kingreign:

Have you heard about proper marriage counselling, and trying to please a partner so as to win back his heart/interest?

Shortyy:

Abi o.. Anyways, regardless if it was just secxchat, I'll advice them to go for counselling, but if he actually cheated? She should just leave. A cheating man doesn't deserve any sort of pity.

Strahovski1:


His interest? Let me ask you a question.

A man points a gun at you, do you run and call the police or try to disarm the man OR wait, and say '..he has not shot me yet'.?

What would you do? Tell me in truth.

Its the same case here. Her life is already threatened as there is a possible STD coming if she remains in such marriage as such a man would continue. So she should wait and say "..I'm not infected yet." Right?

Shortyy:
SMH. Your wife is there with you and you're sexchatting with another woman. Odiegwu o! Some men sha.
Anyways If all he did was sexchat and didn't actually sleep with another woman, I'll advice they go for counselling. The wife might be denying him of his husband duties..

kingreign:
For the records, lemme get this straight.
I don't encourage infidelity, I do not encourage divorce. Its against what I stand for and what my belief system is.
That said, your analogy makes no sense to me cos they're different scenarios. A man who flirts, sex chats and do e-adultry has committed adultery in his heart already and is planning on how to perfect the act (if he hasn't already) this we all know. Bt, a lot of guys maysex chat without even starting to commit physical adultery/fornication which then crescents into the real deal.
My disagreement here with you is:
1. You make it sound as if he has already been cheating by way of having sexual contact with the ladies he sexchat with, which maybe right or wrong.
2. You just advocated for a break down of another person's home, without giving a second trial as to trying to even save the situation.
3. You don't care if the woman in the picture is at fault remotely or directly. (May I remind you, only few insane men would cheat on their wives even if their wives acts satisfies them sexually).
4. There's a lot to this issue than what is reported. We've got to hear from the couple before we throw away the bath water with the baby inside.

hopeforcharles:

Thank you. There many are many angles this issue could be looked at not out rightly divorce like this
Strahovski1 guy is chanting i wonder if he is truly married, if they divorce now will u marry her Strahovski1? Its not right to divorce now.

Jacksparr0w127:
The chances of him getting STIs is 99:1. Trust me

Strahovski1:


What if he is sleeping with women outside? Yes what if? A big if? Is it worth the gamble?

I'm trying to save her and her child.

hopeforcharles:

If actually he has done the sex, and besides do u know if he protects himself, you all calling for divorce divorce divorce watch it lest u brake a family, if she divorce the guy will you guys marry her?.

Strahovski1:
Here we are again...

What you are saying is that someone playing with a gun who isn't a police offer is not a criminal until he is caught shooting someone? That's your point.

He is sex chatting! Why?
Someone who sex chat is obviously doing the act outside. #Fact

The woman isn't at fault. She is the victim here. Go tell a robbery victim it's his fault for leaving his door open. What's wrong is wrong and should not be accepted.

kimbra:
A man who wants to cheat would do so. She needn't deny him sex for such to happen...some of them are "Dogs".

naijaboiy:

A man who would cheat would cheat but starving your man of sex can also lead him to make such decisions.

Before any partner wants to lay complaint he/she should check their past actions if it is connected to why their partner is behaving in such manner.

Regardless, everyone is expected to take responsibilities for their actions no doubt, but we just have to put it in mind that sometimes we push people to do what they ordinarily wouldn't do by our actions and we wouldn't even know.

So, Oga is wrong for sex chatting but whether that's enough reason for divorce is what I'm skeptical about.

kimbra:
You're right, good people snap. But if his wife pushed him to it either by sex-starve or constant nagging and it only ended as a sex chat then she should reconsider and rule divorce off.

She can't be strongly advocating for divorce if it ended as a sex chat, perhaps she's holding back on some information.

Michellla:
Who knows if he has been banging other women and not just sexchat?

kingreign:

A woman may consciously be at fault if she denies him sexual encounters.
She may be unconsciously at fault if she don't keep her self neat and have a high level of personal hygiene and dress well and do all the pre-intimacy acts before the main course of sex, if she gets tired easily and complains during/about his sexual acts, if she acts like a slab during the exercise, if she does not entice him with her dressings. This and lot more could derail a mans sexual appetite in his wife and ignite a fire for another strange woman.
I'd suggest the woman sits down with her husband ask hm what his challenges are and where she erred if any. Call in a marriage counsellor (who counselled them before marriage) and sort this out.

For you advocating for divorce in marriage shows you may not be married or even be a marriage breaker.

Unfollows thread.

Modified, you're not Nigerian, you know nothing about Nigerian cultures, religion and marriages.

naijaboiy:

yea that's my point.

And it's actually going to be really hard to convince the courts to give her a divorce with just an evidence of sex chats.

A person does not just file for divorce and gets it on a platter. She actually has to prove that whatever is her motive for filing for divorce is actually a good reason and is irreconcilable for both parties.

In this case, cheating is. It's just the evidence that's not strong.

Adiwana:
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Ranting of a low life racist that can't take the heat in the kitchen or can't bring a superior argument to support his claims resorting to what he knows best,Tribe baiting. Who cares if he's Nigerian or nah.He gave his opinion on the matter and you gots to respect it.The OP didn't put Nigerian into the context and as such the situation should be treated as such.Not trying to play some stupid race card

Strahovski1:
Tell her to proceed on the divorce. Infact, help her pay the bills of the law suit

Modified
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To those saying it's not enough. I bet 80% of you are single and you have no idea indeed what contents are of marriage. Yes.

Marriage IS NOT a task! Neither is it some kind of Job or Project. It's not a do or die affair. It's a union where 2 happy people come together as 1. So your sister shouldn't be in such union as her happiness has been slain. Why live with a man knowing well, that he is sleeping with another woman? The thought of it alone can lead to depression. Let's be realistic.

Irrespective of how they sort it out and settle the dispute, the scar would always be there. When she see him making a call, she would be suspicious. If she see him greet a woman she would be suspicious. She would always have the thought that he is sleeping with other women though she may not express this. But she would never forget. And this is not good at all. So what is the point? Is it by force? Why live in depression especially when the woman he is chatting with looks better or sexier than she is.

So let her be.

P.s I'm a married man and yet, I don't encourage anyone to stay in a marriage where infidelity looms.

BoiledHead:


Guy ar u 4 real?

ShawttySoFyne:






Would you say this crap if the tables were turned?

BoiledHead:
My sister is about to put an end to her marriage in a very dangerous way. What happened?

She caught her husband sex chatting on whatsapp. She didn't even catch him physically sexing but chatting and she wants to put an end. Their son would be celebrating his 5 years birthday soon and is this the gift they wish to give the young chap?

I have tried my best to talk to her but I have no idea on how to go about this afterall, I'm single. She was like "what do you know about marriage?". The husband on the other hand hasn't taken my calls and he angrily left the house since 3 days.

Big bros and sis In the house, what advice can I give to my sister?

BoiledHead:
My sister is about to put an end to her marriage in a very dangerous way. What happened?

She caught her husband sex chatting on whatsapp. She didn't even catch him physically sexing but chatting and she wants to put an end. Their son would be celebrating his 5 years birthday soon and is this the gift they wish to give the young chap?

I have tried my best to talk to her but I have no idea on how to go about this afterall, I'm single. She was like "what do you know about marriage?". The husband on the other hand hasn't taken my calls and he angrily left the house since 3 days.

Big bros and sis In the house, what advice can I give to my sister?

kingreign:


Tell your sister, to find a good man is hard, really hard, really really hard.
If he handles his responsibilities well, the issue of sexchatting or flirting (which can be checked anyways) is a small thing. So she saw a tiny bit of wood in the cereals she's gonna throw away the whole grains?
She had better woke up to her responsibilities, get a damn internet enabled phone and sexchat him too, then fulfil all his sexual fantacies when they meet in private.

Freewoman:
If this is true, you have nothing to do here, reason been that both knows the best, sometimes you allow things to happen so that things should be fix, no marriage without challenges even more serious than this, let them fix it themselves, yes, themselves, .....please let the woman know too well that if she backs off another packs in,men are not ready for commitment now............. Many girls are waiting on her to go so that they will enter, plus, including me or her unmarried best friends oooooooooooh