Hello,

Ok I have this boyfriend(ex) who i love but these are his problems. He has cheated and i still feel he might cheat if we get married and i also have this guy whom i met, that is God fearing, a gentleman and seems like he would make a very good man but no connection or attraction as such. i would rather be with my ex/bf than him. i feel like i have to force myself to get attracted to him both physically, sexually and emotionally. Am i making a huge mistake?

Also this ex of mine happened to be much older, about 15 yrs older than i am, do you think if we eventually get married that such marriage would work?

Congrats. You've solved your puzzle. To quote you "i would rather be with my ex/bf than him. i feel like i have to force myself to get attracted to him both physically, sexually and emotionally".

How did i solve the puzzle? i meant that if i am to pick one i enjoy being with and so used to, it would be my (ex) bf but looking at the long run, i know the other gentleman if i was to pick or anything in terms of being good would be better

As regards the topic, NEVER!!!

i have this to say to u. if ur ex can afford to cheat now, how much more in the long run? itz beta u go to where u wl b celebrated than tolorated. do this by summoning a positive mindset, that way u can accept this new guy 4 the good things about him. life is much more than the things we see on tv/movies. sometimes it wl have to take us(you) 4 smthings to workout. how are you sure the next guy u will be so attracted to or more so in love with will not be forcing himself to even like you. just find out what makes you want to FORCE urseif to be attracted to,love or like a person and just love him 4 it. with this, i think the answer to ur question is yes.

its true.go to where u will be celebrated than tolerated

Seriously it doesn't work, i've tried to force attraction and it sucks, there are better ways to create attraction without forcing it,