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are you dating your uncle? what's the age gap?

This one is strong

I think it's best you tell him your mind

Acidosis:
are you dating your uncle? what's the age gap?

hihihihihi good question

Preetiex:
my boyfriend says he loves me he has dis african mentality dat a man is always d head & should be obeyed even telling me i mustnt disobey him, i dont like it wen sum1 try 2 control me but i dont respond sumtimes i dont like 2 argue cos i might say sumtin dat will hurt him. Now i met his family during d new year they are really lovely people & they want 2 meet my family dis year.I want 2 get married but how do i make him see dat couples are partners? If i call it quit wat if d next guy is worst than him, pls help a sis.

Proceed with caution and at your own risk.

My sister, think deeply before saying I do! Marry a friend and not a boss. Marriage is not an easy venture, you need a friend that will give you the freedom to be you and not a controller. Marry your friend and you will enjoy the goodies that comes with marriage but when you marry a boss, I am sorry, the reverse is the case. I wish you all the best as you make your final decision but remember ooooo, it is better to be single and happy than marrying a dictator. All the best my friend

What you no fit take for courtship, sort am out before you marry o as the issue becomes double when you marry. Family no go follow you enter marriage o so tell him your concerns NOW before you say I do as what he does that you don't like can get worse after marriage.

Tell him you won't marry him till he sees/treat you like a partner and not a subordinate.

Don't start what you can't finish.

If you pretend to be cool with his views while dating, then be prepared to equally put up with them for the rest of your married life - assuming you decided to tow that path.

Preetiex:
my boyfriend says he loves me he has dis african mentality dat a man is always d head & should be obeyed even telling me i mustnt disobey him, i dont like it wen sum1 try 2 control me but i dont respond sumtimes i dont like 2 argue cos i might say sumtin dat will hurt him. Now i met his family during d new year they are really lovely people & they want 2 meet my family dis year.I want 2 get married but how do i make him see dat couples are partners? If i call it quit wat if d next guy is worst than him, pls help a sis.

Catalin:
Tell him you won't marry him till he sees/treat you like a partner and not a subordinate.

Thanks so much, i love d guy but i am confused, he says it like he is joking & what if d next guy is much worst than him dat y i dont want 2 quit

Preetiex:
Thanks so much, i love d guy but i am confused, he says it like he is joking & what if d next guy is much worst than him dat y i dont want 2 quit

There will always be fear of not finding a better guy but I assure you that better guys are out there. I use to tell myself that if I break up with him, I won't find a better guy but I still found my dream man. Just exercise patience, don't make the mistake and rush into marriage.

Catalin:
There will always be fear of not finding a better guy but I assure you that better guys are out there. I use to tell myself that if I break up with him, I won't find a better guy but I still found my dream man. Just exercise patience, don't make the mistake and into marriage.

Gbam

Catalin:
There will always be fear of not finding a better guy but I assure you that better guys are out there. I use to tell myself that if I break up with him, I won't find a better guy but I still found my dream man. Just exercise patience, don't make the mistake and into marriage.

Thank u

Life is a risk, there is also the possibility that the next guy would be way sweeter, just keep your mind open to that...
The issue is deciding if this risk would be worth it in the long haul and this, we cannot do for you. Then again, you should know that you don't suddenly feel you can get upset about things you allowed while dating like this one you wrote about.

So it's important you ask yourself these things now!

Preetiex:
my boyfriend says he loves me he has dis african mentality dat a man is always d head & should be obeyed even telling me i mustnt disobey him, i dont like it wen sum1 try 2 control me but i dont respond sumtimes i dont like 2 argue cos i might say sumtin dat will hurt him. Now i met his family during d new year they are really lovely people & they want 2 meet my family dis year.I want 2 get married but how do i make him see dat couples are partners? If i call it quit wat if d next guy is worst than him, pls help a sis.

Why do you want to live with what you don't like@bolded?
He seems to be serious about that aspect of him and it's left for you to accept and live with it or find someone who will respect your views in marriage.Don't think there isn't someone better.

Like someone asked,hope u're not dating your uncle.

thorpido:
Why do you want to live with what you don't like@bolded?
He seems to be serious about that aspect of him and it's left for you to accept and live with it or find someone who will respect your views in marriage.Don't think there isn't someone better.

Like someone asked,hope u're not dating your uncle.

wat with dis uncle stuff,do u xpect me 2 date sum1 younger than me?

There are better and sweet guys...no enter wetin go make you cry. All the best preetiex

Splendblex:
There are better and sweet guys...no enter wetin go make you cry.
All the best preetiex

Thanks

Preetiex:
wat with dis uncle stuff,do u xpect me 2 date sum1 younger than me?

He sounds like he is much older than you.

thorpido:
He sounds like he is much older than you.

yes he is much older

Nothing wrong if he's much older as long as you both love each other.

If he loves you and he's someone you can confide in I'd rather you discuss your fears with him.

Make sure you are very satisfied with everything about his behaviour towards you and his character cum personality before you tie the knot with him.

Don't rush into marriage until your 100% sure that's what you want to do, and that's whom you wanna do it with.

Preetiex:
yes he is much older

We're not wrong afterall.
He's shown you who he really is,especially that aspect of the man taking control and being the decision maker in the home.It's left to you to begin to learn to cope with it(I'm assuming you will marry him).

There are better and sweet guys...no enter wetin go make you cry. All the best preetiex.Na im make u no 1 aççept me abi??

Bullet99:
There are better and sweet guys...no enter wetin go make you cry.
All the best preetiex.Na im make u no 1 aççept me abi??

nawa for u o

Preetiex:
yes he is much older

So did you marry him?

Let me advice you as my sister,that man you're talking about is a wolf in sheep clothing,it will not take long before he start beating you!!.
The gap between the two of you,though age is a number but consider this, can you be comfortable staying by him in 10years time and still be faithful to him!,Finally my sister I don't know how desperate you needed a husband but believe me there are more decent men out there who will cherish you more than what you think this man is,Stay Bless.

Prognose:


So did you marry him?

nope