very sure he said the same things and did the same things to his three baby mamas
PS: Your friend should really read ON BECOMING by Toke Makinwa.

My friend stop lying, there is no friend here you are the one who is desperate and determined to marry this lying manipulative man.
So three women are evil and you are a saint


The good part about this is that you will marry him or when he finishes using you and Dumps you, he will give worse tales of you to other women.

I don't buy the stupid set up story.

You keep coming up with excuses and justifications, go ahead abeg.

It is women like you that make men Call us fish brain.


Shebi you read the story of a girlfriend murdered by her boyfriend and thrown in a soakaway. This same man's wife ran away due to violence but he told the girlfriend that the wife was a cheat and the lady was helping him share this story till she became a recipient and ended up in a soakaway pit.

3 women, 4 children yet none stayed with him you are busy using money that you could have used for landed property or to buy small sense to open a shop for him.

Abeg close this thread and go and marry him let us hear word, you will be back with another ID in a few months asking what to do about a lying, cheating manipulative man after " all I have done for him"

Let him pick one out of the 3 women that have kids for him. Human beings are wicked o. Imagine the kind of baggage he wants to pack on a single and young girl!!! After messing his life up. You better go and find a single man or a man with at the most one child. How can you even trust the judgment or faithfulness of a man with multiple kids from multiple women. Who is single and ready to mingle. Buhahahaha. You better don't rely on your stupid tests to prove this guy is worth it. Even a mentally handicapped person will be able to tell that he was being tested. Smh.

Eketem:
My friend stop lying, there is no friend here you are the one who is desperate and determined to marry this lying manipulative man.
So three women are evil and you are a saint


The good part about this is that you will marry him or when he finishes using you and Dumps you, he will give worse tales of you to other women.

I don't buy the stupid set up story.

You keep coming up with excuses and justifications, go ahead abeg.

It is women like you that make men Call us fish brain.


Shebi you read the story of a girlfriend murdered by her boyfriend and thrown in a soakaway. This same man's wife ran away due to violence but he told the girlfriend that the wife was a cheat and the lady was helping him share this story till she became a recipient and ended up in a soakaway pit.

3 women, 4 children yet none stayed with him you are busy using money that you could have used for landed property or to buy small sense to open a shop for him.

Abeg close this thread and go and marry him let us hear word, you will be back with another ID in a few months asking what to do about a lying, cheating manipulative man after " all I have done for him"

lol, nawa o,no be fight nau
Like i said earlier, I dont want it to be like I camw and painted him black for people to condem him.

merry xmas

Its obvious the guy is rich and the girl can't help but marry him. Enjoy your marriage. #girlsandmoney.

silverr:

lol, nawa o,no be fight nau
Like i said earlier, I dont want it to be like I camw and painted him black for people to condem him.

merry xmas

So you're the one not your friend?

I thought that for a minute

Some girls and thier fish brain sef! 3 babymamas and married to none? He is a good liar and using you. Read ON BECOMING by Toke makiwa

I don't know why Annie idibia didn't come online to ask for advice before she married 2 face.
If she loves the guy, then she should go ahead and marry him..
Kini big deal

cococandy:

So you're the one not your friend?

I thought that for a minute

U a lawyer?

4 kids from 3 different women? 3 different baby mamas?

The moment I hear that,
just call me Usain Bolt b/c I'm gone...

I thought: if this guy has not changed as he said, why did he tell her of his past? Couldnt he have continued to keep her in the dark? It might seem that everyone is missing this fact Nope. here are the answers i came up with:
1. He was afraid she could find out later esp when they begin to prepare for marriage.
2. He used it to substantiate his past riches story.
Op, at what point did your friend know of his past riches since she didn't know he was married from the onset?
Let her request to meet this guy's family, in order to clear her eyes. I don't think he is from any 'OK' family as he said, whatever that means - and his background will say a lot about his person. Dont listen to any attemt to explain it away.Me self once nearly enter one chance before I marry. Your friend should be careful at this time, let her not rely on her own judgement AT ALL. God bless.

cococandy:
His ex wife took 80% of his wealth after the divorce. In Nigeria?
Tell me another story.

Dude is a broke scam artiste who knows how to manipulate women into spending money on him. then when they realize he's full of stories, the relationships go south. Those play boys know how to give the appearance of wealth when they don't even have shishi in their accounts. Let her not be fooled.

Your friend is already setting up office for him in V.I. Lmao.

The guy in question sounds like Maje, Toke's ex.

They are both smooth.

Even if the 3 girls are terrible and he is a saint, doesn't it question his sense of judgement?

Merry Christmas dear

bukatyne:


The guy in question sounds like Maje, Toke's ex.

They are both smooth.

Even if the 3 girls are terrible and he is a saint, doesn't it question his sense of judgement?

Merry Christmas dear

Tell me about it.


Merry Christmas too dear. Best wishes.

Doctorfitz:




U a lawyer?

no. Why?

cococandy:
no. Why?

Ur dp it's background .

Doctorfitz:





Ur dp it's background .

oh.
It simply means no solicitors welcome. i.e sellers/marketers

@Silverr,

I have just one question before I can give my opinion. Your honest and truthful answer will be appreciated.

When did this man in question repents or was he the one that told you he is God fearing?

bellong:
@Silverr,

I have just one question before I can give my opinion. Your honest and truthful answer will be appreciated.

When did this man in question repents or was he the one that told you he is God fearing?

well, my friend re-converted him to christ 6months ago

boladale:
I thought: if this guy has not changed as he said, why did he tell her of his past? Couldnt he have continued to keep her in the dark? It might seem that everyone is missing this fact Nope. here are the answers i came up with:
1. He was afraid she could find out later esp when they begin to prepare for marriage.
2. He used it to substantiate his past riches story.
Op, at what point did your friend know of his past riches since she didn't know he was married from the onset?
Let her request to meet this guy's family, in order to clear her eyes. I don't think he is from any 'OK' family as he said, whatever that means - and his background will say a lot about his person. Dont listen to any attemt to explain it away.Me self once nearly enter one chance before I marry. Your friend should be careful at this time, let her not rely on her own judgement AT ALL. God bless.

I dont know how to answer this question o before someone says that I'm defending him,

This story is just going up and down.
Are you sure it's not made up?

He can afford a car for someone else but needed to be set up for his office in lekki?

silverr:


I dont know how to answer this question o before someone says that I'm defending him,
Anyway, he is still very okay financially, he just told her that he used to have far more. Plus his family members she has met so far are all boxed up.

Like I said earlier, I didn't go too deep as I didnt want to offend my friends or the guy. Plus you never can tell who is reading, so when questions began to pop up, I just had to shed a little more light.
He actually bought her a car on her birthday but she returned as she feels he shouldn't be making such expenses when he should be re-investing. But I feel she's now the one overspending.

silverr:


well, my friend re-converted him to christ 6months ago

No man can convert anyone really. 6 months is still way too short to know what's up his sleeves. I have heard and seen people who pretended to be changed for long before showing their true colour when they got what they want.

The only constant in life is change. A very bad person can turn out to be a really good person in the long run. The fact that this person has changed completely for better cannot be overruled as I cannot read his heart nor do I know him. However, some questions to ponder and deep thinking that requires your friend/you to think about.

Bible says "though hand join in hand, a sinner cannot go unpunished". Every man will face the consequences of the evil seed down in the past whether converted or not. This guy is 34, he already put three ladies in life time emotional turmoil, do you think there wouldn't be consequences?

He claimed the ladies are bad but we don't know the story of the other ladies. If they are truly bad, then his sense of character judgement needs serious questioning.

Left to me, no matter how changed such a man is, I will not put myself in a position of regret in future when I have to deal with too many baggage he comes with and consequences of his decisions.

Nevertheless, when it comes to relationship, I believe He that created the institution of marriage should have the final say. Scratch whatever Pastor tells you. You must be able to hear God yourself. Whatever Pastor says should be a confirmation of what you know. If you don't have that depth to identify God's leading on this issue, you probably have to be patient, get people of character, honest, godly and spirit filled to pray together while baring your heart sincerely to God. I trust God to answer you.

But going by what you wrote, I sense trouble lingers for your friend in the future when he gets what he wants.

My one cent, tell her to zip up and if possible put an iron and steel gate in between her legs.

Cock and bul story at its finest ... He's rich , he's not okay , he bought her a car, she rented an office for him in vi , bla bla bla ,,,, auntie Abeg take several seats ... It's too early to be hallucinating , smh

Its well