engrobidigbo:
Women get confused when faced with such dilemma because they don't know the power they possess.

The following facts give her a strength when faced with such situation;
1) She's a wife to the man, thus got the keys to his heart
2) She's a daughter to the older man; and we know how men and their daughters get so bonded, sometimes they have stronger bonds
with their daughters than their wife; hence, she's also got the key to his heart.

A woman is married into a family to further unite the home and not break it. If she takes any of th options you gave @op, she'll further tear up her relationship with the other person she didn't cling to.

If i were the woman, I'll yell at both my husband and dad and warn them to stop acting like kids. They'll be shell shocked at your reaction. Next, get them both to sit and talk some sense into them. If they refuse to listen and try to turn the table against you like your dad saying "did you just shout at me?"", then use the cry blackmail tool in your software (all women have this ). Cry that they don't love you that's why they want to destroy you by fighting and quarrelling.

engrobidigbo:
Women get confused when faced with such dilemma because they don't know the power they possess.

The following facts give her a strength when faced with such situation;
1) She's a wife to the man, thus got the keys to his heart
2) She's a daughter to the older man; and we know how men and their daughters get so bonded, sometimes they have stronger bonds with their daughters than their wife; hence, she's also got the key to his heart.

A woman is married into a family to further unite the home and not break it. If she takes any of th options you gave @op, she'll further tear up her relationship with the other person she didn't cling to.

If i were the woman, I'll yell at both my husband and dad and warn them to stop acting like kids. They'll be shell shocked at your reaction. Next, get them both to sit and talk some sense into them. If they refuse to listen and try to turn the table against you like your dad saying "did you just shout at me?"", then use the cry blackmail tool in your software (all women have this ). Cry that they don't love you that's why they want to destroy you by fighting and quarrelling.

obstead200:

@ the bolded. He is not the only man in the world. Oya let the wife try to go and marry another husband na. She will understand the meaning of second hand value and bad market

Alezy:
Answers to this question shows we have only very few wise ladies in the house.

delishpot:


What do you consider wise?

Benita27:
Simple.
Hubby says "get in the car".
Daddy says "sit down".
I will simply walk away.

PaperLace:
Whatever. My father is my father, husband is husband.

delishpot:


So in your entire life, you have never seen a woman with kids marry again? You are too childish calling a woman second hand because she has once married. The world has advanced beyound your reasoning. No one is forcing you to marry her. A woman is better being single than being with a closed minded an like you, who considers her worthless because she was once married to you.Hence she can never find happiness if she leaves. She has only one father, but can marry many men. Just as your wife can not expect you to dump your mom over her . Stop behaving like a child.

obstead200:
that is, assuming u will ever be allowed to enter ur husband's house again.
This is Africa. As long as u are married, ur husband must come first (only in everything that is right and just oooo, as long as u are not asked to commit an atrocity).
Most husbands see this as a perfect opportunity to send a woman packing, especially if there are no kids to take into consideration.
If u remain in ur fathers house for such a flimsy reason, trust me, in the eyes of everyone in Africa, the shame is urs.
Hell even ur dad will feel ashamed when his anger subsides. He might end up swallowing his shame for ur sake and sending emissaries to beg ur husband.

PaperLace:

Na dowry you pay , you no buy me.
My father and family first, followed by my children...

engrobidigbo:
Women get confused when faced with such dilemma because they don't know the power they possess.

The following facts give her a strength when faced with such situation;
1) She's a wife to the man, thus got the keys to his heart
2) She's a daughter to the older man; and we know how men and their daughters get so bonded, sometimes they have stronger bonds with their daughters than their wife; hence, she's also got the key to his heart.

A woman is married into a family to further unite the home and not break it. If she takes any of th options you gave @op, she'll further tear up her relationship with the other person she didn't cling to.

If i were the woman, I'll yell at both my husband and dad and warn them to stop acting like kids. They'll be shell shocked at your reaction. Next, get them both to sit and talk some sense into them. If they refuse to listen and try to turn the table against you like your dad saying "did you just shout at me?"", then use the cry blackmail tool in your software (all women have this ). Cry that they don't love you that's why they want to destroy you by fighting and quarrelling.

LaylaAli:


You can't talk for me and mine, but you can talk for you and yours. Africa is a continent with many different cultures and countries and what works in your little corner of Africa isn't what happens all over. Our culture and traditional beliefs wouldn't accept my husband to shout at my father 1. Secondly, only a disrespectful low life would shout at his father in law and I wouldn't pick such a man. My father is ex army man so trust me he would send men that would not be begging! Basically, what I'm trying to say is speak for yourself! Not me.

PaperLace:
No man on this earth comes before my father.

Sanchez01:

This is too unrealistic. You would shout at two angry men and expect them to listen to you?

A wise woman in this scenario would understand that he is answerable to just one man here and that is the husband. As funny as it might sound, it's the truth. The father had handed her over, or should I say married her off. Men enjoy their ego being massaged even when many would tend to say otherwise. A funny attempt at not listening to him might impact the home there and then. A resolution could come after the issue had died and it is expected that the woman push for it.

But then again, it doesn't really make sense to see a father and her son-in-law argue to no end that both of them would issue contrary instructions just to prove nothing.

Pray:
Too much telemundo, zeeworld, nollywood and hollywood.

Drabrah:


Wake up frm ur dream!
My dear, there're fathers & there're fathers and there're husbands & there're husbands.
This ur theory does not hold for every family.

haryomikun:

See blackmailer

LastMumu:

Me nko?


Any woman who watches and does nothing while her husband shouts at her father should be regarded as nothing but a bastard. All these hypocritical men quoting you left and right to yarn opata would never ever condone any woman, let alone their wives disrespecting their mums. All those talks about husbands having the absolute authority over their wives is nothing but archaic bullshit.
Men holding these 15th century school of thought forget that one day, they would move from husbands to becoming fathers too.
Then they will understand how it feels when their own daughter takes side with her husband while watching her husband shout down on them.

engrobidigbo:


If only you understand the strength of a woman, you won't write what you wrote!

Women can turn the game against you with the cheapest blackmail tactics....

Women can mould and foster peace with a mere smile and shear strength, or they can destroy a home in a sec with their own hands....

The scenario i gave is tested and trusted!!!

engrobidigbo:
Women get confused when faced with such dilemma because they don't know the power they possess.

The following facts give her a strength when faced with such situation;
1) She's a wife to the man, thus got the keys to his heart
2) She's a daughter to the older man; and we know how men and their daughters get so bonded, sometimes they have stronger bonds with their daughters than their wife; hence, she's also got the key to his heart.

A woman is married into a family to further unite the home and not break it. If she takes any of th options you gave @op, she'll further tear up her relationship with the other person she didn't cling to.
You shall live long...God gave u the best brain.

If i were the woman, I'll yell at both my husband and dad and warn them to stop acting like kids. They'll be shell shocked at your reaction. Next, get them both to sit and talk some sense into them. If they refuse to listen and try to turn the table against you like your dad saying "did you just shout at me?"", then use the cry blackmail tool in your software (all women have this ). Cry that they don't love you that's why they want to destroy you by fighting and quarrelling.

YOUNGrapha:
ANUOFIA OLODO

delishpot:


Na you be the only man wey Dey world? Why would you shout at her dad? Would you also be happy to see her shout at your mom?

ChappyChase:

Hahaha haha. Make the man kuku marry him daughter.

Xcelinteriors:
My loving and precious dad. Husband that will go out and sleep with other women, screw husband and he dare not argue with my dad sef shey he dey mad ni?