Nicely put@Acidosis
This is the first time I've agreed to your posts sha.

Mznaett:
Nicely put@Acidosis
This is the first time I've agreed to your posts sha.

Acidosis:

True talk bro

Mznaett:

True talk bro

I'm surprised sha... that means I talk nonsense most of the time..

Acidosis:


I'm surprised sha... that means I talk nonsense most of the time..

Actually,I have no problem with your posts since there are your opinion.
But to be candid with you,most of your posts sounds childish to me... But you know what? After reading your first comment on this thread,I couldn't help but to admit how beautiful and exceptional those words were

Mznaett:


Actually,I have no problem with your posts since there are your opinion.
But to be candid with you,most of your posts sounds childish to me... But you know what? After reading your first comment on this thread,I couldn't help but to admit how beautiful and exceptional those words were

Hmnn


Thank you

Acidosis:
Hmnn

Thank you

It's nothing sha

Mznaett:

It's nothing sha

Lol

I couldn't say what I had in mind after reading the "childish" compliment.
That's the worst compliment I've gotten in 28 years.

Acidosis:


Lol


I couldn't say what I had in mind after reading the "childish" compliment.

That's the worst compliment I've gotten in 28 years..

Lol
Beside not all words either written or spoken were meant to make us happy now ... I've heard and read worst about me even @37

Mznaett:


Lol
Beside not all words either written or spoken were meant to make us happy now ... I've heard and read worst about me even @37

@37? trying to prove a point?

Acidosis:


@37? trying to prove a point?

Prove a point even@37? No,It's been a long while I stopped doing such. @my age now, I say it the way it is ...
Good Morning

Mznaett:


Prove a point even@37? No,It's been a long while I stopped doing such. @my age now, I say it the way it is ...
Good Morning

Good Morning dear

https://www.nairaland.com/2583112/lecturers-daughter

I would be pleased to attend your 20th birthday...

Acidosis:

Good Morning dear

https://www.nairaland.com/2583112/lecturers-daughter

I would be pleased to attend your 20th birthday...

Hahaha
lwkmd

Now you're going too too far beside my age wasn't even inscribed on that post

.

Mznaett:


Hahaha
lwkmd

Now you're going too too far beside my age wasn't even inscribed on that post

How're you this morning? Got any weird dream you wanna share?

Acidosis:





How're you this morning? Got any weird dream you wanna share?

I'm blessed and highly favoured this morning... No weird dream to share...just came back from gym few minutes ago
How's your weekend going by the way?

Mznaett:


I'm blessed and highly favoured this morning... No weird dream to share...just came back from gym few minutes ago
How's your weekend going by the way?

ahh, you gym?

Cool sha


It's been a busy day here.. heading to Oshodi

Acidosis:


ahh, you gym?

Cool sha


It's been a busy day here.. heading to Oshodi

Yes,I do
Don't you?

Eyah! enjoy your weekend sha

Mznaett:

Yes,I do Don't you?
Eyah! enjoy your weekend sha

Naah I don't
I like my tiny arms


Enjoy the rest of your day okay

Acidosis:
Naah I don't
I like my tiny arms


Enjoy the rest of your day okay

One can only imagine how your arms are kikikiki
Ok dear and you too

krauss:
Churches should also preach against these things. I am always impressed with pastors who take their time to talk to people about these things. Kids are very special and delicate gifts who should be handled with great caution. Why use cuss words on your kids? Why tell them how stupid they are? Perhaps, people are not taking these things seriously and for sure, it is not restricted to Africa. Naturally, those parents are even abusive to themselves. I know of friends who are like that( abusive) to their kids and even to themselves. WORDS CAN HURT AND IT SEEMS WE NEGLECT THEIR IMPACT ON PEOPLE. ABUSE MUST NOT BE PHYSICAL BEFORE IT CAN BE SAID TO KILL. PEOPLE HAVE COMMITTED SUICIDE BECAUSE OF WHAT THEY WERE TOLD.

you can say that again.some few years back I had cause or reason to go back to my alma matter to pick up my certificate and while passing through lecturers office around the corridor area I saw an elderly man in his late 60s and an elderly woman in her early or mid 60s,both looking stressed but the woman's face was showing stress,anxiety and fear all over her face.they were obviously parents of an undergraduate kid and the elderly man was walking from behind and the mama was in front,if you see the way this man was cursing at the wife in public without a care in the world where students and lecturers were passing by I felt sorry for the woman and her kids and the hell the kids will be experiencing at home.I was really very surprised because everyone's attention was drawn towards them but since it's an academic environment everyone minded their buisness.as they were both walking briskly the man was shouting at the top of his voice useless woman tobimo oshi,look at the disgrace you have brought upon yourself.where is that your stoopeed son.in my mind I was like ahannnn.kiloletoyen.see how these grandparents are washing their dirty linen in public and I was wondering by this is just wife o.only God knows the emotional and verbal abuse all the kids would have been experiencing

Most of these parent or guardian make sure their children/ward are totally dependant on them so that they won't have the gut to leave them.my experience was with my aunt,at age six i started staying with her because my parent where not responsible.That woman i think is next to the devil himself,i face physical abuse,emotion disarray,spiritual starvation(church is a no! no!)expect once in a blue moon,it is a very long story that i can't pen down.at age 7 she almost broke my spinal cord because i spill the beer she was drinking while i was trying to sweep.She as never being married she jump 4rm one man to anoda,my life was hell on earth.Up till today i have serious trust issues,i have overcome inferiority attribute because of my husband & God.She wished me dead to my face at a point in my life.The heart of man is wicked,a person without God cannot show genuine love to others.the members of our household are our worst enemies that is true to me...

Nigerian parents can be toxic for sure. If you feel like if its gotten really bad you may need to create space from them. https://ochisoul.com/2020/02/17/deal-with-toxic-african-family/

An0nimus:
Please do not do anything rash. Don't even nurse the thought, nurse it and you may just do it someday. As long as your parents foot the bills, there's nothing much you can do than endure. When you start making money, you can rent an apartment. Or get a job in another city. I know they'll try to fight it but you can't always stay at home. You'll leave it someday. For now look for distractions in other hobbies. Read a book, learn to code, anything that keeps you busy when at home. As much as you can, leave peacefuuly with your folks and avoid confrontations.

Please try not to hate them too, in their hearts, they probably believe what they're doing is for your own good.

You will survive.

No the unjust treatment is not actually for their own good. We should stop making excuses for toxic unstable parents. In other climes they will be charged with assault and abuse. But its Africa they can get away with. I know of a man that ruled his home with so much iron hand. After beating his kids he sends them out of his house and does not care if they show up or not. Eventually lost his daughters to pitiful emergency(cohabitation conditions) with men. And they died of differnt circumstances. The boys? Till date don't have anything to do with their father. The old man still thinks village people are after his family.
The parents should have choose to be monks and nuns instead of bringing kids to this world only to deprive them of their childhoop. Op watch how you start making a living and you dad starts a sudden friendship relationship with you as if he has been so nice all along.

If I were u I will start planning for my NYSC as this is one of d surest way to leave home
Some people misinterprete love in so many ways that they will even go as far as caging u so that ur future will not b harmed
U are already an adult start by contributing little for d upkeep of the house, am sure a little respect will start frm there

I love simple solutions to issues....move far away from them if you can afford it. So long as you keep staying with them, you would continue to have the 8year old freedom. Being this ridiculously harsh is how they learnt to be parents....so sorry about your predicament

krauss:
Guy no need painting this, I experienced bad things too but probably not as bad as that. Until we accept that this nonsense is happening in homes, things will never change. I have a friend whose dad was just terrible then. He even sent the very young sister out of the house for coming back by 7:00pm from church( I am 100% sure she was from the church) because she returned late. A church very close to their house. People can really be very abusive and like he says toxic. That environment isn't good even to people's confidence. Until I confronted my father with these things, he didn't change. Look at it properly, its either his father's background or frustrations that is causing all these. These are his personal issues which he shouldn't unleash on his kids.

A friend just confronted his at 37 after I forced him to be a man and do it. The man is emotionally abusive and toxic. He rallied my friends siblings against him and made him look bad. In a him vs others setting in the family. And this guy happens to be the first born.

The man go dey demand say make our guy dey worship am and treat him like God sake of say he send am go school and did wedding.

I have never seen a toxic person like him.

After the guy text him and told him he is a toxic parent. He replied with how he did bla bla blah for him, sent him to school, fed him, born him, gave him a car. And ended by laying curses upon curses even on his grandchildren.
Such a terrible person.
I told my guy to lock up and avoid them altogether. At least he has confronted his fears and he will think twice before being toxic next time.

Make money bro, make money
i was in the same situation too
i had to gain admission into university by all means to escape their bulliness and as a result i didn't graduate well
but immediately i got a job and started earning, my folks became angels all of a sudden, praying for me everytime
i am almost 30 and i don't have a partner, this is as a result of my teenage introverted nature.
try and leave the house as fast as possible