Twaci:
Not an easy option, but I'd advise that you keep the child. You might have made a couple of mistakes but I assure you that the child isn't one.

If you don't want to tell your ex, fine. But the truth cannot be hidden for long...

Not to sound like a jerk but you are already a single mother, what's going to change if you add another? You've already been burnt by the fires of stigmatization, what more will the world do to get under your skin? Nothing that you can't handle.

Lastly, be careful next time.

thorpido:
Why is he an ex if you still meet up with him?
I know it's a hard decision to make but keep the baby.You could decide to tell your ex or keep it away from him but somewhere,someday he will find out.
I hope you have a regular source of income so the kid doesn't suffer.

bbmpin:
The most important thing right now is the "supposed future" for the child

What "should really" matter to you is the child's future once he/she is born. Are its chances of a safe, secure future high enough?

Personally i would advice you to do the abortion, Don't bring an innocent soul into this world to suffer

If you are "sure" that the father will not be responsible don't keep it.

Its a publicly known fact that Dysfunctional homes and the improper Upbringings that it creates have an adverse effect on the children (mentally and socially)

Having said that ....... The choice is yours but think about the future of that "innocent child"

I wish you much strength and much wisdom.

Bobmaintain:
@troubledheart... The earlier you tell your baby daddy about your preggy, the better for you! You can't make a sole decision of keeping or aborting that baby - not alone. No matter how his reaction would be, i advise that you pick up the phone right now and break the news to him! Do it now! Don't wait till the next minute! I know what I'm saying!

bbmpin:

I see!

Bringing an innocent child into this world to suffer just because "you" want to protect a "religiously incentivized moral sanity"

Got nothing against being "moral" but when it's blinds your will to empathize then its questionable

Think about that child and the kind of life he/she will live in this world

No love from the father, dysfunctional home: I don't need to be a psychologist to understand that such upbringings lead to damaging consequences

Look at it this way he or she will most likely become an unruly individual that will cause harm to multiple people

There are many "abortions should have beens" out there, lets be real!

troubledheart:


Recent ex.
I must have conceived before the actual breakup. It's not really a question of him wanting the child, I know if I insist and throw lil tantrums,he will support me. But we broke up because he couldn't see a future for us.. then bringing this up to him would make it appear like am trying to trap him with pregnancy knowing fully well his stance about kids out of wedlock.. I don't want to force him to be with me because of this and in the end having an unhappy home, hence my decision to abort. And no, I can't take care of another child on my own.

troubledheart:

You won't understand..

Bobmaintain:


Why couldn't he see a future with you? Because you are a single mum?
Could it be that he was just using you to satisfy his sexual urge for the mean time!
Mehn! You could have seen it coming!

troubledheart:


I honestly didn't see it coming.. we were friends for almost two years, he asked me out for over 8months, I kept him in a friend zone because I wasn't mentally ready for a relationship.. we dated now for roughly a year.. the truth is I don't know how to be tough in a relationship.. that's why I often take my time before getting into one.. he said things like am too good for him and he wants the best for me, I need to get married in at most a year or two and he won't be ready in another five or more and he doesn't want to tie me down cos he is not certain of the future. So I can't really say if he was using Me or not cos I don't in any way look like anyone's mother.

Twaci:
My opinion has nothing to do with religion. What I'm just trying to say is; if she's able to go through whatever she went through for the first child and raised him/her to this point, I do not see why this second child shouldn't be offered the same chance.

DarkRebel101:
[b]You claim you can handle the truth, yet the only comment you seem to fancy on this thread was the one which advised that you opt for an abortion on the basis of you lacking the wherewithal to provide for the unborn child.

No, no...you can't handle the truth. You have your mind already made up, and you're merely fishing for validation. Your wish is to abort the baby.

If you knew you didn't have the means to cater for a second child, then why did you spread your legs in the first place? Did you not learn any lesson from your first mistake?

And of all the guys, you decided it was an ex-boyfriend you had to roll in the sack with—an ex-boyfriend you can't even confront with the news of your pregnancy for only God knows why.

Oh well, you have to dance to the music, and you mustn't abort the child. Life is precious—if you cannot understand that, then perhaps you are not even worthy to be called a mother.

I'm not judging you, but screwing around and depriving your children the chance to live a normal life with both their biological father and mother is not the very best of ideas.

I wonder why people would upset the balance in their lives just for 15-25 minutes of sexual pleasure.[/b]

bbmpin:
Take into consideration the fact that she is a single mother and is possibly struggling to feed the first!

She has a life ahead of her, How does having another fatherless child aid her future?

Do you have a child?
Do you have any idea the demands it entails?
Do you think that it is logical for a child to be born fatherless?

Committing an innocent child to a future without promise or love is wrong!

You have every right to air and stand by your opinions but try to empathize things from the view of the child

If you can't love and provide for kids DON'T HAVE THEM! #think about the child.

DarkRebel101:
[b]You claim you can handle the truth, yet the only comment you seem to fancy on this thread was the one which advised that you opt for an abortion on the basis of you lacking the wherewithal to provide for the unborn child.

No, no...you can't handle the truth. You have your mind already made up, and you're merely fishing for validation. Your wish is to abort the baby.

If you knew you didn't have the means to cater for a second child, then why did you spread your legs in the first place? Did you not learn any lesson from your first mistake?

And of all the guys, you decided it was an ex-boyfriend you had to roll in the sack with—an ex-boyfriend you can't even confront with the news of your pregnancy for only God knows why.

Oh well, you have to dance to the music, and you mustn't abort the child. Life is precious—if you cannot understand that, then perhaps you are not even worthy to be called a mother.

I'm not judging you, but screwing around and depriving your children the chance to live a normal life with both their biological father and mother is not the very best of ideas.

I wonder why people would upset the balance in their lives just for 15-25 minutes of sexual pleasure.[/b]

Twaci:
Dude seems like you are screaming

Easy there

Troubledheart, I'll use his words now;
If you can't love and provide for kids DON'T HAVE THEM! #think about the child

...but if you can, why waste it?

aflyingbird:
Yup , she's only looking at posts she agrees with . I suggested adoption buh I guess she doesn't want dat

troubledheart:


I honestly didn't see it coming.. we were friends for almost two years, he asked me out for over 8months, I kept him in a friend zone because I wasn't mentally ready for a relationship.. we dated now for roughly a year.. the truth is I don't know how to be tough in a relationship.. that's why I often take my time before getting into one.. he said things like am too good for him and he wants the best for me, I need to get married in at most a year or two and he won't be ready in another five or more and he doesn't want to tie me down cos he is not certain of the future. So I can't really say if he was using Me or not cos I don't in any way look like anyone's mother.

bennyrazz:
the thing dey sweet, hin dey sweet, belle No 1 enter, u born am. We gree say na mistake. The thing still kan sweet sotey, u spread ur leg again sotey, u receive belle No 2 without being married. Well, the bitter truth is you wanted it that way so why complaining? Abegiii the way u carried belle No 1 for 9months, get ready to carry belle No 2 for 9months. U don successful turn yourself to a professional single mother. Very soon, u fit even start surrogacy sef cuz u are very potent. The result of too much love for sex is what is disturbing you @op. I wish you safe delivery byeeeee

troubledheart:

I've never been pregnant outside that till now. I've been super careful.. this pregnancy remains a mystery to me.

bennyrazz:
the thing dey sweet, hin dey sweet, belle No 1 enter, u born am. We gree say na mistake. The thing still kan sweet sotey, u spread ur leg again sotey, u receive belle No 2 without being married. Well, the bitter truth is you wanted it that way so why complaining? Abegiii the way u carried belle No 1 for 9months, get ready to carry belle No 2 for 9months. U don successful turn yourself to a professional single mother. Very soon, u fit even start surrogacy sef cuz u are very potent. The result of too much love for sex is what is disturbing you @op. I wish you safe delivery byeeeee

Bobmaintain:
@troubledheart... If i may ask: how about your family? Your parents and siblings? Have you confided in them? Can't they be able to support? Are you working? How old are you now?
Answers to these questions will help us have a clear picture of what you are really into and what we can proffer.