Hi to all Romancelanders, please I need your views/help, whatever you call it. There's this lady I've been dating for less than two years, I love her so much and she knows it. Things were fine between us (on my part sha) until sometimes last year when she called, only to tell me she cheated on me and had sex with one guy. Honestly at first, I wasn't angry or mad as it didn't strike me so hard I guess. But it later got to me and I felt so mad, angry cos I have NEVER cheated on this girl, not even with a kiss or hug with another lady just for you guys to know how much I respect, love and committed myself to her. I was very mad but she begged and condemned herself, regretting what she did. I told her I've forgiven her and I really want to but I later realised I haven't cos I still remember everything and it makes me more angry and it's very hurtful. I don't knw if I can ever forgive her, she broke my heart and betrayed my trust. I feel so betrayed. I want to call it quit but she said she may kill herself if I leave her but I can't say it's just mere talk as I've heard of people do crazier things besides, I don't want to have a conscience of someone that died cos of me. Now, I'm just confused, how do I completely forgive and forget she ever cheated me. Someone said I'm being emotionally blackmailed. When I look at her, I feel so hurt and can't just imagine she could do that to me. I don't trust her anymore and the love has obviously reduced. Please what do I do and how do I deal with this situation?

Thanks to everyone that contributed, your inputs are very much appreciated. One luv guys.

eleyi gidigan o, lemme wait for the elders in council

#positivevibes

Ok

God forgives, I don't.

She will kill herself if u leave?? But when she was cheating she didn't think of u abi, issoryt.

Emotional blackmail shaa
Bros, if u wanna call it quits, mehn, do wah u gotta do, if someone really loves u, dey will never cheat,
Don't let someone 'blackmail' u with the "I'll kee myself" speech. That's all bollocks

Anyways, if u stil want her back, u just gonna learn how to forgive and forget bruv

She should kill herself then....

If you can't deal with a partner who cheated then move on.

Is not by force, she won't kill herself and like AlexCk said, she's emotionally blackmailing you.

Topics similiar to this are much these days..get advice from the one you get hold of!

dimexy247:
Hi to all Romancelanders, please I need your views/help, whatever you call it. There's this lady I've been dating for less than two years, I love her so much and she knows it. Things were fine until sometime last year when she called me only to tell me she cheated on me and had sex with one guy. Honestly at first, I wasn't angry or mad as it didn't strike me so hard I guess. But later it got to me and I felt so mad, angry cos I have never cheated on this girl, not even with a kiss or hug with another lady just for you guys to know how much I respect, love and committed myself to her. I was very mad but she begged and condemned herself, regretting what she did. I told her I've forgiven her and I really want to but I later I haven't cos I still remember everything and it makes me more angry. I don't knw if I can ever forgive her, she broke my heart and betrayed my trust.I want to call it quit but she said she may kill herself if I leave her and I can't say it's just mere talk, besides, I don't want to have a conscience of someone that died cos of me. Now, I'm just confused, how do I completely forgive and forget she ever cheated me. When I look at her, I feel so hurt and can't just imagine she could do that to me. I don't trust her anymore and the love has obviously reduced. Pls what do I do and hw do I deal with this situation

Follow your instincts

By forgiving and forgetting

AlexCk:
She will kill herself if u leave?? But when she was cheating she didn't think of u abi, issoryt.

Emotional blackmail shaa
Bros, if u wanna call it quits, mehn, do wah u gotta do, if someone really loves u, dey will never cheat,
Don't let someone 'blackmail' u with the "I'll kee myself" speech. That's all bollocks

Anyways, if u stil want her back, u just gonna learn how to forgive and forget bruv

Thanks for this piece man. God bless you

Benita27:
If you can't deal with a partner who cheated then move on.

Is not by force, she won't kill herself and like AlexCk said, she's emotionally blackmailing you.

Thanks sis

Most people who say they're going to kill themselves if you leave them are lying. She hurt you so why hell are u still with her? She's the one who hurt you and yet she's the one who's calling the shots? Lol she betrayed your trust, so there's only one thing you can do. Leave her. If you stick around, you'll never get healed. You can't be around toxic people. Sit her down and tell her calmly that it's over... If she threatens you, walk away. My friend has been in this situation before and it's not healthy.

SINZ:
God forgives, I don't.

in order words, retaliation is a must.

That lady self

People cheat for different reasons.


Did you ask her why she cheated on you?


If you know why she cheated, then you will know how to forgive her.

HayatH:
Most people who say they're going to kill themselves if you leave them are lying. She hurt you so why hell are u still with her? She's the one who hurt you and yet she's the one who's calling the shots? Lol she betrayed your trust, so there's only one thing you can do. Leave her. If you stick around, you'll never get healed. You can't be around toxic people. Sit her down and tell her calmly that it's over... If she threatens you, walk away. My friend has been in this situation before and it's not healthy.

Thank you so much

ToriBlue:
People cheat for different reasons.


Did you ask her why she cheated on you?


If you know why she cheated, then you will know how to forgive her.

Good question you asked, first of all, I believe NO reasons and/or excuses is justifiable as to why people cheat in a relationship, which is why communication is very important in a relationship and whe I asked her why she cheated, all she said was "it's was a great mistake" which is the anthem people sings whenever they do something bad.
Thanks for ur input though.

SINZ:
God forgives, I don't.

Rozay ma nigguh! You're awake bruh #ThumbsUp

LePrezident:

Rozay ma nigguh! You're awake bruh #ThumbsUp

#Bawse!

ToriBlue:
People cheat for different reasons.


Did you ask her why she cheated on you?


If you know why she cheated, then you will know how to forgive her.

Errrmm, out of pure curiosity ma'am, why did you?