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Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by jojothaiv(m): 1:14am On Jan 04, 2017 |
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Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by Quintessential1(f): 1:41am On Jan 04, 2017 |
YourCoffin: Your moniker is creepy. Deactivate and open another account with a better moniker. |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by chiraqDemon(m): 1:57am On Jan 04, 2017 |
Im glad my mom kept me n didnt throw me out when my dad abandoned me Now im good wit it Only problem is that im too romantic n idk why girla just dont like me for that.....and if i fall in love then im hooked and i find it real hard to give it up My life has not been so rosy in terms of relationships |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by kikayboss(m): 2:19am On Jan 04, 2017 |
Catalin:some people worry about things like this you know....am very far from that marriage age but I worry about failing my kids (when I have them tho)....so I feel the solution is I don't get married till I feel I am ready for that father role, might not have kids till I know am ready and that might take a long time...so you should try to put urself in ppls shoes and feel how it hurts 2 Likes |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by kateskitty(f): 3:02am On Jan 04, 2017 |
Haute:Judge me all you want. That just shows your lack of intelligence. Where I come from kitty also means bank or savings and not only pussy like where your dirty, dumb mind is thinking about. |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by Josephamstrong1(m): 4:59am On Jan 04, 2017 |
kateskitty: U remind me of Keke Palmer. Go check ur linage. Mind u, u can have wat u never had...by so doin, u then give wat u have. cah-PEE-shee? |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by kaywhy09(m): 5:01am On Jan 04, 2017 |
"He told me that doesn't remember any bit about any 'reasonable' time spent with his real dad or mom before he lost them at his teens age". I understand this guy so very much. His temperament have played key role in his actions. Only victims can understand him. But, if he allows his life to be ruled by his negative past, he can never reach out to his colourful future and too much worry will make him feel sorry always. He should get good books about temperament, personality and relationship. He should take his time to get a partner suit for his kind. Above all, he should be closer to God. He'll make a good home. |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by Josephamstrong1(m): 5:07am On Jan 04, 2017 |
kateskitty: Lol, u see naa...just b4 I quoted u. Exactly same replied Keke Palmer gave to Jeremy Jordan. Find out the movie...lol Better go look for ur sister. |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by Blessograo(f): 5:59am On Jan 04, 2017 |
Justdulla:I think he has to spend more time is a God fearing family. Probably watch his pastor's family and try as much as possible to understand why some sacrifices are made, he should look around him and try to take note of the reasons men wants a woman to be happy excluding the sexual part of it. Try to look at what and why mother's fight strangers for their kids and take note of a father -daughter relationship, mother -son relationship, brother - brother and Sister -brother. The first one which is father - daughter relationship is more important to him cos that will help him know how and why ladies are treated the way they are. He should also get a lady with good home training and full of respect then put himself up to a task that no matter what happens the relationship should get to a year at least. With all these he will understand family ties. |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by humurphia(m): 6:22am On Jan 04, 2017 |
and I thought this phobia only happened in movies (hollywood) |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by citadels(f): 6:28am On Jan 04, 2017 |
he needs a serious counselling and prayers. a love therapies that will talk into him..i may suggest one for him if you guys are interested ooo. thank you |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by Alexk2(m): 6:31am On Jan 04, 2017 |
Oloniyan: He must stop living in the past...he must stop the self pity state and move on from what he can't change. The difference between president Obama and your friend is the way they choose to react to their common childhood challenges. What had happened Is a fixed deposit, he must stop blaming his parents or grandparents for that; it's time for him to forgive them, forgive himself and move on. To tell you the truth, your friend stand a better chance of being a better parent and husband than those who grew up in a loving family because he is the one with a real life experience; he know what not to do and he know how to do it better than others but his problem lies in "living in the past"....if we don't forget the past; our tommorow cannot come. His life will start afresh only when he choose and determine To move on! 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by toprealman: 6:33am On Jan 04, 2017 |
OP, you or/and your friend are not ready for marriage. You know why. |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by davidif: 7:02am On Jan 04, 2017 |
kateskitty: Preach!!!!!! |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by Bubblewitch: 7:14am On Jan 04, 2017 |
Justdulla:don't yab Nl babes again ooo |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by mzcheekie(f): 7:35am On Jan 04, 2017 |
finally, m A nairalander... 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by YourCoffin: 7:44am On Jan 04, 2017 |
Quintessential1: Yes ma. Don't worry you are safe with the moniker. |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by Quintessential1(f): 7:50am On Jan 04, 2017 |
YourCoffin: Hmm. |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by Akexstinger(m): 7:58am On Jan 04, 2017 |
Hmmm....the guy should upgrade his spuntus. What's his financial and schedule status? Is he doing well and also very be busy? If NO, don't worry, when he's got something doing, he will be the one to tell you that relationship is so sweet. He doesn't wanna commit. We have several persons with similar stories that are married happily and some in sweet n sexy relationship. The guy de find how e wan tey bobo you enter your pant. |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by eazyraw(m): 8:03am On Jan 04, 2017 |
[color=#990000][/color][b][/b] may god help u |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by YourCoffin: 8:09am On Jan 04, 2017 |
Quintessential1: On the contrary, If I change it what's my reward? |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by Quintessential1(f): 8:20am On Jan 04, 2017 |
YourCoffin: Lol. I'll say a heartfelt prayer for you. |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by YourCoffin: 8:31am On Jan 04, 2017 |
Quintessential1: I have prayers that can last me for 50yrs. I can suggest you upload a profile pic. Gotta satisfy some curiosity. |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by Ayinke93(f): 8:32am On Jan 04, 2017 |
First thing I noticed abt your friend is his good intentions. He's avoiding marriage so he won't fail. That's a good one on his part.But I've seen and heard abt more emotionally damaged persons who have great marriages because of their conscious efforts on their parts to improve. Your friend needs a counsellor, he also needs to read alot of books about marriage and family. Infact some people who grew in family settings still don't have the capacity to hold down a family but if he can develop himself properly he'll do better than them. Lastly your friend needs a woman who will love and understand him. That's the most important part because if he doesn't get the right woman, He has to choose his wofe carefully because a bad woman will frustrate all his efforts. |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by Quintessential1(f): 8:32am On Jan 04, 2017 |
YourCoffin: Prayers never get too much. My pic doesn't come any close to what a heartfelt prayer would do. |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by YourCoffin: 8:42am On Jan 04, 2017 |
Quintessential1: I'm the reciever you know so I ought to be the judge of that. But if you say prayers said together in a private room, I will agree. Is that how you would like to say the prayer? |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by rubypearlz(f): 9:04am On Jan 04, 2017 |
ur frnd shld find a lady dat has gone thru something similar, cos she will give him d care nd love nd support dat he needs 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by Raymonbell(m): 9:05am On Jan 04, 2017 |
Tell your friend to read" The road less traveled" by Scot Peck It's a wonderful book and I believe he will learn alot from it. Talking from experience |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by Quintessential1(f): 9:07am On Jan 04, 2017 |
YourCoffin: Lmao... This is my cue to bolt! |
Re: Help! My Friend Is Afraid Of Getting Married by decub: 9:20am On Jan 04, 2017 |
Catalin:Environmental influence is as strong as genes. Remember, there are certain people who are natural introverts, and without a social/loving background, it could be something else. Oloniyan:One thing I feel that would go a long way is getting used to family life and care. He has to learn no matter how little he can. In as much as he is somewhat cold to women, he should be free with his relatives/folks, hence, the reason mingling amongst those he is used to would go a long way. Justdulla: |
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